Divorced and widowed ladies. It is time that you place your past bad experiences behind you and start to turn away from the life of loneliness that you have committed yourself to, and get out and start to meet people and create a life for yourself again!

A statistic of a popular dating site used by many people from around the world revealed that approx 90% of new members in advanced western countries were male.

Now it stands to reason that many of these were divorced men and, yes, a small percentage were widowers, but what accounts for the sad imbalance of the ratio of men to women joining? For every divorced man there has to be a divorced women somewhere.

The answer to this is firstly that women tend to be less trusting than men and hence are reluctant to enter a world of internet dating that could expose them to some dangers.

Secondly, women are far more likely to resign themselves to a world of loneliness with lame excuses such as "it is my duty to first look out for the children" etc.

Thirdly, and a major contributor to this delemma, is that in many cases divorced women have come out of a terrible marriage often filled with abuse, and have hence determined that they will never place themselves in that sort of situation again.

Now while I fully understand where you hurting ladies are coming from, I would like to say to you that in the past, you entered into relationships without any sort of real choice. The guy approached you and you had to be happy with the limited amount and quality of guys asking you to date. You were not "allowed " to approach the guys that you actually thought would make a good partner. You were then asked to marry and in many cases this decision was made on the wrong criteria .

The good news is that in the 21st century we have internet dating. On internet dating you control what happens. You may approach men that seem attractive to you. You can easily block out people that you do not want to contact you. If you like someone and they seem to like you, a series of steps is usually followed whereby at first you chat to them via email. Then usually you meet online for an instant message chat. This progresses to online anonymous phone calls. All this while, if you discover this person is not suitable for you, you are able to block them from contacting you again with one click! The greatest advantage of all, is that since you are sitting in the comfort of your own home, you are able to make for more accurate decisions than if you were on an actual date. The other thing is that you are facing a computer screen and not an individual and so most people tend to be far more open about their likes and dislikes than in real life.

Only after you are 100% comfortable with the person and are reasonably sure that you would like to meet the person face to face do you arrange a physical date. By this time you should already know more about this person than possibly you ever knew about your ex.

Ladies, please for safety sakes, always arrange a first date on your home territory and in a place that you feel safe and comfortable. If the guy that you have met insists that he is too busy to come to you and that you should come to him, then he will propably be too busy for you for the rest of your lives together anyway and I would suggest that you hit the delete button before you go any further.

Very important advice. Before rushing into things, ask a friends honest opinion about your new association. A friend will look at the situation and assess the situation in the head. You will assess the situation with your heart. Combined you should have an good indication of your new found partner.

Now come on ladies, it is time for you to get out, meet the world and start to enjoy yourself again.

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