I know I seem to be on a confidence binge here lately and I apologize but what would you expect from an ex-Marine and a man who believes he can do whatever he sets his mind to. I have talked about learning how to boost your confidence through conversation and interacting with other people to get over your shyness. I've also discussed the importance of believing in your self, going as far to say that confidence is really about faith in yourself, and to that regard I'm going to go one step further and describe how to achieve this faith in self I advocate. Again I will make the statement that women are attracted to confident men. So men if we want to attract women and more importantly the woman we want, then we are going to have to find our confidence, and that comes with being comfortable with who we are.

Be Happy With Who You Are

Beyond dating, being thankful for who you are will open many doors to success and accomplishment in life. Before you can ever take advantage of your abilities and skills you have to first recognize them and accept them. All of us are unique. There is no need to compare yourself to others guys or wish you were someone else. Besides being pointless its also incredibly damaging. While competition can be both beneficial and drive you to excel it can also be dangerous if taken to extremes. When you compare yourself to others you compete for what they have instead of focusing on what is meant for you. Guys there is a woman for you out there, and chances are she's not on someone else's arm so stop trying to be someone else. Instead it's time to focus on being the best version of you that you can be.Only when you recognize who you are can you then work to perfect that person and highlight the many positive traits that you possess.

First of all know who you're not. You are not your job, that's just something that occupies your time and pays the bills. You are not the clothes you wear. Clothes are a covering to be discarded and changed whenever its beneficial and appropriate. A confident man is comfortable regardless of how he's dressed and where he's at, because he knows that who he is inside never changes. That being said it's important to be comfortable and dress how you want whenever you can. A confident self assured man can take an outdated wardrobe and rock it. People see beyond the fabric to the person wearing it. They respect his courage and fearlessness and see a man secure in his own identity.

You are not your car, or bank account. True we could all do well with a nice car and a fat wallet, but do we need these things, No. Money is a tool friends to build confidence, not confidence itself. The man who is comfortable in his own skin and his life knows that he has many redeeming qualities that more then make up for any shortage in material possessions and cash flow. The man that while having little has the ambition to go far and the drive and commitment to make it happen will soon have all the money he can hold. Ask a woman what she would rather have a rich self-absorbed insecure man, or a confident man with a plan and dream to get it done. Don't worry about what you don't have guys, start looking at what you do. Maybe you're an artist or gifted speaker. Maybe you're not the brightest bulb, but you have loyalty and strength. For every trait a man may have there is a woman looking for it.

Work on Improving Yourself

Once you take a moment to see the real you and the value within that you will also start to understand the possibilities of who that person could be. There is never a day that you can't do something to make who you are better. Whatever you do good, you could do better. Whoever you are you can improve it. Do not confuse this with changing who you are. we are simply saying that you need to make an effort to be the best you possible. Self improvement is about self respect. The man that likes himself will treat himself well and constantly do more and take action to give himself a better life. You deserve the very best and the truth is you are the one responsible for getting it. Why would you not want to have a better life? You should make an effort to constantly improve yourself be it in the gym or library. Invest in who you are and women will take notice.

Before you can respect a woman you have to respect yourself. The sloppy, unkempt man rarely gets the woman, because his general attitude and demeanor speak of poor self worth and image. He obviously doesn't respect himself enough to take five minutes to look in a mirror, how will he respect her? Now this is not to be confused with the man that deliberately makes an effort to look wild and unconcerned with his appearance, he is going after a certain type of woman and so must act in a certain way. Even so though this is a deliberate act and thought out, not like the man who just doesn't care about himself. I am often surprised by men who complain about not getting the attention of women while wearing clothes that smell and need a wash, teeth that haven't been brushed in a month. Which brings me to my next point.

Take a Shower

Women like you to smell good guys. Not only that when you take a moment to groom yourself it makes you feel good, fresh, and clean. The Metro-sexual movement took this to an extreme though which is starting to collapse. Never take longer then your woman to get ready guys. Shave your face, brush your teeth, a little, and I do mean little splash of cologne and out you go. A confident man has mastered the art of making his appearance look effortless, because it usually is. You're a man for goodness sake, do you not understand that what most women are attracted to about you is that you are everything they are not. Keep your hair trimmed and neat, trim that nose hair, and mustache. Look neat it's that simple. Take a moment to show her that you care about how you look for her. She will appreciate it and her acceptance of you will raise your confidence.

Personal style guys should reflect who you are, not determine it. An introverted scholarly type should not wear a foot tall mohawk dyed orange. It will bring him attention he will be unprepared for and unable to handle. Play off of your good points and highlight them subtly. wear clothes that fit you and accentuate your physique not your lack of it or overabundance. I don't care what you looked like the last time you wore your favorite shirt have the maturity to realize you've gained a few pounds and buy something new.While it is again important to be comfortable, have the self respect to not make yourself look foolish or ignorant of the reality of your body. It's hard to be honest with ourselves guys but it's necessary and in the end worth it.

Confidence and Clarity of Attitude

Now that we've taken some time to examine who we are, and work on developing our best attributes and improve ourselves it's time to step up to the main event guys and stand up straight. It's time to be men. It's time to say what we mean and mean what we say. It's time to be strong and resilient. We need to learn how to be self assured again and know as men that we are capable of handling whatever life throws our way with grace and dignity. We do not throw fits or pout. We hold our heads high and let life's adversities slide off our backs like water.Women rely on us and our drawn to us because they know when the chips are down and someone needs to step up they won't have to ask because we're already in front absorbing the blow. They desire us for our strength of mind not just in body. The look to us to be decisive and sure in crazy situations. The man that can think quickly and act on something small will not lock up on the big decisions, like marriage, and children.

Women are tired of being your mothers guys, they want a man that can not only take care of himself but prove it in his actions and mannerisms. It's time to step out into the world and show what you're made of. You may not be a soldier or save lives but you can still be her hero, by showing that if needed you not only could, but would. Confidence is a mental game you play with yourself fellas. What you think in your mind, and see yourself doing will be manifested in your actions everyday. If you want to be calm and collected, then see yourself doing it. Women want the confident self assured man, who is comfortable in his own skin, and knows who he is and isn't. They want a man who knows his limits but constantly seeks to expand them.

Personality, thoughtfulness, character, integrity,these are all traits of a confident man. He has grown above petty competition, and games. His speech is refined and free of curse words, insults and negativity. He speaks only when needed and listens often. He is a lover, parent, provider, and leader. A confident man lifts up all those around him and is a joy to be around. He does not put down others. His actions are controlled and precise and his thoughts broad and far reaching.People turn to him in crisis and seek his council. He is usually in the center of any group but comfortable no matter who surrounds him, The confident man knows no stranger. Guys you have it in you to be this guy if you want to. There's nothing holding you back but your own thoughts and attitude.