My boyfriend is really affectionate and sometimes overdoes the PDA. Its nothing too bad, just kisses, but its getting...
66PDA: AKA Public Display of Affection
Ahh the BF GF curse. What is it and why?
My opinion is this. PDA is POWER. It shows others that "This is MY possession". Plain and simple. It is exactly what it sounds like. A public display of emotion and some sexual gratification that states (specifically) that this is mine, hands off.
Now some have a slight or full attraction to voyeurism which is a whole new ball game. WIKI defines voyeurism as:
Voyeurism is a practice in which an individual derives sexual pleasure from observing other people. Such people may be engaged in sexual acts, or be nude or in underwear, or dressed in whatever other way the "voyeur" finds appealing. The word derives from French verb voir (to see) with the -eur suffix that translates as -er in English. A literal translation would then be "seer" or "observer", with pejorative connotations.
This may be the case but most likely your man is more interested in telling other men "SHE IS MINE" and telling other women "LOOK WHAT I CAN GET". This is the sign of a man that is overpowering, self induced, and more concerned with how he looks with you then how you look with him. He is self centered and demanding
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Gale
Try a little test on your man. Short, simple and evil, one might say. I call it the Jealousy test. Just out of sheer curiosity tell him that another man hit on you. Of course this is a lie, a white lie, but just see what his reaction is. If it is sweet like "That is because everyone knows you are a catch" then I will rescind my advice. If, however, he becomes angry, distraught or even the slightest bit unstable, then my friend you have a possessive and jealous boyfriend. Simple task. It is up to you, do or not, that is the test.
Very Respectfully,
The Captain
gale583 says:
2 years ago
Thank you for your response. This is something I've considered, however he is hardly a controlling person so I highly doubt it is so much of a possessive assertion than simply him asserting how much he loves me (he is a very idealistic, emotional person). I really regret how little the request spaces allow for explanation. Thank you again.