Dating Tips: What She's Really Thinking
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We all know women rarely say what they mean – we’d rather force men to guess what we’re thinking. Yeah, we know it’s impossible, but that doesn’t seem to matter. These examples of what women really think will give you a clue as to what’s going on in her head.
Mind you, they’re a bit tongue-in-cheek – but don’t let that fool you. I promise these thoughts have bounced through the heads plenty of women. Ready?
Do I look fat in this?
Translation: You had better tell me I look fantastic, and I’d better not hear a single second of hesitation, or you’re never getting nookie again.
Why she does it: There are a number of reasons women do this one. It could be as simple her just fishing for compliments, but more often it means she’s feeling a bit insecure and wants her man to let her know he finds her physically attractive. Either way, if you hesitate for even a nanosecond, you’re in for a bumpy ride. Do yourself a favor and just tell her she looks fantastic – and sound sincere.
How does my hair look?
Translation: You’d better tell me my hair looks fantastic, or I’m going to pout for the entire evening. Besides, if you don’t flatter me, you may never get nookie again.
Why she does it: Same generally reasons as those listed above. She’s pretty much just fishing for compliments. If she does this a lot, it’s an indication you don’t give them out as frequently as you could.
No, I don’t mind if your gorgeous colleague goes on a business-trip with you.
Translation: I’m going to call you 5 million times between now and when the trip is over – and if you don’t answer each call by the 2nd ring, I’m going to castrate you when you get home. Which means you’ll never get nookie again.
Why she does it: Cos she knows it would sound petty to voice concerns about you traveling with a woman. Or doing anything else with a woman, for that matter. So instead of asking something that makes her sound jealous, she’d rather behave in a manner Glen Close would admire.
You’re going to be late for dinner for the 25th time this month? Sure, no problem, I’ll save something for you.
Translation: Late again, eh? I bet you’re secretly wining and dining your secretary. Since you’ve probably already eaten, you won’t need my famous roast beef, so I’ll pretend I chucked it all by accident and you can go to bed with a grumbling tummy. Oh, and if you complain, you may never get nookie again.
Why she does it: Cos she doesn't want to sound like a big baby and cry over you coming home late and spoiling the dinner she spent all day making. It's so much easier to just make you miserable.
I have a headache.
Translation: I’d rather watch the Home Shopping Network than sleep with you. Maybe tomorrow I’ll be in a better mood and can go back to pretending you rock my world. PS, if you nag me for nookie, you may never get nookie again.
Why she does it: Most likely this one happens when she's PMS'ing. Enough said, right? So there you are – proof that women are just as poor at communicating as men!
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Funny stuff, Isabella.
Hey DocJim. I don't know what advice Isabella has for you, but here's my 2 cents.
Just go for it. Life is to short to spend time worrying what if? Just proceed as if she is into you. If she isn't she will let you know in one way or another that you CAN understand. Be confidant but not overbearing. It usually plays well.
Funny, but true, if you say so! Men can communicate to men and women to other women, it's only when the communication is crossgender, problems happen!
Gee ! you had me worried for the moment,
I just thought she had the toothache.
I knew I should have brought the pliers.
YES I have heard the same comments over the last 50 years.
One Shot,
Good advice and thank you. If you ever need tips on how to scream with frustration and bewilderment, especially about the opposite sex, let me know. I'm the world's greatest living expert.
;-)
Another GREAT Hub Isabella!! I am sitting here laughing as tears of humor roll down my cheeks!! Sooooooooooo very true!! As women, we often pride ourselves on being better communicators than our male counterparts!! Truth is, we are just as hard to understand for them!!
And to Doc Jim: If you have to ask yourself, "Is she into me?" there is a high probability she is not!! Sorry!! It's nothing personal!! If you are just beginning to test the waters, a woman will hold your eye contact for a moment longer than comfortable!! She will hold your hand without making an excuse to disengage!! Her eyes will light up when you walk into the room!! She will delight in phone calls and dress up for dates!! "Nookie" will include fireworks!! Actually, those truths work for actually being in a relationship you are not sure of!!
And to OneShot: "Just going for it" with a woman of high caliber will get a man the door with no return invitation!! Confident but not overbearing is great advice!! Women are drawn to sensitivity in a male like a bee to honey; take the time to be sensitive and see if there is any interest at all before just going for it!!
Blessings for all our better communications, Earth Angel!!
Hahahaha, finally a womens dictionary, good one isabella.
yours
J.T
EA,
Thanks. As you may guess, I'm in the early stages of what I hope will become a relationship, and I'm getting mixed signals. I THINK she "sort of" likes me, but doesn't LIKE me. Know what I mean? It's all very confusing...
Hello Again DocJim!!
Well I will keep good thoughts that she wakes up and smells the roses!!
I have dozens of male friends whom I adore and would do almost anything for, but I am not at all interested in a romance with any of them!! I am very clear about this, all the time!! As a "friend" I am comfortable teasing and joking and hugging and doing fun things together!! Once they cross the friendship line in the hopes of something more, I have to back off until they come to their senses!! (Or, if they don't, I'm history!!)
If I wasn't so clear and consistant from day one, I could see how my actions could be misinterpreted!! On the flip side, actions do speak louder than words and my actions are always loving and supportive!! Yep, I can see how this might cause confusion!!
You are probably correct in your assessment of her "sort of" but maybe not!! If you feel uncomfortable with the direct approach, there is nothing wrong with indirectly bringing up the subject!! Start with simple comments like, "I am planning a trip to Europe next year and know it would be double the fun with someone special" and see where the conversation goes!!
And remember, there are lots and lots of reasons a woman who really IS into you may not want to get involved!! She may still be hoping for the other man who is NOT really into her!! She may have major debt, STD's, a violent ex-, is moving out of the country, or has heard something unsavory about you, etc.!!
The Wild Divine only wants the very best for you!! You may be THE ONE!! If not, you may never know all the reasons, but you can certainly trust in the process!!
Blessings on this confusing and amusing journey!! Earth Angel!!
P.S. I am going to check with my male friends this next week and see if any of them think I am misleading them!!??
P.S.S. docjim505, I haven't been able to find your HubPages Profile?? How can that be?? Earth Angel!!
"So there you are – proof that women are just as poor at communicating as men!"
he he, tip of the iceberg :)
not that we are any better, but ...
These tips will rock Thumbs Up for you
EA,
Thanks for the kind words and advice.
As for the possibility that your male friends may think you're "leading them on"... I'd almost bet on it. Speaking personally, a woman can barely look at me and I start wondering (hoping?), "Is she interested?" If she actually speaks a civil word, it becomes, "Man! I think she IS interested!" Throw in a smile or a joke and it's, "TALLY-BALLY-HO!"
The you never get nookie again stuff at the end of each part had me laughing. :) Good stuff.
Sometimes a headache is really a headache. But men seldom sense the clues that a woman is in no mood for romance...she's sick, exhausted, aggrevated, etc...while women sense when their man isn't up to the idea of sex....and let them retreat into their men caves.
Thanks for info. There are some good advices at my hub page.
Strange, I found this article, informative, hilarious and terrifying at teh same time.
If you have to nag her for nookie, you're going to find it elsewhere. Like with that coworker on your business trip. If a couple has disinteresting sex, they'll become disinterested in each other and find something outside of the relationship to satisfy their needs.
if only we didn't have to read between the lines in relationships life would be so much easier!
docjim505 says:
2 years ago
Good for guys in a relationship, but how about some advice for those of us TRYING to get into one? Specifically, how about some tips so we can tell the answer to the most vital question of all:
IS SHE INTO ME?