I watch many of my male friends get married, and then later they complain that they cannot flirt with whomever they want. Some of them want their cake and to eat it too, which I think is just plain selfish. If you want to be single and adventurous wait to get married. I am not ashamed to say I enjoy many casual relationships, but at least I am up front about it. To me I would rather date five women at the same time than be tied down to one.

I am not a jerk or anything, but I just like to keep things real to me. I do not want to be a dad, and at least I can admit that. I see some of my married friends complaining about having to take care of their kids, and I do not get it. Why did you get married and have kids if that was not your thing. Some couples have a baby in hopes it will bring them back together, and that works for awhile.

My friends Ted and Amy never really got along, but they thought their marriage would be stronger once they had a baby. Both of their sets of parents were thrilled, and they found new found acceptance among their coupled friends. As time went by Amy grew into her role as a mom, but she never had time for Ted anymore.

Once Ted just wanted to cuddle, but Amy told him she had to feed the baby. After awhile he began to feel like the baby was the center of Amy's world, and he started getting longing for the single life. Unfortunately, this resulted in Ted going out to the bar when Amy was absorbed with the baby, and after awhile the two began to fight about that. Amy stated Ted did not care about her because he was always out, and her nagging caused him to seek refuge in the arms of another woman. Even though his affair was not justified, Amy constantly tearing Ted down drove him to it!

At the end of the day Ted realized he had never wanted to be a husband or a father, and took the easy way out. He sends Amy a check each month, which is enough peace of mind for him to get on with his life. Maybe if Ted had stopped to think he would have realized that getting married was not for him. Now he is single again, but only wants to have very casual relationships. Just because us single people do that does not make us bad people, but we are just being honest about what we want out of life. Not everyone wants to get married, and some people realize that marriage is not all it is cracked up to be. Stop judging us just because you think marriage and babies make you grow up. Some of us can be