Too often intimacy between a woman and man is a matter of rushing to get to a point and then wondering why everything seems so unsatisfying afterwards.

This is because the art of gentle lovemaking, with plenty of time for playfulness and just like children, spontaneity, is lacking. We often rush headlong into intimacy in order to get a rush and a rollercoaster ride, and neglect the garden of gentle delights, where often the real language of love has a chance to sing it's song.

This is all a roundabout way of saying: let love find it's own language. 

This is a great kiss to try out when your partner is sitting and you are standing.  Just approach from behind, and lower your head over them until they look up.  Then descend like a vulture and get your lips connected for a nice upside down kiss that will allow you to feel parts of his mouth that you may have not felt before. 

This kiss is good for a surprise. 

This is one of my favourites. Just like being kissed by a butterfly or a wisp of air or cloud.

You and your guy just get nice and close, and let your eyelashes first touch each others' cheeks. Let your eyelashes gently tickle his cheek, by opening and closing your eyes and tell him to try the same. I always laugh at first because the sensation is not unlike being tickled by a ghost (a friendly one).

When you want you can then move your eyelash over his eyelash and that is a sensation that will give you definite shivers down your spine!

O ya! Very pleasant and involves not lips and no touching--just the eyelashes.

When you want to sneak up behind your guy and give him a nice surprise, try surprising him with a neck kiss. This is something that I find most girls do not do, but that men do all the time for girls. But that doesn't mean guys don't like to be kissed by a pair of soft lips and tickle of tongue on their necks. Far from it.

Just try it and see if he isn't pleasantly surprised.

The feeling of eyelashes on your eyes is one thing, but to be gently kissed, by warm breath and warmer lips on your closed eyes is absolutely hypnotic.

The eyes, like many parts of the body, are super sensitive to touch and when you trust someone enough to let them that close it is a wonderful, almost trance-inducing feeling. Once you try it you will want to do it over and over again.

Like all of these techniques, it involves restraint and control and patience and a sense of playfulness.

Well there are of course plenty of other ways to kiss creatively, because kissing is something that can employ more than your lips, as we have seen. You can kiss with your fingertips, lightly fluttering them over the face, the head and other parts of the body.

You can kiss with your tongue in similar fashion.

You can kiss with your eyes too...now there's a subtle way of kissing creatively that I have found fun to do when I'm in a restaurant or other public venue, and just want to 'connect' with my guy in a really secret manner that we both understand.

Make up some of your own. Kiss creatively!