Proud To Be A Mom

I've been a Mom for 23 years. My son was born in July 1986. I remember the day just like it was yesterday. It was the best part of my life of what God had gave me. The day I brought him home, I thought it was the greatest thing I had ever established in my life. I remember looking at him and saying, you have gave me a new life. And today he is still my life, my best friend and my son. I am as proud of him as I was the day he was born. Each birthday that he got older, it was my joy. I raised him to the best that I knew how. I was married to his dad for a short time. My son was 14 months old when we divorced. Things that I went thur just to make sure he had food, clothes on his back. No It wasn't easy. And no one ever told me it would be. I remarried when he was 6 or 7 years old. My husband at that time adopted my son. The first 5 years of that marriage was ok. My son and I had everything we wanted and more. Family, finance was great, nice home to live in. Then I realized it wasn't really what I want in life. You had to have LOVE in your heart somewhere. Material things are not everything. He was a little younger than I was and drinked alot. He was a good person when he was sober. But when he got to drinking it was so much of a change. We would fuss and fight in front of my son. I lived in it for 10 years. When I finally decided to divorce him, my life and my sons life went to hell. At this time my son was playing football, baseball, and wrestling, and had been playing every since he was able to play at the age of 5. He was in high school when I finally decide to leave. It was hard to come out on your own and especially when you had everything you could ask for. I thought at times my life was over. And I remember my son telling me, Mom it is going to be fine. I'm here. I knew at that time my son wasn't only my son, he was my best friend. Within a year we went thur alot. Our house burned down, I got a divorce, I lost my job and if it could happen, it did. All I could do was pray and try to have gas just to go see my son play ball or wrestle. Times did get hard but with my faith in God and well power. I made it thur it. I'm now married to a great guy. He is my world. When I meet him, one thing that stands out in my mind is I didn't even have the money to put my son in wrestling that year. My husband paid for it. He has children and he knew what it was to be a father. By this time my son was 14 in high school. We had rough times, just like anyone else would. I stood up for my son just like any mother would. I gave and gave to my son. My husband and my son got along a big part of their life together. It wasn't perfect. But we got thur it. I don't want you to think it was always perfect. because it wasn't. We went thur hard times with my son just like we have went thur hard times with my step daughter. But it didn't make them bad kids. They choose wrong paths also. But it was our job as a parent to get them back on the right track. One advice I want to give is DON'T EVER GIVE UP ON YOUR CHILDREN. Always, no matter what you go thur with them, always make sure they know you as a parent love them no matter what. Always remember there is help if you need it. There is counseling, classes, schools and your Bible, and the good Lord above that does listen.

My son is now 23 years old has a kid of his own. I look at him and I see alot of me raising him, while he is raising his daughter. If you have love in your heart for children and is willing to put your life on the line for your child or any child that may be in danger. You were born to be a MOM. I truly beleive that.

Children are not perfect, but neither was I. My parents will tell you that. No one is. You do the best you can in raising children. You have good times and bad times. They can be the best and they can be their worse. They have feelings just like you do. You can turn to your bible and read verses. That was something I did alot. Thur the bad times. You can pray. You can try and don't ever give up. Remember the old saying those who wait good things do come. Well I have a wonderful granddaughter now. I have wonderful daughter in law. My son and my daughter in law are great parents. They do work and they spend time with their daughter. I can't wait til she is old enough to start T-Ball or Cheerleading. The joy my children bring to me. My husband has 3 children a son and 2 daughters. I have another granddaughter and 2 grandsons. I treat them all the same. I'm very close to all of them. We have family Christmas always. It is my joy to see all of them together. My husband is a comedian, he keeps us all laughing. We can go anywhere and we are going to laugh. See I told you if you wait for something, your life will be at peace. My parents were great parents. I sometime wish I would of listen more. But I finally got it together. They were good to my brother and I and they did the best they could to raise us. They never gave up. You want ever understand that til you go thur it yourself. I tell my children that all the time. Don't ever give up and their is always a way to get thur anything God puts us thur. We have our health and our love for life and joy of our family. One thing my dad told me and I'll never forget it. If you don't have a friend in the world you will always have your family. There is not a book on How To Raise Your Children. It is all from your heart and the way that you were raised.

If you don't have children, try to adopt. The joy that they put in your heart. They break your heart also. Its not easy but there is a way to always get thur anything. Don't give up. Remember God don't put no more on us than we can handle. I

Love our children of the world. They are precious. There are abused children in the world. Always help the abuse. All they need is love and show them family tradition. They are our world. They are our future. There are alot of children in the world that need a friend and a life. Someone to show them a different path. Call your church in your community and reach out to help someone.