Dont hide in the dark /abuse.trauma

As a victim of sexual abuse one fears the world and everything in it and often the light in every day never appears . Imagine a world full of blackness and full of pain a world where you can't find an escape . To many victims of sexual abuse this is often their world . At first I must explain I'm not an expert in this field just a sexual abuse survivor so I just write from experience and what I learned . But I have found a world where it does let the light in and the pain and hurt can be taken away its right here and now let me show you how .

I know its hard but you have to let go of all the emotional baggage either by getting counselling from a sexual assault counsellor in your local area now we lots of help out there but its up to you to get help its like getting a horse to drink water the horse has to be thirsty first . Men are stubborn (sorry guys) but we are. We are usually brought up to be tough, don't cry don't show your emotions etc . I believe that to be a load of crap its OK if guys feel pain and cry or tell someone their true feeling without getting crap for it then why not men are all human beings with true feelings . One of the real problem is trust when abused the trust goes so you are certainly not going to say anything if you don't trust the person who's trying to help counsel you but you really have to get past that. I'm afraid in order for you to move on with your life which is the most important thing .You might need counselling maybe talking about it with close family and friends help as well, its just if you bottle it up you have to be careful it doesn't explode . I tried to get help I went to sarc counselling for a while but I was told I had to go on antidepressants which I had been on before but that's not for me, don't get me wrong antidepressants has it place and does help people but to me it just adds a bandaid effect I rather take fish oil tablet's which is a natural antidepressant and also helps anxiety as well .One thing you must do is take care of yourself mentally and physically its so easy to take alcohol and drugs to ease the pain and then get caught in a roller coaster ride which never seems to stop. When you are high all this traumatic events comes out and you get angry then into fights. You get so depressed you want to kill yourself and some people do you'll be amazed by the number of suicide's by sexual abuse victims because they feel nobody can help them and they feel alone in the dark .

One of the best things that help me is yoga and meditation I really believe that has been my life saver Yoga calms the mind and heals the body most victims suffer from depression anxiety post traumatic stress disorder low self esteem well yoga can help all these and in a drug free approach to healing yourself you can buy DVDs all go to yoga classes in your area you can listen to meditation Cd's which really help calm and sooth the mind and body .

A good cry and a good hug can go along way towards the healing process so please try that with someone you love like family, your kids even great friends . We need a very strong support system in order to cope I was very lucky with that .

You can also buy Hypnosis Cd's or even try Hypnosis for sexual abuse trauma it can be very effective in dealing with the symptoms of sexual abuse just look for a good reliable one . There are alot of good books out there that help you work on gaining back your own strengths. Even keeping a journal about the things you need to say but lack the courage to say in words helps you to get it out.

The decision to go to the police and report the abuse is traumatic enough and I'm afraid not many people do it, many sexual abused crimes go on without ever being reported or some people wait until till their older I did just to get out the burden and self guilt and let go basically the sooner you do the better for an conviction if that's what you want or even criminal compensation which you might be entitled to . The police now have more powers to convict pedophiles and what I understand there is no time limit for sexual abuse victims(survivors) well I know in Australia theire isn't . Also if the offender has commited the crime more than once the more people come forward the better .

In saying all this, this whole process can be too daunting for sexual abuse survivors reliving the event the trial being put on stand and your whole life out there for people to watch and judge you and theres a chance you might not get a conviction I mean we have to face facts we are playing with peoples lives here this is a serious issue thats needs a serious answer and what is that answer ? We need to speak out let the whole world know whats going on here we need to open the curtains and let the light in and Dont hide in the dark anymore for our kids sakes and for our future kids sake.