Romantic relationships don't all have fairytale like happily ever afters.With staggering figures of over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, it may appear that the only one's happy after are divorce attorneys.

One of the biggest relationship killers is insecurity, call it paranoia if you like.If this is the platform of your relationship then I'm afraid you are doomed to fail.The key to overcoming insecurity is good communication.If you know your partner well enough, you will grow to trust them and in doing so you will banish any insecurities, which will go along way to improving your relationship.

While I would'nt advise you to enter into a new relationship completely openly and trusting - this state of mind is naive maybe even a little foolish since you could end up hurt.A breech of this vulnerability and trust can reek havoc and damage to your psyche. However, is it also not very healthy to shut yourself off completely after having a past negative experience, shutting your self in is not conducive to leading into a long-term, intimate relationship.

There is no fool proof solution to insecurity.Most insecurities that stem from past experiences and unresolved emotional baggage that sometimes come from previous relationships or even your parents realtionship. Fear of rejection, fear of intimacy or fear of losing an identity are all factors that can play into the insecurities of one or both parties in a relationship.

HERES HOW TO KEEP INSECURITY AT BAY

#1 HAVE YOUR OWN INTERESTS

Nobody likes a hanger on, somebody who follows them everywhere and is in their face 24-7.If you have your interests, you will be so much more interesting and attractive to your partner, it is a sign of independence and character.Show them that you can hold your own and that you are not just a love sick puppy, this will go a long way to earning self respect.

#2 COMMUNICATION

You may find that communication is my answer to all relationship flaws, yes it is.If nothing goes unsaid then there is no need for insecurities to creep in.If you know your partner inside out, you will trust them and you will have a long and happy relationship.

#3 DON'T ALWAYS TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS

Friends are great but when it comes to relationships, they don't know exactly what goes on, so any opinions they give may be subjective and may do you your relationship more harm than good.Its best to speak directly to your partner.Don't speculate just get it off your chest.Don't accuse your partner of anything without valid proof.

4# GET EXPERT HELP

If you feel a little overwhelmed by your circumstances then decide if you need help from an expert.