Can You Trust Your Husband?
75No Trust: No Relationship
Over the years, over so many tea party's, at so many beauty parlours, a recurring debate amongst wives has been the issue of trust as it affects both guilty and innocent husbands. Can and should we trust our husband is a song on the lips of so many concerned wives. Hey, for good reason too, if you ask me.
With the alarming rate at which marriages are crashing these days...is it a wonder? Every right thinking wife has to be genuinely concerned. Our global societies have run amork with increasing and shocking levels of decadence. Promiscuity is rife, sex abuse is rampant, drug use is prevalent, same sex marriage(ooops, this is just my personal opinion) is now a norm....on and on and endlessly.
Take heart wives, the worst has not and will not hit your homes if you learn to Trust and Obey!
The One who keeps Israel never sleeps nor slumbers! (wow did I just write that)? So even as we (by we i mean wives) commit our homes to Gods care, we must learn to do our part. Learn to Trust your husbands.
Treat him like a king....everyman loves to be pampered and dotted on.
Respect him....he deserves it. His thoughts and opinions count a great deal.
Understand his pressures...he goes through a lot to put bread on that table!!
Support him...be there for him; listen to his plans, problems,and prospects.
Talk with him...not tohim. His mother did that all his life!!!!
When most wives cultivate this simple method of trust in their marriages, it doesn't matter what anyone out there says about their husbands fidelity....he's coming straight home to you...because he knows you TRUST him!!!!
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Thanks for agreeing,i believe so too. It's actually the most vital ingredient...I guess.
Soyelude,
This is a well written hub. While I certainly agree with these points, I must ad that marriage is a two way street and this trust and treatment you mention is not always reciprocated. As a survivor of divorce for this reason, I know from experience that no matter how well you treat someone nor how much you prove you can be trusted, if that same respect is not returned, the relationship is still doomed.
Many times, society assumes that when a man strays from his wife that it is somehow her fault. Yet, when a woman strays, she is looked down upon as trash. While I realize that opinions and beliefs differ from one culture to another,, it just seems common sense to me that if you "both" trust each other and "both" respect each other, things will work a lot better than if a wife just "exisists" in a marriage to please her husband.
Love is a two way street and no matter how much you love someone, if they do not return that respect, love and trust, it is possible to kill that love as well as the relationship.
You bring out some excellent advice in this hub! It just needs to be directed at both sides, rather than just one.
Bonnie Ramsey
Thanks for the comment Bonnie,pls note that in a previous hub "Never,ever get married" I mentioned the male angle,so I thought to balance it. Thanks Bonnie for the incisive input,its quite good.
Trust and OBEY....
I'm staying single LOL
I have been lucky enough to always meet men who are completely honest with me and I give that back too. Trust definitely is important
OMG is that right soyelude King? bread on the table...In what perfect lifetime are you refering to my dear? Agreed that TRUST IS A MUST, TALKING WITH SOMEONE NOT TO THEM, AND BEING FAIR IS FINE AND NECESSARY..But what makes you think women don't like to be pampered and doted upon. It is a 2-way street no matter what. and though your other hubs refered to this,,,somehow this one charged me up...Love you anyway...G-Ma :o)hugs
Thanks for the comments G-ma. Not by any means trying to be chauvnistic...sorry you got charged up. Indeed, it is a two way street...love you trillions.
oh am sorry soyelude...didn't mean to attack
you...you are a fine person with a sweet caring mind..KING? G-Ma :O) hugs
I always have been there for my husband then one day he said its a two way street. wow, trust weres that.... 18 years later
Very good hub! Trust is a major factor when it comes to relationships. I am so glad that you emphasized about talking TO him and not at him. Growing up in a family with all brothers, I cant tell you how important this is. I always take that advice for my own relationships, men DO not like to be talked AT.. as you stated.. THEIR MOTHER DID THAT!
Great information! I definitely give this one a thumbs up!
I should get my wife to read your hub... :)
Thank you Kay Kerns and Junjie pls stop by again.
Trust is key to any relationship but in this age of AIDS and free sex it is getting more and more difficult to do so.
I wish it was as easy said as you put it. If a man strays it is their right and they should be forgiven but for a woman it is betrayal!
To answer your ode NO WE CAN"T TRUST OUR HUSBANDS!
Hi Mariane...but you can at least try!
