Education of Youth
56All who have meditated on the art of governing mankind have been convinced that the fate of empires depends on the education of youth.
I really love the above quote by Aristotle because I believe it contains so much truth. And because it was written over 2,300 years ago, you would think we would have come to truly understand and abide by the wisdom.
Your first reaction might be that the general population is far better educated today than at any time in history. But I would ask that you consider what the term "education of youth" means. Are we educating our youth or simply filling them with information? Has our education system become an information system?
How would you measure a good or adequate education?
All you need to do is look at our societal problems to understand that we are doing a rather poor job of educating our youth. In America, the divorce rate is now about 50% for first marriages, for second and third marriages the rate is even higher. We have the highest per capita incarceration rate of any country in the world.
Daniel Goleman, in his book Emotional Intelligence: Why it can Matter More Than IQ, pointed out that IQ only accounts for 20% of a person's success in life. Social intelligence and emotional intelligence are the major determinants of the level of success we achieve in life. Yet as a society we seem to do a very poor job of providing the youth the emotional and social education they need.
It is not the sole responsibility of our education system to educate our youth. The parents and caregivers of the children have a duty to properly educate our youth. They can and should be good role models for the children under their care. But if they are not properly educated, how can they educate their children?
Which brings me to my point, what is the single most important lesson you can teach our youth? It is simply this. For every action you take or fail to take, there is a consequence. Many actions have delayed consequences. The further and better you can look down the road and understand the consequences, the better choices you will be able to make. And the choices we make determine the quality of our lives.
We often look at the immediate benefit and fail to look at the delayed consequences of our actions. It is easy to see the instant gratification from taking certain actions. We often fail to even consider the possible downside of our actions. We think we are immune to the universal law of cause and effect.
If we could get our youth to understand the high cost of enjoying instant gratification and not being concerned about the delayed consequences, we would be well on our way to educating our youth and thereby strengthening our future.
If we don't, our society will continue building up a huge social debt. We are seeing the cost of this debt every day. If we don't correct the problem, the deficit will only grow and will eventually bankrupt society.
For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Galatians 6:7
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I was with my 3 boys last night at a mother's day dinner out, and I noticed I still said to them what I said as they were growing up. (They're still "growing up")
"Think Ahead...." It applies then and now...predicting outcomes, waiting for gratification, caring about others; doing no harm; producing an income; paying for what you want and need; stoping waste; -- and countless other skills, involve thinking ahead.
Thanks for bringing that thought to focus. As parents, and as citizens in this great nation..our responsibility is huge. =)
Thanks for your comments. I am totally convinced that unless we start changing the behavior of children early, we are going to see an increase in the social problems that are now all too common. Yes we do need to wake up.
I wish there were more teachers like you. While we certainly need to learn the three R's, we also need someone teaching us life skills.
I am living near New Orleans. I wrote a powerful essay (that's some of the comments I received from it) on lessons learned from Katrina. I will need to publish it.
I know you have lots of wisdom to share about teaching. I would like to see you compile what you know and share with the world. It needs it. Badly.
If we could only get people to think ahead.
You certainly are a very wise teacher. My fear is unless we can get people to start giving up the instant gratification mindset and start thinking ahead we are going to find as a nation we will not be able to afford the eventual cost.
John, I can't agree more! My children are involved in school, sports, youth groups and scouts. I am happy for the multitude of teachers involved in each of these activities and the unique perspectives they each bring for my kids. But where are the parents? As a scout leader myself, I am amazed at how little some of my 10 year olds know about life in general. Scouting teaches a lot of base values, but not many kids get involved these days (or stay involved). Parents cannot just check out and think that their children will learn everything they need to know outside the home. Talk to your kids about mistakes that you made growing up. Instruct them about important things such as credit cards (you have to pay them off -they have high interest rates - you pay so much more for a purchase, etc) Ah well, I am writing a book here. Great HUB! Steph
Yes John, what an insightful hub. I especially liked what you quoted about IQ accounting for only 20% of our success. I would like to think that there's something that parents can and should give to their children that has little to do with IQ. Call it common sense, call it insight, call it intuition, call it whatever, but parents need to do their part to develop their children into active contributers to society. Of course this can be done more sufficiently with a proper education, but simply putting your kid in school and having them work on their intellect isn't enough! The schools can make your kids smart, but it's the job of the parent to make things stick and to give their children something that the school system can't.
