How To Ask A Girl Out

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How To Ask A Girl Out?

There are many creative ways to ask a girl out. I normally use the smooth-talking method, but unfortunately not everyone of you guys are born with such knack. Yeah-yeah... surely I'm beginning to annoy you right now. But do read my ideas and maybe you'll be thanking me.

Idea 1 : CD invitation

Ever made an MP3 lists of song into an audio CD? If you're that incompetence, be nice to computer geeks and they might be your most profitable allies. Find out lists of song with lyrics indicating that you're asking her out. NEVER select a mushy or too romantic-tense type of song. Just a hype and fun selections like "Are you going to be my girl" by Jets for example. Compile them into an audio CD. Design a beautiful cover for the CD with titles such as "Jenny (example of the girl's name), Will You Go Out With Me?" or "Be My Date. Say "I'd Love to".

Good if : She'll be so impressed that she agrees to go out with you. As a bonus, she'll be hoping for you to ask her out again every time she hears the CD.

Bad if : She thinks your are wussy and don't have any guts to ask her out yourself. Ouch!

Idea 2 : Ask her to come along

Strike a petty conversation with her. Then intentionally inform her that you're going somewhere. A great place. HER favorite place. If you knew she adores My Chemical Romance, just tell her you're going to buy her favorite band's concert ticket. Ask her then if she wants to tag along. There's a 90 percent chance that she agrees.

Good if : She tags along with you to buy the ticket and she might even agrees to go out with you on a date to My Chemical Romance concert! Lucky you!

Bad if : She passes the offer but she asks you to buy the ticket for her instead. And worse, she even asks you to buy for her date too. Lackey you!

Idea 3 : Be well-groomed

I know grooming is not a man-thing and I don't expect you to be James Bond. But dressing properly and looking smart really helps to boost your confidence. I mean, would you even want to have a conversation with a girl that smells like beggar? When asking her out, be sure that you dressed nicely and well-groomed.

Good if : She likes the impression that you give and might say ‘yes'.

Bad if : She feels that you dressed better than her. She feels intimidated and says ‘no'. Or worse, she thinks you're gay!

Idea 4 : Make her the knight in shinning armor

Know why girls like bad boys? It's because they like to be a hero too (a heroine for that matter). They want to fix anything and everything. So use this to your advantage. Ask her out to help you to choose something for yourself. For example, ask her to choose a cool T-shirt for you. Begin with a compliment saying that you think she always have a great taste in choosing clothes and how you wish you have the same talent too. Then you smoothly begin to ask her to help you choosing yours. Promise her that you are going to treat her breakfast/lunch/dinner (wink-wink!) for helping you out. If she agrees to your proposal, then you're the man! This method is as same as the Idea 2, but with extra punch that is you compliment and flatter her. Girls love that and you'll have a better chance of asking her out again.

Good if : She thinks that she's your knight in shinning armor and therefore make herself a personal project to fix you up. More dates with her in future time!

Bad if : She asks you to buy her a Gucci handbag as a token of gratitude. You got yourself a gold digger!

The best way is to have a confidence for asking her out yourself. Be truthful to tell her that you like her and that's why you're asking her out. Bite the bullet, be a man. It's normal to get rejected. Good luck and may the force be with you.

Of course, if everything else fails just flash to her your platinum card...

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Additional tips on how to ask a girl out :

You should NEVER approach a girl and ask her out if it's so clear that she doesn't like you. If she says she hates you, it means she hates you. The second way to show that is by her body language. Look for signs showing that she likes you before asking her out.

Sometimes she actually flirts with you using her body language. If you are able to read her intentions, then it will be more convenient to you to take her out on a date. Here's a few positive body language by her :

One : Her eyes and the way she looks at you :

She's looking at you longer than she's supposed to, it would create an awkward moment. NEVER EVER look away if you like her. Just stare back with intense feeling.

You can see her pupils are dilating. Which means either she's dying or she's having a romance aura at that moment. You're definitely in good position to ask her out. Or to kiss her.

She gives you an invitation to approach her by lifting up one of her eyebrows while looking at you.

Two : Her lips.

She licks her lips. She wants you, man. She definitely wants you!

She smiles most of the time when talking to you. And you can feel that her smile is sincere.

Three : Her hair

She plays with her hair while talking to you. If she's making round moves while playing with her hair, she's actually flirting with you, man! Approach her, fool! Approach her now! Sometimes she's even being bold by brushing her long beautiful hair onto you.

