This hub can be for both men and women, but I'm gonna aim it towards the men.  Growing up as little boys, we've heard the story of Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, and many others.  There's a damsel in distress and there's a hero.  The hero risk it all to be with a woman who he barely knows, then they live happily ever after.  Growing up into men we subconsciously believe it's possible to be a hero to a damsel in distress.  You never hear about what happens after the story. If you don't know anyone, more than likely you're not gonna be living happily ever after. 

Women love the story of Cinderella. I don't need to re-tell the story, but it follows the same premise I mentioned in the first paragraph.  How are you gonna fall in love with someone who you barely know?  The thing is, you can't.  We, as humans, have so many emotions that we experience that we can't name most of them, so we give them a name with what they are closely associated with.  For example, let's say there's a girl that you met at party.  She's beautiful and she carries herself in a way that attracts you.  You go out for a week and you have strong feeling for her.  You don't know what those feelings are, so you thnk it's love.  But in reality it's not. This called a crush.  When we were kids we had crushes all the time.  So the best thing to do is to call it what it is and just try to get to know the girl a little better.  Men fall into the trap of being infatuated with a woman's beauty.  They spend time with the woman and don't really bother trying to get to know who this person really is.  All they know is she's beautiful.  Then they get into a relationship.  There are problems in the relationship that he could have spotted if he would have tried to get to know her.

Look at the programs they have today.  It seems like there's a show coming out everyday with the word "love" in it.  You have a man or woman, who is looking for "love" by eliminating a whole flock of people.  In between the eliminations, these people act like retards (not actually mentally-disabled people, but mentally-abled people acting stupid).  Then when they meet that "special one" that they picked from everybody else, what do they do after that?  They have a part 2, a part 3, and so on and so fourth.  The word love has lost it's true value because people throw it around like nothing. 

Don't believe these shows or movies's concept of love.  The true way to love a person is by getting to know them first, gaining their respect, and let it transform into love.  Looking for love is like looking for water when you have an ice cube.  It's not water until it goes through a heating process.  A relationship must go through a process before there can be love.  You shouldn't try to speed the process or skip a process because the relationship won't be complete.  I think that the best relationships are based off of mutual respect and getting to know a person.  The better you know a person, the better a relationship you have.  Why is it that we are closer to our old friends than the ones we've just meet?  It's because we got to know our old friends over the years.  We weren't searching for love, just trying to have fun and when things came along, we saw how much of a friend they would be in those times.  That is why you shouldn't call just anybody your "best friend or friends".  This takes years to build.

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