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Can you fall in love with someone you have never met?

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By Shil1978


That's an interesting question; however, the answer to that question is not as apparent or straightforward. I can entirely see how you can fall in love with someone you've never met. If you are friends with someone on the Internet and chat with them on messenger programs, for example, you would know what I am talking about. Although, I haven't fallen in love with anyone personally, I have felt connected in some ways to people whom I have never met.

People generally get attracted to each other based on common ideas, common outlook towards life, common value systems, similar views on important issues. If you happen to know someone over the Internet, you can sometimes feel connected to other folks if your views match theirs. Also, you might like their sense of humor - that does come through no matter what the medium - speech or chat text. So, face-to-face contact isn't as essential in knowing the other person. Consequently, I would think you could theoretically fall in love with someone you've never met in person.

Loving Someone You Haven't Met - Living A Fantasy?

 

Assuming that a couple has met over the Internet or over the phone, the more interesting thing that I'd like to know would be - what would be their reaction when they do in fact meet in person for the first time. You may like their thoughts/views on various subjects and like the online person you've met, but what if the person turns out to be, well, not as attractive physically when you first meet them. Can you overlook that fact and love them the same way as you did before you met?

Even though most people say (to be politically correct than anything else) that outward beauty doesn't matter to them, generally most people value beauty in a potential partner. So, while it is possible that you can fall in love with someone you've never met in person, it is not as possible to predict whether you would in fact remain in love with that person - once you've met them - especially if that person turns out to be not as attractive (based on your standards of attractiveness).

Also, when you do in fact meet a person face-to-face, you may discover many things about him/her that you hadn't quite anticipated. Perhaps, he/she has some embarassing habits that you hadn't quite anticipated -- or perhaps he/she has some irritating quality that wasn't apparent to you before through his/her online persona. So, while you can fall in love with someone you've never met, whether you stay in love with that person is quite another matter.


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solacemoon  says:
10 months ago

I think it is possible to fall in love with someone over the internet you haven't met.Yes we all agree we are attracted to beauty but everyone sees beauty in a different way.Most of the time they have photos so you see what they look.I think you have to be honest in who you are or when the day comes to meet there will be dissapointment.You have to be yourself.

I think as we get to know a person over the internet providing they are honest we fall in love with their attributes we are attracted to their beauty whatever form of beauty that may be and I think that the love we feel in the begining could be considered philos love that has the posibilities of turning into an eros love.

Joanna  says:
3 months ago

I think.. I know its possible to fall in love with someone youve never met. I currently am in love with someone i havent met in person. We met over the internet over 5 years ago and talk almost every day via email or msn, as long as you can trust who they are and know their not some pedo freak. Everyone is entitled to love who they wish, i personally think falling in love with someone you havent met is a good thing, because it takes time to fall in love, you discover things about the other person which attract you more, when it finally comes to meeting that person you wont be inclined to take them for granted because you would have waited so long to meet them.

Annette  says:
2 months ago

I am going to find out tonight......if falling in love, and then meeting in that LIVE mode is possible.....

Marz  says:
9 days ago

It is possible to fall in love with the person you haven't met. I am married now to a man I met online. We met online 3 years ago and now we are happy than ever. I guess as long as you are honest to each other and as long as you trust one another, everything will be fine.

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