My wife will probably kill me for being so honest, but here it go's...

About a month ago my good friend Lady Luck, another gifted hubber, called me a "cheating ass." Although it was said in good fun, but it got me thinking. What came to mind was, the choices that each of us make. That's what life is really about...choices. Good ones and bad ones. And with choices , comes responsibility and living with those choices. As a man, I wont lie everyday I am tempted, but its the willpower and the wisdom to say "hey this is not worth it" and if you read that hub about cheating, no piece of ass is worth going through that again. But then you lie to yourself and say flirting is OK....well its not. Flirting is playing around until the right moment comes around. Remember, everything is about timing. Yes ladies your man to, if he is in the right situation, he will cheat on you, especially if he thinks he will get away with it.

It is a fact that I have cheated, probably more then others. But no matter how much I may change for the better, the fact remains that I did, and that will be my label....a cheater. Personally I really don't care, but when you do something wrong, or immoral, its like wearing a scarlet letter. I heard on a movie once "things we do in this life will echo and eternity." I believe that, and so far in my life I haven't done too much that I want echoed.

This sentence "life is about choices", gives me goose bumps because now that I'm older, and little seasoned, that life is not a joke...its short lived. As young men and women we make mistakes, that's apart of growing up. But to keep making the same dumb ass mistakes is just stupid. My ex's would probably say I ain't worth shit, or past mistresses would say I'm a good man. All in all 40 years from now, what I did with these women wont mean a damn thing...that's even if I remember them at all. Ladies I was never a dawg. I was only a young man who loved a variety of women, which each of them served a purpose. Believe it or not, today I don't cheat. At my job, women flirt, but I have made a choice to keep my friend where he should be. I've seen, and done too much, and it all wasn't good. A man cheating is nothing more then a kid in a candy store. He wants to taste it all until he gets sick. Basically cheating is just being greedy. But some of these women who cheat with men are dumb ass hell. They want a real relationship. WOW, are you serious!? I hate to say it, but I never took any of these women seriously. To me, we has an understanding, or an arrangement. Today,things are too complicated, especially with one of them start catching feelings. Then you have "thin line between love and hate" on your hands. Which is my favorite movie LOL.

I wont lie, some old habits are still there. For example, I like to observe women, figure them out, learning what makes them tick....its a sexy thing. My older brother used to tell me "Jay, every woman has a formula, its up to you to find out which formula to use." Then there was my Grandfather, who used to say " if you can make a woman laugh, you can have that woman." As you can see I was raised a certain way, and charm is a good quality of mine. My wife is a beautiful woman. I saw her, and went and got her....period. But love can change a man. You can only play the game so long ya know?

But to a woman that thinks she's to fine or beautiful, there's an old saying. "show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you a man who's tired of fucking her..." good point.