If you want lasting love, then you must get to work. It takes more than that feeling of love to keep a relationship going and going well.

I have women friends who think their man has to do everything, like do a constant song and dance, to keep them happy. It helps that i have some experience in the area, with a failed marriage, and having been wooed by married, most of the time, bored or disillusioned men. We can learn a lot from the mistakes of others. Someone's loss can be your gain, and vise versa.

If you solely rely on the initial attraction that got you and your partner together, it's not like magic that will keep you glued forever. Even magic needs working.

We know it takes two to tango. Better yet, if one of the partner knows how to 'boogie', it's easy enough for one to keep in step with whoever is leading.

Think of it like business. If you don't invest, you get nothing back in return. If you want love, then you must give it. If you want lots of love, then, invest more. That means, time, energy, thought, attention, etc. Yes, you get nothing for nothing. Love is work. If you put in a lot of hard work, then it will be very rewarding.

Keep it sizzling. Avoid boredom. When two people are constantly together, there's a tendency for things to become dull. So, to keep the fire going, you need ways and means to kindle things. Love talk is important. Always affirm the love and appreciation you have for each other. It's ok to be mushy. It's just between the two of you anyway. Touching is a must, for how can you be intimate without the caressing, kissing, hugging, coddling, and so on.

Gifts and surprises. Somehow some folks worry too much about the expense of giving. This is one area where you must turn on your creative juices. Think, think, think. Research, and get some ideas from others. Don't wait for an occassion to do something unique and special. It will go a long long way!

Stay for the long haul. You're not there just for the good times.The strenght of your relationship is tested when you face problems. Bad times will come, so be sure your partner is secure that you are not going to quit at the time he/she needs you the most.