I know that the request was about cheating men but we have to also share where women cheat on their men.

You may have read my recent Hub on "So Many Women so Little Time". Am I cheating if I am a flirt? Am I cheating if I have female friends? Am I cheating if I take those female friends to lunch or supper?

When I got divorced the first time I was told that women only cheat on men if we ignore their sexual advances or avoid them. I worked hard to keep my wife in everything she needed or wanted. The more she wanted the more I worked. Our social life went down the drain. While I was working she was playing.

My second marriage was slightly different. While I was working hard to save my business from the economic downswing she ran away and I have not seen her since.

Is she having an affair, who knows? However, ever since I married her, she thinks I have been having affairs.

Men are dogs. I use the general term because of their talk. I have one very good male friend. He is incapable of having an affair although he got divorced due to the infidelity of his wife too.

The rest of my friends are females. And I love them all. They support me when I'm down and make me laugh when I need cheering up. I flirt with them, but the I flirt with all women whether married or not. As long as the married ones return to their right husbands at the end of the day.

A lot of men deserve to be castrated. I have witnessed it on all the dating sites. They will use any form they can find to get a woman to befriend them. They use incorrect photos. They will use any means to lure them. Most use the sympathy route. Once they have their prey they lure them to bed. Little do the women know that he is married or in a relationship.

I used to be involved with a small group of people when I stayed in Amanzimtoti. This was shortly after my first divorce. My friends used to check on me and on a Friday night they would take me with them on their outings. I don't drive so I would travel with them.

We would go to supper (each paying his own) and then out clubbing. now Toti is very small and you have to watch what you do in case stories begin to flow.

I used to sit with the women as I couldn't take the men's conversations. They always spoke about sex and how hot their spouses were. A little discomforting when you don't have one anymore. I preferred the gossip.

When I was tired of their company I would disappear home. I would walk. If at ten pm the females saw I was missing they would leave it till morning to phone and make sure I got home okay.

Just recently I renewed a friendship with someone very close to my heart. I made the mistake of getting married for the wrong reasons. We both came to a mutual agreement and renewed the friendship. the moment the wife found out I had renewed the friendship I was having an affair.

You ask the question why do men have affairs? They think they are the alpha male and they have that right to do so. It goes as far back before Christ and seams to be a tradition among them.

However, you cannot blame the affair entirely on the man. There is a woman also involved. She is as guilty as he. She is also guilty of breaking up the marriage.

It takes two to tango!