Have you ever asked someone a question and told them that you really needed their feedback because you had absolutely no idea what do think or do about a situation? Or have you been asked a question and known that the person asking you the question already knew the answer but just didn't like the answer?

Here are a few for starters:

• Do you think he/she likes or loves me?
• Should I take this job?
• Should I buy this house, car, etc.?
• Can I trust her/him?
• Is this outfit too tight?
• Do you think I spend too much money, shop too much, drink too much, etc.?
• Should I ask for a promotion?
• What should I do next?

At the core of each person I believe we know the answer to any question we ask. Often the answer comes in the form of a feeling. The thing is to trust what we feel versus trusting what an "expert" or someone else tells us we ought to do next. I say that, because I have found that a root to many questions is this one question - what should I do next?

This summer I learned about trusting "experts" above my own inner guide. I was given driving directions to get back home from an out-of-state event. The route the "expert" (a state trooper) gave was supposed to cut at least an hour off the drive. Wrong! I ended up driving an extra five hours!! I also had dreams guiding me to trust my inner guide (which again often speaks to us in feelings) versus "experts".

Field or subject "experts" share a lot of good! However, only we know how we feel! Some might call it getting a "hunch". For example, have you ever been around someone and felt free, completely open to share your true thoughts with them? Have you ever felt tense around a person and couldn't explain why? These feelings could be a clue to a deeper knowing about the situation or relationship you are contemplating entering or extending.

If you are wrestling with a choice try asking yourself the question out loud and taking note of how you feel. You could also state a series of choices out loud that you are considering about an event and note how you feel when you speak each option. Or have someone else ask you the questions and note how you feel.

I have found that the more I trust my inner guide and what I feel, the more clearly my true feelings come through. Another reason that it's important to trust YOU rather than to constantly seek a second opinion from others.