Internet Dating sites are booming and Disability Dating sites are too! Unfortunately, the two wars in the Middle East have added approximately 21,000 injured and disabled to the population. Ironically fortunate for disabled dating websites and these sites too are extremely helpful to all the disabled people however. But disabled dating, the topic here is not all about horny cybering junkies, sex freaks, scammers and pervs that join theses places. Although, all sites have their share of kooks, fakers, groupies and sex maniacs, the vast majority of people that join these dating sites are genuinely looking for romance, friends, support, and chat conversation and a loneliness cure from a cyber community. Persons with a disability are also looking for the same things able body people are looking for and finding it.

Although, unfortunately, there are some disabled Para and Quadriplegic members to the disabled dating sites who have total sexual dysfunction and no sensory feelings at all due to paralysis. Disability dating sites are here to help, providing support and care. Some members with spinal chord injuries, for instance, may have difficulty that can cause impotence and total erection loss in men. Situations such as this are helped sometimes through community discussions, through the forum and chat. Some disability sites have doctors and counselors online also. Where there’s a will there’s a way. Some of the severely disabled men, resort to injecting liquid Viagra® and or liquid Cialis® and other medicines which can sometimes be used to stimulate paralysis. This makes me very squeamish just thinking about it, however, if it helps them by injecting a hypodermic needle, I suppose, helping is the name of the game. Muscle relaxant pharmaceutical drugs, marijuana and or botulism-toxin, Botox®, has been used as a spasm relaxant in some disabled patients. This loosens up the spasticity, muscular hypertonicity with increased tendon reflexes, which is caused from paralysis. In other words, deformed stiffness and cramped-up limbs. Although these disabled may still be paralyzed, they now might be able to at least pleasure others and may also get some benefit too. Some paralyzed disabled, depending on their severity, still may have some sensual feeling, depending on pressure applied to the spinal chord and sexual positional placement.

Yes persons with a disability do have sex and all types of sex I might add, inventive, different and acommodating their disability. The vast menu available and the quirky, that the AB population uses, can also help with the disabled. Sadly too, as mentioned earlier, some Quads and Paraplegics and some other persons with a disability have no sex at all because they are completely paralyzed. The disabled person that is able to perform sexually needs to be creative in their eroticability and needs to over compensate their abilities while keeping their disability in balance, as much as possible, to not injure themselves. Also a disabled person can have an AB sex partner, able body partner. Or another person with a disability sex partner, this requires planning, tact and specialized maneuverability in order to get two sexually functioning physically disabled people to enjoy each other’s bodies to the fullest of available pleasure. IT CAN BE DONE and well I might add. Then there are the “devotees”. A devotee is an AB person that only seeks out the disabled for friendship, sex and or has some care giving aspect to their fetish history. These devotees are controversial to say the least, as their peculiarly devotion is seemingly disturbing to some but also tolerated and accepted by others. These two AB groups are available as members of disability dating websites along with the disabled members to date other disabled members as well. And of course disability dating isn’t all-just about sex.

Singles bars and clubs before the Internet revolution, although still somewhat popular have morphed into the “E-Generation, E-Dating, E-Sex.” With all types of computer dating websites from places like “eHarmony” to “Lovebyrd” and “Disaboom” plus the virtual site, “Second Life”. Second Life offers a unique scenario for the disabled person. They have disabled virtual groups that can simulate mobility to paralyzed patient. The virtual disabled groups, with in SL help the disabled through their able body designed and animated avatar to experience somewhat of an AB experience. Many wholesome relationships have sprung up from disabled dating sites, which have lead to engagements and finally marriage. Some disabled people can have children, some of course cannot. But creating an environment where this can gel is upbeat and positive.

Websites like Lovebyrd and Disaboom are disabled and disable dating sites owned by the same company. For the most part these 2 sites and all disabled dating sites have goals. To provide a first class dating service and social networking website to individuals living with a condition that makes it difficult to meet and connect with other people. Whether you use the term disabled, differently abled, challenged, handicapped or you prefer not to classify your condition, disabled dating is right for you! If you are disabled or non-disabled and looking to meet fun, friendly disabled singles for friendship, dating, online chat, or even long-term relationships leading to marriage, disabled sites aims to provide a safe Internet dating for the disabled community and a friendship network for single disabled men and women around the world.

These sites are here to help the person with a disability find their ideal mate, dating prospects, new friends or a support system consisting of people who know and understand what it is like to live with a disability. If you're looking for love and romance, be sure to investigate all the general online dating tips and online dating safety guides. Like able body dating sites, disabled dating sites are similar in that everyone is searching for something, someone else for one reason or another. The medical and social information provided in these disabled sites aspect written information that’s available about all the different disabilities, physical medical information as well as mental, pharmaceutical and product information. And of course, dating advice is provided, general advice, classified and employment too. These sites help to bring some shut-in disabled, the fully functional disabled people and persons with a disability, a window to the outside world, with romance and love and community that we never had before.

List of

Disability-Dating Toolkit in most sites:

Men's Dating Guide

Women's Dating Guide

Disabled Dating Etiquette

Discussion Forums

Disability Love Horoscopes by PaulieWalnuts (yours truly at lovebyrds.com)

Fun & Games

Discuss Sexuality

Depression/Anxiety

Relationship Talk

Recipe Swap

Book & Movie Lovers

Music Lovers

General Topics

Video, Photo sharing

Cartoons and Jokes

Disability Chat Room

Success Stories (Weddings & Engagements)

Pet Lovers

Politics

Sex

Faith

Other services provided:

Social Security

Medical

Employment

Legal

Health Insurance

Classified

Some Disability services for persons with:

Brain Injury

People with Spinal Chord difficulty

Singles with General Neuromuscular & Musculoskeletal

Amputee Singles

Cerebral Palsy, (CP) Singles

Singles with MS, Multiple Sclerosis

Singles with Depression

Spina Bifida Singles

Paraplegic Singles

Stroke Survivor Singles

Singles with Muscular Dystrophy

ALS

Back Disorders

Polio

Quadriplegic

Diabetes

Blindness

Deaf-Mute

Fibromyalgia

Arthritis

Etc.

Saturday July 26, 2008

National Forum on Disability Issues Webcasted Live on Disaboom.com July 26. The Americans with Disabilities Act anniversary-ADA

The event—organized by the American Association for People with Disabilities (AAPD) and co-sponsored by over 60 national, state, and local disability groups—presidential candidate forum hosted by Jim Lehrer of PBS. Barack Obama and John McCain will be there talking about disability. Obama will be there via teleconferencing because of his trip. See LINK for more information.