To divorce your wife is a complicated thing and you have to decide whetever you like it or not. It's not easy to get this decision is you really like your wife and your kids, but sometimes you may have to take decisions that you don't like, in order to be sure you're not getting any more problems. There are some cases when the wife is going to abuse the children or she's just a drug addict, cases when you have to deal with it and understand the fact you can't control everything, altough you may want this for you. There are also cases when your ex-wife would go with a lesbian lover, case when you have to understand the situation, divorce and make sure you don't make the mistake again. I know, depression is a very complicated thing and you have to face it, in a way or another because it's not so easy to deal with, in the case yo have been facing it, you could get desperated, but be sure you don't make any not so good decisions.

   Sometime, even if you are a wife (let's talk from the wife part) and you have been married for a lot of years, you ahve to face the confusion of getting a divorce settlement from your husband - there is sayed that somehow is better married than divorce, I mean, you're learned to be together because of so many years, and you're playing with your choice, which is not a simple thing that could get of you depressed and you need to make something asap.

  A fast divorce is not a solution in most of the cases, you have to really be sure this is your decision and you don't have to hurry up to create confusion. Be careful abotu your kids, future child custody, child support money and so on. You need to be getting an attorney to be sure all the things are alright and you do it in the court. 

   After you turn to a lawyer, if you just feel the need you could get into a psycological counselor because you may need it, somehow a spiritual counselor is good to. Communicate in your relation, if you dont want to divorce but your wife does, then you have to do somethng about it because you're not going to make anything if you don't do anything.

   Having nothing in common - I once knew a couple who him has drinking problems, she was going to the disco and because of that they had some problems. She had no job, unemployed, desperated, he was having drinking problems, so they have more problems in the marriage. It's painful and you can be alone after divorce, so, check it out and be sure you do want to do that.