What caused the initial rift, which led to divorce?

Was the marriage possibly based on some of the following reasons hence causing the marriage to collapse?

The couple did not know the difference between love and lust?

An accident occurred in the form of an unborn child?

They thought it would be fun to play Housey house?

Their courting was getting strained and they felt that marriage would put all back on an even keel?

Maybe they really did love each other but did not take into consideration the realities of the real world?

Maybe they were not aware that to honour those serious vows, they would have to work, yes work on building a marriage putting in some good solid foundations.

Consideration was not given to the fact that starry eyed love and the honeymoon is soon over and needs to be replaced by respect and a stable love which can only come from time and building provided the foundation is there.

Basically not one of the reasons above was based on building any solid foundations at all towards having a good marriage.

Divorce rates are spiraling out of proportion as some of the figures below indicate.

USA 41%

Canada 48%

Australia 40%

South Africa 50%

All supposed starry-eyed love marriages.

The divorce rates of two countries in which more often that not marriages are arranged.

Japan 27%

India. 12%

It makes one really think doesn’t it?

One can argue that it is harder to get divorced in those two countries because of religious and culture reasons.

Sure this can definitely play a role in the equation but personally I would say it is a minor consideration.

However my firm opinion and from reading up on arranged marriages there is one essential word called building that is used with these marriages.

The couple from the arranged marriage know that they must start from the ground building with a strong desire to make the marriage work.

Whereas a supposed love marriage has no solid foundation and at the slightest rocking of the already shaky foundations off the spouse or both spouses go to find solace in another person and before you know it divorce proceedings are the name of the game.

It makes one think that possibly serious thought should go into swinging towards arranged marriages.

It possibly would save a lot of unhappiness and possible screwed up kids through no fault of their own.

I have a rule that I use and have used all my life and it is a pity that more people don’t apply this rule.

In my opinion I feel that this rule is applied in most arranged marriages.

I equate my rule to farming one selects your land, start preparing, tilling fertilising, planting your seeds, nurture and water them and then you will reap a good harvest.

A pity it not applied towards marriage or very seldom I would imagine judging by the divorce figures.

So in conclusion could arranged marriages be the solution to lowering the divorce rate thus bringing more joy, happiness and success to people’s lives?