What if you met someone and a spark goes he is my soul mate, but, you realize you have different religions. So much about spiritual mates?

Religion is one of the issues that the dating world sees as a factor to finding your special someone. It is one of those things that people seek to find the connection. So what if your religions don't match? This is an important fact to consider especially in deep relationships - the kind that is inclined to the big M - marriage. It is with these importances that the approach to the problem of love and religion must be taken seriously.

Think about this scenario: you date a potential mate and find out before hand that your religions don't meet. You feel excited and challenged, but before long, you also feel threatened and scared. And as you are starting to like the person, you choose to avoid the topic of religion - both of you. You engage in a flight solution. But until when? You can't wait till your relationship is in the marriage stage, can't you?

Religion is a good thing. It gives substance to a personality, and it is especially helpful when you need to start and build your relationship on a strong foundation. Same religions could do that. But what about differing beliefs? - It could make or break a relationship. So how are you going to handle the issue? Here are two different approaches:

1. One thing you can do is to find out within yourself how loyally spiritual you are to your religion. Ask yourself how religious you are - if you are ready to give up your beliefs to help your relationship. (You can't if your faith is that strong as a rock). Then, with all respect, find out about your partner's religion. Then decide which religion works best for you - personally. If you are called to your partner's religion then it's a good go.

But what if both of you decide to keep your variant religions?

1. Map out your priorities. Is your relationship religion over love or love over religion? Note that these don't necessarily lead to separate ways as what is needed in the long run is respect for the other's person (and his/her religion).

*When you talk about this love and religion issue with your partner, learn to set aside your feelings. This is to keep things non-judgmental. Deal with it as a matter of fact. At this stage you can both agree that your religions should have no effect whatsoever in your relationship, or, your love for each other should not compromise your relationship with God. This must be your first test of love for each other. If you don't agree, then both should move on, though in separate ways. (You can start anew by learning and dating someone from your congregation :)

So about love and religion, just talk about it. It's no escaping. As you deal with this tight spot conversation, in the end you'll find out that you have strengthened your love or your religion, or both. ~Ae Dechavez

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