Four : Her body posture

She crossed her legs towards you. That's a good sign. But nowadays it's a common. You'll have to look for another sign.

She heaves her chest outwards. That's one of her female's secret weapons to lure you.

She leans her body over you to get closer. That's a good sign. If her body touches you when she leans, that's even better.

Five : Others

She takes up every opportunity to touch you when talking.

She smiles and laughs a lot but not to the extent of ridiculing you.

She asks many questions indicating that she's really interested to communicate with you.

But of course, there's still a 5 to 10 percent chances that she still rejects you when you asks her out. It's either she's teasing you and playing a hardball OR she already has a boyfriend. It's your call. Bite the bullet or find another babe!

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hedgeek  says:
3 years ago

Excellent write up, I could have used some of your advice when I was dating, I'll pass it along to my son, he could use it.

J-Torrance  says:
3 years ago

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GOD  says:
3 years ago

ay you suck "make a CD indicating that your asking her or himout"???? WTF man where do you live why do you live if you want to ask a girl out get to no the girl then when you with a group stay afar for a while then when nobodys talking to then go up converse and once shes already laughed or touched you (not your dick perv) ask her out if she says no at least theres other people around just talk to them. OK ive had a girlfriend everyday since i was 14 im 36 do the math bitch!!!!!!!!!!!

Kae  says:
3 years ago

Nice post! It gave me something to think about!

Don  says:
3 years ago

Good job! I found it intresting!

jonel  says:
3 years ago

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Ben  says:
3 years ago

Good post! Where did you learn that?

Monica  says:
3 years ago

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Larry  says:
3 years ago

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3 years ago

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3 years ago

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3 years ago

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Lane  says:
3 years ago

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3 years ago

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3 years ago

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3 years ago

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cloud  says:
3 years ago

ok that was the most retarded thing I have ever heard I am sorry but that was realy realy dumb any real guy should already know this stuff and if you don't than you are retarded too!!!The only reason I even read this is because I am realy tired and bord.

DorkaDater  says:
3 years ago

Nice post i like it, but it might not work for me cause she thinks i annoy her and she has a boyfriend. Althought she says that she uses all of the body postures which really makes me think even more about her.

Andres  says:
3 years ago

yo you suck son i've had mad girls i've never used none of the crap you say thank god i never have or else i think i would'nt have a girlfriend

luis  says:
3 years ago

man i really like a girl but evry time i was about 2 ask her its her friends are there and i get like f*****g nerveous and when she is alone i get friggin nerveous and im in 6th grade and the preassure man wut should i do e mail me plz its almost the last day man!

Tommy  says:
3 years ago

Thankes 4 the advice it worked on my girl taylor

Z Dog Nfl  says:
3 years ago

i hope any of these work for me i asked out 4 girls and they all said no but i did not use any of these methods. TY!

AZN KID  says:
3 years ago

great tips man. needed some ideas.

jason  says:
3 years ago

your all a bunch of losers

Artiom  says:
3 years ago

Hey Dudes... K the guy that posted all the stuff about girls... well they were great, but u need a few more touches.

Here is wat i think u should do, epecially if u r still in school.

If u wanna ask a girl on a date u dont just ask it straight to here face when u see her. Like, use ur common sencse man! Iv seen a couple of guys do that, and most of the girls were really shocked and surprised, and then they said no. What u have to do is make it obvius that u wanna ask here out (ex. ask to borrow a pen or pensile, and is she says yes that says that she is already interested in u, or she is just nice. k, when u ask for the pensile start a random conversation about something like a TV show, then when she is comfortabl talking to u, u could ask here). But when she is talking DO NOT stare at here lips, do not amagine what she would be like when she is naked, LISTEN TO HER! caz when she asks u a question u would have something good to say rather than saying "u have nice lips" or bull**** like that. Girls dont like that.

