Divorce:Painful Memories and the Healing Process

Painful Feelings

Divorce is an emotional battle ,that all of us deal with in our own way. Some  people go through every emotion expected in this situation. There are few that deal with it in a more manageable way. The thing to remember is that all emotions are normal, but while some are readily acknowledged by the people experiencing them, others are so uncomfortable that it's difficult even to admit they exist.  There are several  emotional states that many people go through during the first part of their divorce that can possibly enable their ability to think correctly, and  may alter their judgment.

There is nothing wrong with being sad when a marriage comes to an end.    We are humans and we can’t stop ourselves from feeling these emotions. We know that an experience like this is almost  impossible to deal, eventually we will realize that there is life after divorce so we are forced to accept what’s going on.

The Healing Process

The painful feelings may seem like eternity , but they will go away. They won’t go away  right away, but in time they will slowly get better and then before you know it there gone.                

The 4 stages you must be prepared to face during and after a divorce.

• Denial: Trying to convince yourself that it’s not that bad and it can be worked out.
• Anger: Ill feelings about what the other person has done to you during your marriage.   
• Depression: Feeling as if everything for you is over.The feeling of the marriage failing and so is everything else.
• Acceptance: final stage is acceptance ,realizing that these are the final steps so it must be real. 

In order to talk about or deal with divorce, you must must see your way through these 4 stages in order begin your healing process. Understanding theses stages are  helpful when it comes to talking about divorce and decision making. It's important to know that when you are in the early stages of this grief and recovery process, it can be challenging to think clearly or to make decisions at all, much less to make them well. Knowing what stage you are in presently lets you know where you are and where you are going. Identifying your present stage of grief and being aware of it is an important step toward ensuring that you will make the best choices you can.

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