John, I am working on some teaching talking points for an ebook as I thought that might be a quicker pulication. I have a source that will blast it out for me into cyber space...and I will offer it at my website and here. Thanks for your confidence!
I would occasionally run into the parent who would think disciplining issues were "my problem " and "my job" to handle and teach in the classroom. Sure, a classroom of 25 children is not the place to teach the quantity of discipline some of the kids needed. I could help, but not do it all. Parents -- some -- just turn the kids out to pasture at the school and hope they "graze" on good grass.
too much left to chance...Schools are having to take over parenting. in locus parentis takes on new meaning...
But, if the family won't the schools are going to have to make up the difference and add socialization at a higher level to their curriculum -- =)
Steph,
I guess some parents get caught up in the chaos of life and don't take the time to realize the importance of teaching/nurturing their children. The core beliefs need to be instilled in the formative years. But it is too easy to think the children are getting that education from school/church or some other organization.
There is a direct connection between the social and emotional skills learned at an early age and the ultimate success - success being defined as making a positive contribution to society.
Obviously the world need more parents and teachers like you.
Wedding consultant. Thanks for you comments.
I believe it is the parent's job to teach their children the core values in life. Unfortunately, if the parents do not have it all together, then it is impossible for them to pass it on to their children. I think somehow we must make a real effort to either get the parents to do their job or someone must do it for them. We cannot continue on the current path.
Marisue, why not consider an interactive teaching process. I find too many people are too lazy to read. They would prefer someone talk to them. You might consider tele-classes and/or CDs. It might also be easier on you. After all, writing can be extremely time consuming. Talkinig about what you already know might take less time and benefit more people.
Very true- some parents don't possess the capabilities to pass things on to their children.
Excellent hub, John and your point is well taken. It's about being accountable and accepting responsibility for your own actions -- and Aristotle had it right. Wonderful quote. Thanks
Robie,
Thanks for you comments. ANd you are totallly correct. We must accept responsibility.
As for as accountability, I love what Emerson said about that, "Our chief want (need) in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can."
I think our biggest obstacle in dealing with this problem is the fact that so many of the areas that would definitely benefit from education look unfavorably on it, yet the majority of the caregivers in that same area place the blame solely on educators. It becomes nearly impossible for teachers to give the students information AND try to educate them entirely on their own. That doesn't mean that they don't try, but when there is no reinforcement at home or even in other classes (or in earlier grades), it becomes near impossible to try to educate students in the 37 or so minutes a day that you are in contact with them. I speak from personal experience as I just left my job as a teacher after 2 1/2 years.
Great informative hub. It needs saying thats for sure. But I blame our learned government and the so goody people and their lawyers for taking the control away from the parents.
You cannot control a kid, or earn the childs respect if you cannot have the control. I remember when police had respect. Now their is no respect for anyone. So how can we teach our children when the governing powers cannot get things right either.
I am very lucky I have two grandchildren that do as told. Occasionally the boy rebels but they were brought up to know right from wrong. And if we do not instil this into our kids. Then our feel sorry for our grandkids children. It will be mayhem. Thanks for a very good hub John
You're correct. Instant gratification is what it's all about now, and it has ruined many lives, not to mention the US economy. And the moral education lies square on the shoulders of the parents- the school system has enough problems to solve.
Great Post !!! Tried posting something similar in my HUB.
My Advice, I am sorry that you left your teaching position. I sense that we need more dedicated and insightful teachers like you. But I do understand that so many things are stacked against teaching. I was listening to a comment a couple of years ago and the question was: "Who determines the school agenda?" Not the School Board, not the teachers ... the vocal parents and their advocates. And the most vocal ones generally have their own agenda - and educating the students is not at the core of the agenda.