Well hope u found my comments usefull. Oh by the way, my method actually works. Caz i allready dated like 6 girls in a 8 months.

joey  says:
3 years ago

yall are pretty much all wrong. you dont start by asking her on a date(if your in school, but if your like at a club or something its cool)... you start by becomeing her friend, and getting to know what she likes. if you really like the girl, its worth the time to see who she is, but if you just want a hook-up ignore this step. second you invite her to hang out, NOT ALONE! with friends, and make sure one of HER friends is there. so i could be like you, her, your best friend, and her best friend (this is not a double date!!!). when yall are hanging out talk to her more than you talk to the otehr people there, making eye contact. dont try anything the first time yall hang out, unless she starts it. the second time yall hang out, if evrything is goin well, try to start a conversation alone. every few seconds glance down at her lips, while SHE IS TALKING, not while you are. if she likes you, she will do the same thing. if a girl looks at your lips repeatedly... you better fucking kiss her. so after this kiss... the next time you see her, you tell her how much you enjoyed hangin out wit her.. and ask if she wants to do it again, but one on one this time... it works, i promise.

and its cool if yall hangout like in a park when its getting dark, because when you go to movies, you cnat talk, and in the day time there are too many things to do, and too many distractions. you want to be in a situation, where yall can chill, and talk.

later...

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Damia  says:
3 years ago

Becoming her friend first? Ugh... not for me, man! I've been there. I ended up stuck in a 'Friend Zone' with her and can never get out. But any girl or woman really appreciates if you're good listener and keep an eye contact while chatting with her... and not staring at her boobs!

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3 years ago

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Floral Directory  says:
3 years ago

And bring her flowers. That is a top priority - not to forget the romance!

Dating Tips  says:
3 years ago

nice write up

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2 years ago

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poppy lover  says:
2 years ago

Its graet i will use on my girl of my dreams

ray   says:
2 years ago

thanks for the advice it toght me a lot now that i think about it she done 80% of the body sighns think im going to bag it

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Damia  says:
2 years ago

You're the one who's bullshitting. Friends with her first? Of course... didn't you read the article thoroughly? But if you're staying in the 'friend zone' for too long, she'll stay as your friends... FOREVER. Got that, dude?

BrasilBuster  says:
2 years ago

wat if ur shy?cuz i am

rusty210  says:
2 years ago

k heres the thing.... im in 10th grade and theres this girl that i like A LOT, we had p.e together and i noticed her looking at me frequently (other way around too) and i heard from one of her friends that she liked me but i duno if she was joking or what... the problem is that i only got a job(looking for 1) and i only got a permit, so i cant drive alone and i dont wana be like "HEY ME AND MY MOM WILL PICK U UP AT 7:00" u know, so i was wondering should i wait or just whip it out? and btw my myspace url is /elmatador120 and my e-mail is m-robel@hotmail.com, PLZ PLZ PLZ GIVE ME SOME TIPS AND IDEAS AND PICK UP LINES!!! I REALLY LIKE THIS GIRL AND I THINK SHE LIKES ME TOO BUT IDONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY CUZ IM BEING A WUSS. PST BACK PLZ!~

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Damia  says:
2 years ago

Hi Rusty!

If it's true that she likes you too, then she will not care if you're cool or not. Strike a conversation with her when you have the opportunity. Be spontaneous. But first and foremost, get to know what's her interest or her hobbies. I used to date a girl who loves horses. It's her interest and passion. So I made a little research about horses before chatting her up. You should see the passion that's burning in her eyes when we talk about her interest. I kept asking even the silliest questions but instead of looking like a dork, she's attracted to me! And the best part is, I let her do all the talking. I just listen. It's what us guys should do. Just listen. So Rusty, be a man. Bite the bulllet. Go and say 'Hi' to her. If she really likes you too, then half of the battle is won.

Good luck, bro!

Shyguy  says:
2 years ago

Hey, I am 17, and a senior in highschool. I dont think i am 'too' bad looking. But sadly.. I have never had a girlfriend. I am really shy and dont talk much. I like this girl, but I have never talked to her. I have the courage to do it, but its just striking up a conversation.. I can say "Hi" or "Hello" but i choke after that and its just.. awkward. Do you think it is a good idea if I stuck up a conversation and asked her for her number, or wait.. The only problem i have with waiting is, I become "chicken" and i let her slide away from me. I really dont know what to do... and obviously i suck at talking to girls.

aaagggghhhh  says:
2 years ago

ok there is this girl that i know likes me but i try to make conversation with her and she wont say anything and i end up making lame jokes and it starts getting realllllly awckward. wtf should i do to get her a talkin!!!!!!

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Damia  says:
2 years ago

Shyguy... Bite the bullet, man! If she's meant for you... then she's the one for you.

