Many of us work 5 days a week, 8 hours a day, and we will end up working for over 30 years, so at some point in our lives we will end up being attractive to a co-worker. Many people warn us not to pursue a relationship, but many will not listen. I, of course, am one of those people.

It's Thursday morning and my handsome co-worker who has no business being around my work area… is. He politely passes his number and asks me to call him sometime... to hang out. I ponder the possibility of what could be... is he the one? Is he the man that will fulfill my fantasies? I cannot pass this up, I don't care what people say... my co-worker could be the love I've been looking for, plus he's really hot.

So we date and start getting to know each other. Actually, I start getting to know him because this guy loves talking about himself. I hear a lot of... I use to do this... I am going to do this... I want to do this, blah blah blah. He constantly calls so he can constantly know where I'm at. His bedroom skills were minimal and after one month he's already asking me " Hey, have I told you about that time when I..." and yes I had.  He found any miniscule event that was not in his “plans” as exciting and I would have to hear about it over, and over, and over.  He lived a sad, lonely, boring life and I didn't want a part of it anymore.

Breaking off wasn't easy, not because I was afraid of how he would take it, but because I would have to see this guy at work everyday.  The first try didn’t work because he was adamant in working on this relationship. I try again, and he confronts me at work by roaring at me the injustice I served him, but as he continues his howling I start feeling a burning sensation on the back of my neck of what appears to be the eyes of my other co-workers.  I take a look at his bulging veins and I realize what a stupid girl I was. The end came but the unpleasant welcome of awkward looks arrived, along with the uncertainty… should I say hi? should I say anything?  is it safe to go to the bathroom where I might run into him?... I hope he’s not in the lunch room… I hope he’s not in the elevator.  It's driving me nuts, but I can't quit my job, my only hope is that he does. It eventually gets better but the key word here is, eventually.

Advice from me to you would be simply not to date co-workers. How do you do this? Well, do what I do and avoid a co-worker that you feel attracted to. I know the type of men I like, so I avoid any man at work that fits that description.

Don’t flirt with co-workers and don’t allow them to flirt with you.  You know that flirting can lead to other things, and even though it might seem innocent to you, the other person might be reading it differently.

If a co-worker comes on to you, don’t be afraid to be a bit rude or straight forward. You’re there to work not mingle.

 I do know a few people though that end up marrying one of their colleagues but it’s rare, and besides I wouldn’t want to work with my husband, would you?