Out there in the dating world, one of the big problems that women deal with is men that are both possessive and jealous. It is definitely no fun at all to go out on a date, get all dressed up in a great outfit with your favorite pink plus size corset, take care with your hair and everything, and then the date is the drag because the guy is so possessive. The key is to try and spot these men before you go out on the date with him if possible.

The problem about jealous and possessive men is that it is hard to spot them. He may look great, act charming at first, and may just seem like a nice guy. However, once you are out with him, things may change and you may discover that you are in the company of a possessive man.

The main reason that men are possessive is because they don't feel worthy of the relationship and are afraid of losing the woman in their life. It may start out simple and harmless enough, with him preferring to keep you with him all the time. He may start trying to control your time and get upset if you go out socially with friends. Instead of going out, you may end up staying at home together all the time, and he may even start coming up with situations where he needs your help that are merely lies to keep you there with him.

In many cases, jealous and possessive men go a step further. They go on to alienate you from your friends and may begin criticizing you and working to lower your self esteem so you won't leave him. Then he may tell you that you are so lucky to have him, since he loves no matter what. In this way he builds up a dependence in you, and you are left dominated and isolated within the relationship.

Men who are confident and happy with themselves will not have these problems with jealously and being possessive. While he will definitely want to spend time with you, he will also be happy that you are independent as well. Relationships should be about being your own person but sharing time together, and trust is important as well.

There are definitely some danger signals to watch out for in men that may let you know that he is a jealous and possessive guy. He may suggest how you should dress, he may try to get in the way of social plans you have, and he may call you all the time trying to figure out where you are. He may be concerned about where you are going, may be very intense, may have a hard time communicating, may have low confidence and self esteem, be dominant, and may have a quick temper. These are all warning signs that you need to be aware of.

So before you don that great plus size lingerie and your sexiest dress, it's a good idea to be very careful about the guy you go out with. If you notice any of the warning signs, you'll want to get away quickly to avoid getting trapped in this type of an unhealthy relationship.