Dating Do's and Don'ts

People go out on a date to find a potential mate; someone they could form a special bond with, someone they could actually spend a lifetime with. Unfortunately, in dating, you will have to kiss some frogs before you could find your prince. But hey, isn't that the way it is. So instead of whining how your date sucks, just move on to the next on. Dating should be fun. As much as you can, try to go easy on yourself and your date.

A lot of tips about dating have been spilled; either from personal experiences or a more scientific approaches. These tips however, may be beneficial for some, but not for everyone. Dating relies more on how the participants make use of that special moment. As they say, different folks, different stokes.

Among these tips though, there emerge, several advices on dating that are proven effective. These are universally successful rules. What must one do in order to have an unforgettable date? Here are some dating must and must-not.

When dating, one must make prior preparation. Make sure to fix your schedules accordingly. You do not want your boss calling you right in the middle of dinner. Make sure all your appointments are set to make way to this one very special occasion. Have some background research on your date; his or her style, character, and preferences. Make some personal assessment of yourself too. At this point, how's your life been going? Know what you want your date to know and what not to know about you. Dating, particularly, first dates, are basically a getting to know phase. Talk like a good salesman BUT never, ever, tell lies which you may regret later. Don't pretend to be someone that your not. If you can, be completely honest.

Make an effort to dress well, not more so to impress, but to project a pleasing and decent personality. Never be too flashy or extravagant. Smell good; a shower and a splash of cologne may do wonders.

Since it's your decision to be in that place and to spend the day with that certain person, try to leave your personal baggage's at home. Let no other man or woman occupy your thoughts, at least for that moment. Focus on your date, listen to what s/he says. Here, listen means understand, digest, relate, feel what s/he wishes to convey to you. After all, isn't dating all about having a sort of "connection". Tell him or her important things about you; the things that matters to you most, the things that make you really happy. Never give personal addresses and personal numbers with significance during first dates. Unless you feel that s/he is worthy enough of trust.

Never be rude, arrogant, and dominant. Avoid using foul or uncouth languages. Do not be too harsh on your date. Do not indulge in smoke and alcohol. Never be too intimate on first dates. Never have sex on first dates.

The secret to a successful date is that everything must be done in moderation.