Eileen - I sure worry about the direction society is heading. I agree about respect for authority .. we seem to have lost it, not just for the police, but also the teachers and so many others.
Thanks for adding your valuable comments.
Angela ... I just finished writing an essay on the lay away plan ... remember those ... where you put an item on lay away, paid for it and then took it home. Now it is swipe the credit card, take the item and pay later. I think there is a parallel in the way we think in other areas of our lives. Enjoy now, pay later. And the "social, emotional and real debt" is mounting. I suspect that we are going to bankrupt society with the buy now, pay later plans.
Senfunn ... thanks for stopping by and commenting.
I absolutely agree with that quote. Unfortunately, it seems as if those who truly are passionate about their jobs and want their students to be successful that endure the most criticism and get the least amount of support. I often heard from my own administrators that it was because "I could handle it," but at some point that stops being a compliment and we wonder what we should do to show that we CAN'T always handle it. Thanks for your response!
My Advice ... I do hope you have found or will soon find some way to channel your passion and offer the help and guidance our youth need. It is folks like you that can really make a difference. And the way things seem to be going, there are too few folks like you. So you have to do double duty.
John, excellent hub! I agree completely. Raising children in this society is a daily challenge, and I don't think that the public school system works. Or helps. Or makes it easier in any way. Parents really do need to develop or maintain a strong relationship with their children and guide them through the early years. Just talking and sharing what you know, what you have learned from life will help them understand the difference between real life and media shows them. They can not assume that they will learn what they need to know at school.
Thank you for this thought provoking hub - looking forward to more. :)
And, if Marisue stops in again, best of luck with the book! I would get in line for it. :)
Amy,
Thanks for you valuable comments and insights. I do believe that unless we start doing a better job of raising our children we will continue to see social problems grow,
And you are right about Marisue. There is going to be a line for her book(s).
thank you amy, I'll move you to the front of that line....if there is one!!! LOL
Marisue
Great, motivating hub...I always told my daughters that no matter how much they tried to contemplate the consequences of their actions...there would always be consequence they couldn't foresee. And that their actions would always require them to attend to the unforeseen consequences. I got really blank stares until they were in their teens! Now in their 20s, they're really starting to fully 'get it." My 'ad nauseum' statement to my daughters, they both had it memorized by age 7 was "my job is not to indulge your childhood, my job is to form good grownups." They had it memorized...but only lately have they truly understood my commitment to their adult lives, not their all-so-brief childhoods. Although, we did have lovely times during their childhoods that i'll always treasure.
Desert ... I love your statement and more importantly the message. I know the world would be much better off if all parents understood their job the way you did.
Thanks for adding to the value by sharing your experience.
Your hub is so right on. I am a Special Educator who teaches high school students who are moderate to profoundly mentally challenged. I have dyslexia and dyscalcula. Of my 4 children my eldest has profound learning disabilities. I have worked in the business world for 13 years and have taught for 11 years. I have a BA in education and MEd in Special Education. I believe strongly in accepting consequences for your actions. We have a saying at my home don't act special ed. What we mean is do not give excuses or use a crutch because of what life and our own actions have handed us. We need hard working honest people in our world and it takes a team to make this happen.
Kevin, I certainly applaude you for your work with special needs children. I do believe if we can get children to see the consequences and to look forward two or three steps in the consequences chain, then we have a chance in improving the world.
Thanks for reading and adding your valuable comments based on real life experience.
Right on... As a "professional sub teacher" for a dozen years or mor I had a good opportunity to observe a number of teachers and teacing styles.
The system puts a lot of number of restrictions on teachers -- it is not an easy job, but some still manage to be an inspiration. Too bad it is such a challenge. And too bad that some parents have forgotten that so much of education depends on them.
I think that maybe if we could find a way to fully engage the parents in the child's education, the teachers, the educations system and our communities would all be better off. And the child would get a much better education.
Thanks for your comments.