I'm so agree with G-MA Johnson..God created woman with all sensivity, emotianally vulnerable hart. For all women husband is always their everything. Even they don't always treated their husband like a 'KING', doesn't mean that they didn't care or take for granted. Sometimes all the bad element form outside makes women feels so unsecure, and they tend to pressure their husband but actually they are hoping that man can make lessen their fears.. but somehow man feel women are always suspicious for nothing ..Mr Soleyude..I agree TRUST is always key to a great relationship but mutual understanding to each other also important because women always need their husband attention..they are only pillar of women's strength
Oh yes i do agree....but sometimes i believe the woman cannot and should not give up on trust. Thanks for the comments narnia...quite instructive too.
What happens when you do all that, yet they still lie to you about things?
Everyday is a battle for both parties Men & Women, trust varies with your situation, their all different. In alot of mens minds women are to be home bodies, cook, clean etc. in womens minds men are to work and come home, but isn't that a little silly? This is why our minds ponder on what if's and why's. It is Natural to mistrust in ways of why fabricate the littlest things? I once heard someone say "If you don't take care of your man someone else will" but what if you did do what you were supposed to do and you still mistrust? Your instincts are there for a reason, we all don't wake up one day and say I think he's being unfaithful, NO, something put that instinct there. I'm to the point that if your significant other strays then so be it, in the end if that person couldn;t be honest &faithful to the person that treated him like a "KING" then someone is going to come along and do the same thing to him/her and in the long run it will be a long hard, lonely road for the Dethroned King"
What is your husband lies about everything? I think I am actually falling out of love with him because I can't believe anything he says. He eventually fees up when I have "proof" but now whenever we talk I just stop asking because what's the point of putting any energy in when months from now- he's going to tell me the "truth." I'm tired to living like this and I guess I'm trying to figure out how to move on from him. He also puts his parents first and lets his father disrepect me and control him. I had to stop speaking with his father because he tried to start controlling my life and thoughts and my husband didn't stop it. He continues to have a relationship with them and ignores my feelings.
Well i suppose there are no clear-cut answers as people do differ. Anyhow since it cuts both ways i always believe both parties can talk it over...otherwise......
Hello Soyelude, Your right, and that would be the thing I would do if you have a man who was loving and kind. I would give him the world if I could. When you have a man you know you can't trust, what do you do? I am not talking about another woman here, its my heart I talking about. My husband is constantly upset and likes to point the finger of blame at me. He gone as far as to bad mouth me to his family. I was so hurt by this and now I don't go to family functions (Holidays) because of it. He goes without me because it is his family. My family is passed or scattered all over. I went to therapy for years to clear my head, he refuses to believe he is part of the problem. It is not right when he continuely puts me down and calls me names! My heart is so broken because I love this man. If we were to go our separate ways he would still be the way he is, I would move on because I came to terms with my issues and lived on my own before, he hasn't yet. I pray he find peace whether with or without me.
Wow!! I can't believe some of the stuff in this hub. But, then again, I should be sensitive to some of the people out there who really value their marriages and trust one another.
I'm all for love and trust, even catering to a certain extent...well I should say I used to be that way.
My husband has betrayed my trust and he will NEVER get it back. Sad, but true. It's pretty much a done deal. But, any of you out there who still love and trust your husband, more power to you. By all means, make a copy of this hub and hang it on your fridge!!!
Asian Latte
Another thumbs artice. Thanks for sharing. Trust is so important!
I strongly believe that marrying a God fearing husband is the best so that you can always trust each other.
so when you trust your husband with your all, and obey and give of yourself in a marriage and he still cheats on you what do i do then, he said he made mistakes still i dont know any of his friends (never met not one person he knows) hes staying with some guy he works with renting a room from him, i dont even know the friend or where he lives, he says he is just working late seven days a week, we've been separated for nine months and we still dont talk because now he says he can open up, he wants to work it out but hes never around to talk or work anything out, he says what he did is in the past and theres no need to talk about it or ever bring it up because we cant change the past, so he did what he did, got away with it, is happy about it and can continue to do it whenever he pleases and im suppose to stay with him continuing to trust and obey him? not sure what to do, i believe in God and thats my dilema, im trying to hear God's voice as to what i should do. guess he should move back in and keep doing what ever hes doing and i just keep on trustin and obeying asking no questions just letting him have the run of the world as i sit by trusting and obeying.
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2 years ago
Great Hub, I agree that TRUST plays a big part in a relationships long lasting success.