Have you ever seen every thing go wrong in your life? Nothing seems to set right any thing. You worry, despair and then, give up. You let yourself be carried away by the circumstances you find yourself in, offer the path of least resistance, be philosophical and do nothing about the impending disaster. As the disaster strikes you will have no one to blame except your self. No one will back you up. Even if they do, there will be a heavy price to pay. Nothing comes free in life. There is a price to pay for every thing. Make no mistake about this.

Now it is entirely upon you, whether you want to get into such situations and work hard getting out of it, or prepare a little an not get into it at all.

Every thing becomes clear once you realise that you are in charge of your life. The foundation of the predicament you find yourself in to-day was laid by you some time ago. The issues you face today were built brick by brick by you. If you have realised truly that you are in charge, the take charge, take responsibility. Do not be a sissy. Face the situation. You got yourself into this. You will get out of this your self.

Concentrate on the solutions to your problem. No matter how silly, note each of the solutions that comes to your mind. Analyse each one of these. You may not find any one of these solutions a 100% panacea to your situation. Think out a combination of factors. Arrive at 2 solutions. The first will take the sharp edge out of the situations. This will give you a some breathing space. The second will get you out of this situation in the long term.

Seek help from family and friends. Make sure that you are not imposing too much. Thank them profusely for the help rendered. All this is a part of Self-help campaign to Do-it-Yourself Destiny Building. It is very essential to put a closure to all your current problems to build a destiny you want.

Now that there is a closure on mistakes done in the past, you are ready for a new chapter in your life. A word of caution however is that, please do not forget the mistakes you made earlier. Do not repeat them ever again. You do not want to land in the same mess again, do you?

I will guide you step by step through the process.

We will have to fall back on spirtuality to prepare. What you need to have initially is the DESIRE for change. This desire will have to be backed up by KNOWLEDGE. Because without knowledge you cannot do any thing. Then, both Desire and Knowledge need to be backed up by ACTION. Remember no action no change!

Just to be thorough, let us itemise the requirements.

1. DESIRE
2. KNOWLEDGE
3. ACTION

If you need to achive some thing, you nee a goal! Having a vague desire is not good enough. Having a specific desire is a must. The desire again, must be specific and very intense. The desire again must be specific, very intense and practical. Root your self firmly on earth. No high flying desires for the starter. As you achieve, you can raise the bar gradually. Believe me, one day you will make a regular, unfailing habit of achieving.

Good! so now we know we need DESIRE to set and work towards a goal. So set a goal and work towards making the desire intense, so that you have a single point agenda to work with. This way you will not have time for nor the attitude to tolerate any distractions. Distractions are the number 1 enemy. They throw you off the track, Make you loose the sight of your goals and ultimately kill the whole purpose. You will e left a looser. So Kill all Distractions. Pronto!!!

Now that you have a Desire, you need to focus on it. To achive it you need to work towards it with all the focus you can muster. So work towards it! Here you will encounter the enemy within and without, Distractions. How do you handle this? Read on.

You need to work on this a little it.Take time out from your Daily routine. This time should be exclusively yours. I find early morning and Late nights, just before sleep ideal. External distractions are minimum at these times. Tell your family what you are up to, request them not to disturb you. This will minimise distractions further. All this is very essential preperatory work which will go a long way in helping you.

You are now ready to focus. Sit, take time to relax. Loosen your clothing, get comfortable.Start thinking aout the object of your desire. Keep on thinking about it. If you can sustain this for a good amount of time, You have done it! You have got the focus. However it is more likely that some other thought will intrude. You will be thrown off track. You will have to remind yourself time and again not to stray. This is frustrating. How do you handle this?

Simple. Cleanse your mind. How? It is all very simple really. Just close your eyes. See yourself in the mental picture. See yourself standing in front of a writing board, writing down all the thoughts coming into your brain. Do this until the board is full and then slowly wipe the entire thing clean. Try writing the next thought coming in. You will find less and less thoughts coming in. Less of these thoughts, lesser the distractions.You can now focus on your desire Uninterrupted.

Yes I know doing the cleanse thing is not that easy. Give it a try. Do not give up so easy. Work on it. If you still do not get it, there is another way. Chanting the mantra. Repeat the object of desire softly and audibly to your self. As you go on all the other noises will recede into the back ground. You will be mesmerised. The chant will be like a whirlpool engulfing you. You will have no other thought except the object of your desire. This, my dear is focus.

Since you can focus on the object of your desire easily what you should do is to channelize the thought process to find ways to get it. In fact you should convince your thought process that you have already got it. For example, if the object of your desire is a car, visualize that you have already got it. Get into it!, Gun the motor!, Takeoff with all the tires screeching! Do what ever is your fantasy. As you come out of it your desire for the thing will increase, sharpening your thought process on how you will go about getting it.

God! It feels good! Does’nt it? You have moved on from just ‘I want it’ to ‘I really want it’ Good. Now think and concentrate on your resources, your skills an abilities. You will need to synchronize, blend, mash and mix all of these to get your car! There will be sacrifices to be made! Visualize this.Visualize how you will cope with it. You may need to take some help from family and friends. Visualize this. Visualize your asking, visualize your getting help, visualize your thanking profusely for the help taken and most importantly visualize paying back with a smile. Yes at first this will look outlandish, unachievable and impossible. Does not matter. Keep on visualizing. Over a period of time you will know which part can be done and which can‘t. Keep the good ones and discard the bad ones. Slowly but surely you will come to working plan to get your object of desire.

This is the Knowledge part.

Congratulations you now have the second qualification too. The only thing stopping you from getting your car is your laziness. Chuck it! Throw it out without a second thought! Jump into the midst of things! Get involved! Work your butt off, work according to the plan! There may be some changes, some things may be really hard. Carry on gamely! Keep on visualizing the feel of the car to keep yourself motivated. God! you really, really, really want it. Action, action and action. This should be your life.

And then, before you realise you really will be the proud owner of the car. Happy driving!

Car is only a physical object. You can achive happiness, good relationships, fulfilling carrer and any thing else you can possibly want. The method is same, only the object changes. Good luck!