Parents used to be engaged in their children's life education. That's what parental responsibility was all about.
There was a time not so long ago when there were no junior football leagues, no pee-wee soccer enterprises, and no baby-in-the-womb, pre-education via directionally microphoned DVD players.
There was a time when our children were not viewed as markets for the sale of uniforms, music delivered through high-tech gadgets, and of course, 5-fav family cell phone plans. (Our children used to be the targeted markets for sugared cereal.)
Parents let this happen. They gave up their responsibility for their children's education in the pursuit of, what? The McManse in the suburbs? The Hummer? Peer pressure?
While parents were setting their goals on the immediate gratification of what dollars can buy, they farmed out their kids' education to others. Why not? That's what dollars are for, after all. Whether it be paying those dollars to public or private schools, the thought that money pays for everything removed parents from the responsibility of being the educators of their children---*I'm paying for it, let them do it.* Like a contract.
As always, John, an excellent hub generating excellent comments. And I just put my 2 cents in.
Sally,
Your two cents worth was worth a lot more than two cents. You have added avaluable insight - really hitting the nail on the head.
We know how to correct the problem, getting parents to re-take responsibility. Will that happen? If it doesn't, them I am not sure the fate of our empire looks that promising.
You are absolutely right abdicating responsibility for parenting , teaching by example. Getting the basics right , good manners, respect for elders, respect for your self. the ability to self censor. learning to listen and to read. Instead we live in a world of sensory overload, sound bites, instant analyses. pop psychology, ignoring accumulated wisdom and experience. But I guess we all had to learn the hard way. think back to your childhood and youth. Are we any different?
Great Hub
I couldn't agree with you more John. WE, parent have children and it's our responsibility to make our children fit for society. It is not the babysitter's or the next-door neighbors job to raise our children to become upstanding adults.
Absolute great hub regards Zsuzsy
Zsuzsy,
I think there is no more noble (and underperformed) duty in life than to properly prepare our children. Thanks for your comments.
Sixty,
I agree that most of our youth is spend learning the hard way. But it is my belief that if we as parents, mentors, guiding lights would be more attune to and communicate more effectively with the youth, we might save them some difficult times.
I certainly did not have as much guidance as I would have liked. In part because my mom had her hands full with siblings and in part because she raised her children the way she was raised. It is unfortunate, children do not come with an instruction manual.
John Unfortunately some of the instruction manuals out there, Dr Spock for example, have given rise to a generation of spoilt, me, me people who are after instant gratification and have no mores or morals particularly visible in the business arena and even when one looks at Bill Clinton or any of the current pop culture icons this is visible and what example are they to their children in turn?
Thanks for your thoughtful response.
I totally agree. We must change our instant gratification culture or else we will exhaust all our natural resources on consumer products that attempt to satisfy our wants but exceed our needs and we will bankrupt our cultural values (if we have not already done so.)
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marisuewrites says:
3 months ago
As the family goes...so goes the country. When the structure of the country's families are weak, unempowered, not actively engaged in teaching the necessary skills for their kids to interact in healthy ways...the country will also be showing power hungry, rich-get-richer characteristics. Healthy families, both mentally and physically produce healthy nations. HGTV has a slogan now, about re-decorating. They say "Start At Home."
I think it's way past time we do some home re-decorating and start at home, by leading and teaching the basics in life.
When I was teaching school, I spent the first 3 months working on behavior and with some, it took all year. (I taught 1st grade.) I'm not saying in all cases, but in most, I could tell how much time the parents spent with their kids, within the first week of school. Some kids, of course are challenges....but for the most part, the strength of the family is shown through the children. The strength of a nation is shown through the family. As the family works, produces, lives, so goes the nation.
Come on, America...get with it! Back to Basics, start at home.
Another thought-provoking HUB, John!!! thumbs up!!
Do you think you will be able to write about your experiences with the hurricane? What a series of life teaching hubs that would be!!
Are you still in New Orleans? How are you doing? =) Smiles to you and yours....Marisue