I am dealing with the ultimate troubled teen.

She is defiant, rude and absolutely impossible to talk to. Over the last 2 years I have watched by bubbly loving daughter transform into a sullen, know- it -all fireball.

Hearing the door slam, and yelling " You just don't understand!" has become a regular staple in my house.

She is also 15 and preganant.

After the initial shock, tears and disapointment has passed, I am having to deal with the fact that she is pregnant and that there is a baby on the way.

Over the last few weeks we have had to adjust very rapidly. This has shattered and already fragile relationship. I am reeling. I am suffering big time from "Where did I go wrong", mother guilt thing that is attached to the fact that she has put herself and the rest of us in this predicament. I couldn't believe we had to even consider the idea of abortion. which was quickly taken off the table. School had to be notified and arrangements have to be made because the baby is due right in the middle of the year and she is going to need her education even more than ever now.

This whole dilemma is happening real time and there are no brakes to slow it down, but at the very least, it has gotten us talking. I have forced to put aside my anger for a minute and deal with the crisis at hand.

I am heartbroken-but working with her. For the first time in a long time, we are coming from a place of complete honesty.

She is growing up real quick and candy-coated glasses she has been wearing has been thrown off. She has had to face that her all important teenage lover will not be of much help as he is not ready or willing to take responsibility. We are going to have to get aquainted with the court system for that. My daughter is learning quickly where her alliances must lie, if she is going to beat the odds stacked against her simply by being a teen mom.

Mostly, I am just trying to keep calm to adjust, and take it one day at a time. It will be difficult as she is yet a child herself, but the one thing I have learned about life is that things ulitmately have a way of working themselves out. I have to believe that there will be a silver lining somewhere through this mess. Until it presents itself, I will plan for the worst, but hope for the best........