Enjoy Being A Mother !

I was sitting down late this afternoon having a good old brain storm about my kids. As a mother to 3 I take my role extremely seriously, in fact those that know me will probably say I’m rather old fashioned as a mother.

Not dark aged old fashioned, although I don’t believe that kids are there to be baby sat, and shifted onto someone else’s hands. Of course everyone’s entitled to their own opinion……

Anyway as my 2 eldest kids were at school, I was sitting having a brain storm about my son’s behaviour in particular. As a mother its awful when your child goes ‘off the wall’ so to speak. I must confess during the time I was thinking, I came to the conclusion that I have spoiled the kids myself, with my very own hands. Yes the love that I hold towards them as a mother has had an adverse effect. That’s something I guess we all forget as parents.

The way we behave, reflects in our kids behaviour. The first lessons are learnt at home not at school, In fact the whole job role of a mother is extremely time consuming. In modern day times, there are so many mothers that are forced to go out and put bread on the table, and I think that society as a whole has gotten a little more laid back about what’s socially acceptable.

With so many teen age pregnancies on the rise, kids that are having kids, doesn’t really make for the next generation to come out ‘baked to perfection as they would say! Of course a kid isn’t like baking a cake, but you have to know the correct ingredients to put into the recipe in order to make your child behave how you want as a mother.

My son is becoming very disobedient, and it is terrible when I’m out in public with him. His behaviour is very disruptive, and listening is certainly not a gift that he posses (at the moment) My goal is to change him around, from a young age. I’m lucky the fact that he is 4 years old is on my side. It means that there is still time to change him.

 I tried to search out the internal problem, and I came to the conclusion it really is that I had my kids at a young age, although my husband is older than me he is by no long shot a more responsible adult, and maturity is something that hasn’t quite hit him, and that’s saying something as he’s in his 30s now!

There are things that parents shouldn’t talk about in front of their kids, arguments for example in our home had(until recently ) taken place in front of the kids. Not good. ..

I now realise the areas where we went wrong with our kids, and my hope is to prevent other parents making the same mistake!

Below are a few tips that I’ve picked up over the years of being a qualified mother. (not a perfect one by any means.

· Don’t argue in front of kids.

· Don’t gossip or talk about people in front of your kids ( you never know when they will embarrass you ! Gossip is teaching them to talk too much. My son could win the marathon for gossip; in fact he would come in with a gold medal the ins and outs of our household affairs come trickling off the tip of the poor little mites tongue.

· If you and the child’s father fall out, don’t show the kids that there’s a problem (they will use this as a weapon!!!) kids are clever when they want their own way.

· Ever make comments such as ‘your mother knows best ‘ask your dad/ Always show togetherness in front of the kids. If the kids pick up on the fact that you don’t have understanding they will utilise this to worm their way into your shopping budget, and get those much wanted gifts!

· Smacking children doesn’t work, Sit with them, and talk in a diplomatic manner – talk to them as though you’re talking to an adult.

· Wait to have kids! There’s no rush, the more mistakes you make in life – the more wisdom your kids will have!! I’m not being critical of this that have young kids, as I was a mother at 19. I certainly don’t have regrets, but I would change the way that I had raised them, knowing what I do now.

You can never turn back the clock, so treat everyday as a mother as a new one. Enjoy the time you have with the kids, no matter how naughty they are! Remember they won’t be small forever.

Last but not least – treat all your kids equally, don’t make them feel as though there is any difference. Sibling rivalry can easily erupt, even at a young age.

Make every moment with your kids special!

Enjoy being a mother it’s a blessing.