Oh WOW!!! This is actually very simple. The lack of self confidence. That is it.

I have heard many times in my life from partners about how many times other women looked at them that day. How about watching as they are trying to catch the eyes of the cute girl walking by in the mall. Lack of self confidence. My favorite saying from my "ex" boyfriend was, "I didn't realize how good looking I am to women." Oh my , my. What the heck am I, I know I am a women.

If there are cheaters reading this or you have a cheater in your life who you really think can be re-hab'ed, I have a wonderful exercise.

First: think about it, if we put you in a room with 100 of the opposite sex, only about 25 would think you are worth talking to. About 15 of those would want you because they think you are good-looking, but they won't after they find out you are a cheater. Then 9 of them would want you for some kind of monetary value and probably drop you after awhile because they are also cheating. Whats that leave, 1. Who is that, that's your loving and caring significant other at home. Now, do you think after all the effort you put into lying, cheating, conniving, and making them feel like they have done something wrong they are gonna stay with you. They might try at first, but realize it is way to much work, and the darnedest thing is you are not worth the headache.

So try this next time you get all aroused and feel complimented someone is paying attention to you. When someone approaches you and wants to flirt, start telling them about the reason you can't put yourself in such a vulnerable position. What is that reason?? Your significant other at home. Tell them about the love you have for them, tell them about the things you do together, tell them "NO" very firmly. Reiterate it if you have to. When you are done with this conversation you will be beaming inside with respect for yourself and your partner. The more times this situation comes up and you repeat this, your confidence, your love, and your self worth will grow so you can be that caring, loving partner to the one at home. Also, instead of noticing who is looking at you let your partner know who is looking at them, this will make them proud of themselves and allow you to realize just how lucky you are.

I hope this helps someone, it has helped many of my friends.

Thanks for listening.