After the sideways I’ll continue with my 2 part hub about “Dos and Don’ts for husbands and wives” We are done with the ladies with the Dos and Don'ts for wives, so now let’s start with the Dos and Don’ts for husbands.

Do appreciate her

           Whether your wife is a career woman or a full-time wife, do not think that what you do is harder than what she is doing and that you are the one who should be valued more. It is not easy to be a career wife and neither it is easy to be a full-time wife. Yes it is true that it is part of her obligation as your wife to be of service to you and your children but she will be happy to know that she is well appreciated and thus she will not go weary of her daily obligations.

Do listen to her

            Be a friend to her. A woman wants somebody to share her thoughts, emotions and sentiments. She will love you more if she knows you are interested in what she had to say.

Do provide her basic needs

            Sometimes love is not enough, you have to take charge of your family’s needs. It is said that “If any man provides not for his own and specially for those of his own household, he has denied the faith and worse than an infidel” (1 Timothy 5:8)

Do assure your love to her often

             A woman wanted to have an assurance of your love to her. It is not enough that she knows that you love her and that she is the only one. It will be music in her ear if she will hear it directly from you. Being sweet and sensitive will not do you harm. Just do it. You will not know where it will lead you, if you know what I mean maybe a night to remember.

Do support her

              Sometimes people around like your parents, siblings, relatives and friends will see flaws in your wife. You should be in your wife’s side no matter what. Stand up for her and if you realize that they are right then talk to her about it; just the two of you. Nobody’s perfect. Everybody has their own flaws.

Do not lie to her

               I’ll emphasize this, never ever lie to her or else it will be hard for her to trust you again. It is easy to forgive but sometimes very hard to forget. One more thing you and your wife are one now, whatever it is, she should know.

Do not decide on your own

           Your wife is your partner. Do not make a decision without talking it out with your other half. It is best if you decide together. For one thing your wife can’t blame you for some wrong decisions that you’ve made, but the most important thing is that you are equal in all things. She will be pleased about it.

Do not be jealous

            Do not be jealous especially if you have nothing to be jealous about. Do not keep your wife in the closet; let her mingle with friends and relatives. Over jealousy can kill you. It will eat you up whole. Stop being possessive. You will not notice that you are becoming an ugly person already, with all those doubts and suspicions. Be positive, have trust. You don’t want her to doubt you as well. This goes for the ladies as well.

Do not forget important dates

            Occasions especially birthdays and anniversaries are very important to women. Forget it and you’re doom. LOL! Kidding aside, I know men don’t intend to hurt their wives by forgetting but at least make an effort to remember. If you know you’re the type who easily forgets then you definitely need a planner.

Do not flirt with other girls

             Don’t stop to be friendly but stop the touching, hugging and kissing. What is big no-no to women who are married is a no-no as well to husbands. No double standard please.

Other than these dos and don’ts one important thing is to make God the center of your relationship and all the good things will follow. Every marriages encounter problems. Separation, annulment, or divorce is not an answer. I f you think of an escape every time you are in a difficulty, you will not solve anything.

• ·“An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband.” - Booth Tarkington
  
• “All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership.” - Ann Landers Says Truth Is Stranger..., 1968
• “To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup, Whenever you're wrong admit it; Whenever you're right shut up.” – Ogden Nash
• “Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” - Barnett R. Brickner
• “A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendships, all the enjoyment of sense and reason - and indeed all the sweets of life.” - Joseph Addison
• “A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he marries." - anonymous quote
• “Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner." - Amy Bloom