Aaagggghhhh... r u sure she likes you? If she does, at least she'll make an effort to laugh even at ur lame jokes. Word!

ass licker  says:
2 years ago

i suck asses i lick pussey

johnny  says:
17 months ago

none of that shit works if u got like a class wit her somethin flirt with her day by day an after she gets to know a lil bit ask her out bitch

Josh Manos  says:
16 months ago

Thanks for the tips.......This helps me out now since i won't be shy now!!!!!!!

kevin  says:
13 months ago

dude this is some amazing advice...i love it!

Daniel  says:
12 months ago

Elo.. My name is Daniel and i am in grade 9.. there is a girl i really like but she has a bf......i dono how they are but i think she may want 2 breack up with him.. i have 2 days until v-day and i really want 2 know how i should ask her out.. i have got her some gift and that.. i dono if i should ask her 2 a movire or wat..... I BEG U whoever u are 2 pllzzz help me. Please can you email me on spyke333@gmail.com THANKS :) :) :)

Daniel  says:
12 months ago

Elo.. My name is Daniel and i am in grade 9.. there is a girl i really like but she has a bf......i dono how they are but i think she may want 2 breack up with him.. i have 2 days until v-day and i really want 2 know how i should ask her out.. i have got her some gift and that.. i dono if i should ask her 2 a movire or wat..... I BEG U whoever u are 2 pllzzz help me. Please can you email me on spyke333@gmail.com THANKS :) :) :)

Daniel  says:
12 months ago

Elo.. My name is Daniel and i am in grade 9.. there is a girl i really like but she has a bf......i dono how they are but i think she may want 2 breack up with him.. i have 2 days until v-day and i really want 2 know how i should ask her out.. i have got her some gift and that.. i dono if i should ask her 2 a movire or wat..... I BEG U whoever u are 2 pllzzz help me. Please can you email me on spyke333@gmail.com THANKS :) :) :)

brandon  says:
11 months ago

wow it worked

JESSIE  says:
10 months ago

hey there is this girl and she is like a month younger then me but a whole grade below(i skipped a grade).. she got asked out by some else and she said yes but they barly hang out and they have not gone out on a date?? i know uhh.. so i need to know weather i should ask her out or not cause i dont want to screw anythoing up between them if there is anything.. also she has been very flirty so i have no idea like lieing down alone in hallways and leaning against eachother and dirty comments. so i need to know hwat to do and how to ask her out and under what conditions... help me please......... leave a post on this wall thing

Anon  says:
9 months ago

Thanks dude so helpful

used the tips about going out with her shopping and then we went back to her house an now we've been tougether 2 months !!!

You diserve money for this sort of advice

anonymous  says:
7 months ago

that CD crap is bullshit & will never work. Really? did you come up with it yourself or did soome other half-brain help

justin  says:
7 months ago

im in the 8th grade and i spent the whole 7th grade trying to be her friend and i wanted to ask her out but never could. I was to shy. we had like all classes with each other but she got switched to the advanced classes. now the only classes we'll have together is spanish and gym. It's not a lot of time to show her how i feel. Then some guy had most of his classes with her and i think i see him flirting a lot with her. I looked like she liked me at first but when he came she spent more time with him. me and that person are always mad at each other and somtimes it looks like he likes her and is trying to ruin what me and her already have on perpuose. it looks like she might just go with him so i keep trying to get closer to her. should i give up because they always spend more time with each other and i hardly get to see and talk to her? I always try to make her laugh and stuff and she does a lot but is that enough to win her over?

i know no one from 2 years ago wont answer my question but the owner of the site or anyone who reads this please answer on this site. ill try to check back every few days and thanks ill try some of the tips later on but for now ill just try to get closer to her than that other guy. And anyone who answers thanks. (i know i keep calling him that person, him, some guy, and that guy, cant say names)

sharkboi27  says:
6 months ago

it is this girl i really like named shelby. i asked her to be my valintine. she thought about it for a sec and said yes but when i asked her like two months later to go out with me and she said no. she even went to the dance with me. i need advise from anyone who saw this message

max  says:
5 months ago

hey shark boy. sorry to say but she probly felt sorry for you at the time. did you have an injury or something at the time if so write back anf i will held guy come to me for advice all the time.

max  says:
5 months ago

hey shark boy. sorry to say but she probly felt sorry for you at the time. did you have an injury or something at the time if so write back anf i will held guy come to me for advice all the time.

What  says:
4 months ago

This is terrible. Where did you learn English?

Harrison  says:
4 months ago

i dont know what to do her friends are always around her so what shoul i do to get this women

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