CAN YOU REBUILD A RELATIONSHIP AFTER INFEDELITY

 Saving a marriage takes dedication and much effort. Couples find that after cheating has occurred that they have some unresolved issues neither one of them knew about. This usually will bring them closer together because if they love each other they truly see the pain in each others heart.

 The following things need to be considered as you make your decision to rebuild your relationship. Try to put away those ill feelings you have because of the cheating and reflect on the relationship as a whole. Consider the love within the relationship and if it’s strong enough to overcome this situation.

 You also want to consider the fact that everyone makes mistakes ,and the important thing in a relationship is to get through these storms that come upon them .Not everyone decision is good for everyone, so it takes the two individuals to weigh out their possibilities and make a decision that’s best for them.

 The one good thing that comes out of this situation is that both can reflect on issues they may have ignored in the past. Hopefully these issues can be addressed at the time and it can/will strengthen the communication in their relationship.

POINTS THE GUILTY PERSON SHOULD CONSIDER

 As the saying goes ”honesty is the best policy”. To begin the healing process and the rebuilding of the relationship, the cheater must be completely honest. Honest about why, with whom and their true feelings about the infidelity. This makes the one being cheated on feel pain and anger but it will eventually help them ease their minds about what they were thinking about the affair.

The cheater needs to also figure out what made them cheat in the first place. This needs to be discussed with their mate so that they can figure out how to fix that particular problem. Not only will this help open up the gates of communication but it will also help in preventing this from happening again.

 Show that you are sincerely sorry and act the part. You must be sincere about the desire to heal the broken heart of the person you hurt. the pain you caused your partner .You can prove your sincerity by given in to your partners request for reassurance. . For instance, they may want you to let them know exactly where your going, who your with and what time you will return. This should be expected and granted because of the trust issue.

POINTS THE BETRAYED SHOULD CONSIDER

 Don’t be afraid to ask for whatever it is you need to feel better about the situation to help make you feel better.

  Spend time together that does not remind you of the infidelity . Go to a movie, out to eat, do whatever it takes to rekindle those old feelings that were once there which brought you two closer.

 You both have to have the determination to rebuild ,but the person who was cheated on must make the choice to forgive.