What can society do to lessen the victimization of divorce in America?  That question is just as parallel as a student trying to dodge a teacher so that he do  not fail a test. 

There is just too much subjective notions in play to get a fixed set of rules to prevent divorce.  Just as the teacher may be unreasonably strick with a grading system that the students do not like, sometimes people enter marriage that are destined to fail.  The statement is heavy laden with truth statiscally showing the divorce rate  well over 50% nationwide.

At one time in American's history people would stay married even when the feelings failed and the chemistry had gone.  Americans use to loathe divorce and courts started making it difficult to get a divorce.  The courts and some of them still do, tell the couple that they must separate a year before the divorce as if counseling them with the time factor may get them back together. 

Not any more;  nowadays once the chemistry goes or the happiness fades, couples are hightailing it out of failed marriages to either live alone or to seek someone who can feel the empty void with happiness.  But relationships that do not work is not a surprise to the couples involved.  One of them or both of them knows that something is just not right between the two of them but until one finds a new partner or just can not accept continuing to live a lie, one of  them make the request for a divorce.

Society does not have the tools in place to save or fix marriages except through counseling and that ridiculous one year separation rule hoping that the couple get back together through court action.  There is a subject that most people do not like to discuss that can be a good deterent to divorce and that is religion.  Most churches in today's society have couples to counsel with the pastors or preachers before marriage so that they are aware of what they are getting into.  Many of American youths do not want to get married because they do not want to end up getting a divorce.  The scenario is like going back to the teacher and the student who is having a difficult time getting a good grade because of her method of teaching.  Most students are forewarned if the college course is being taught by another teacher and decide to simply change teachers.  The student avoids the unreasonable teacher like some young people are avoiding marriage because they do not want to get divorce.  It makes sense to them not to get married so that they do not have to get a divorce. They look at marriage as inevitable to divorce so some people are simply avoiding the former.

If children are involved in the divorce  settlement , the breaking of tides is quite different both as it relates to the couple and the children.  Courts try to simplify settlements and make a fair time allotment between both parents and children but the damage would have already been done.  Reports have consistently proven that children of divorced parents usually get a divorce too once they enter the institution of marriage,  To prevent children from being a part of the now present revolving door of marriage and divorce when the couple may have been married for a number of years, is professional counseling.  The children involved probably thinks that it is not feasible for their mother and father to break up as most kids look for a home that is not divided.  Every relationship in marriage or otherwise is different and caution must be taken that the right decision is made for all involved. 

The liason of a professional counselor is the go-to person to help two people decide the right course to take considering all the subjective factors involved in the relationship before making the decision to divorce.