Jamie Foxx, a famed R&B singer, actor, and songwriter has a popular song climbing the popular music charts called "Blame it On the Alcohol." The lyrics are to justify his behavior at a party and getting carried away having fun but the song has come under fire and is used in this article for a different reason. Parents are saying that the impressionable kids are thinking that the catchy phrase "alcohol" is glorifying a product that can be potentially harmful if abused. Jamie Foxx recanted on the Extra television show that he would replace the lyrics with "apple juice" but he was not serious.

In the scenario of domestic violence, more often than not alcohol is a major factor in the breakdown of a man or woman's inhibition when it comes to showing violent behavior that can be potentially harmful as well. Many a woman as witnessed on television and movies have said that the violent behavior was the result of the abuse of alcohol. Jamie Foxx lyrics ring true in most of these cases. Organizations concerned with this kind of behavior against women should look into  letting it be known that the abuse of alcohol is a valid cause of abusive behavior.

These women are saying that everything is fine Monday through Thursday but when the weekend comes she can't seem to do anything right and her reward is an unrestrained fit of violence to her person. Calling the police is futile as now there is rampant abuse of the emergency phone line and help is no longer a 911 call away. Instead the woman or person who is being subjected to the physical abuse has to fend for themselves by walking away and closing the door careful not to provoke because  he can blame it on the alcohol, as Jamie Foxx sings. The person being abused has no where to turn except the knob on the door as the noise continues outside content that there is safety inside and away from the abuser..

It would seem logical that if these abusive situations is "blamed on the alcohol " that the person abusing the drug would get through a weekend without it to keep peace in the home. The presence of  children present it would seem mandates that alcohol should not be abused. But each weekend, it seemed that a trip to the liquor store and then a trip to a woman's person is the order of the weekend because once the air clears everything wrong can be blamed on the alcohol.

Women finding themselves in this situation has no clue and may actually try to have a conversation with the sappy person and try to make sense out of a situation that makes no sense. If she rallies in the fun of the evening then she may be oblivious that the order of the evening would be incoherent conversation with a shove here and a push there.  The woman must measure each word spoken as  provoke violence if the alcoholic hears something he did not want  to hear. If the woman has been partying and blaming it on the alcohol all evening too, then she would have to be considered an accomplice in actions that may be abusive to her.

On the other hand, if she has been working all day and taking care of the kids and is just there as a sounding board as he murmurs later that he blamed it on the alcohol then both of these cases have to take action. Women are no longer property as they were in the 1850's and was not counted on the population as being a viable citizen with  equal rights. The woman must take action in the 21st century and call the domestic violence support line to seek shelter or to seek counseling so that she will know what to do instead of "blaming it on the alcohol."

If a person continues to drive although intoxicated and illegal, surely that person should be able to find the restrainst to respect the woman that he chose to have a relationship with. Why marry someone or be involved in a relationship and then go off of the deep end when he is physically stronger. Women must be told that there is no fighting back because the odds are way against them in size, might, intent, and probably alcohol content. The woman or man should immediate seek counseling and not accept a solution of calling the authorities because these people will not make an arrest unless bodily harm is done. Because of the difference in the odds that were mentioned, the woman or man should find another place to stay if possible and then resolve to start a new life apart from the abuser.

Women must realize that they were put on this earth to be a companion and not to be dogmatically subjected to acts of violence that afterwards is played out on their sensitivities as he asks for forgiveness over and over again. Like Oprah Winfrey said in reference to the Rihanna and Chris Brown case, if a man puts his hands on you once, he will put his hands on you again. Call 1800799SAFE, the National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you are reading this article and is in immediate danger, you will receive a pop up warning you that your computer may be monitored and may not be safe with instructions on how to get help.

Once the blaming on the alcohol episodes are over, the sun shines and things may get back normal for weeks  and then comes the week end of humiiation and shame. If you know of a person who is being abused, let them know that they are not alone and help is available on the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799 SAFE.  Don't keep blaming it on the alcohol.