Why is it that some families, multicultural families in particular, celebrate marriages and babies and even death much more than academic and professional achievements? I come from a big and I mean big Mexican family on both my mother and father’s side. We all have different lives and different passions, even different opinions, but we are still a pretty loving and supportive family. This is especially true when someone announces a pregnancy or marriage. The planning can’t start soon enough. Now, please don’t get me wrong. Although, I have no children just yet, I do have a desire for a family someday. Of course, being a Latina over 30 means I’m past due. You know, my eggs are dying off and my reproductive system is about to shut down (I’m being sarcastic). Never mind that I finished my bachelor’s degree with honors or that I am working a full-time job to pay the mortgage on my very own first home bought by myself while also pursuing my graduate degree. If someone announces a wedding, the family is in a frenzy! The phones are blowing up and preparations are being made. I’m sure I sound like a woman scorned or maybe even a feminist. Believe it or not, I’m not. Strong, independent women are often misunderstood, ridiculed and mislabeled.

I am all for gender and race equality. I just think it’s high time the value of educational and professional achievements are recognized and celebrated in every culture.