A young man recently wrote to me and expressed his desire to stop wearing panties. He asked my advice on the matter and immediately I was thrown into something of a quandry. The bulk of my articles are aimed at supporting the idea of men wearing women's panties, and whatever else they feel like wearing, so to write an article that advocates the ceasing of such behavior may at first seem hypocritical and contradictory. I am going to write this article however, and I am going to reveal what I consider to be the secret to quitting not only wearing women's clothing, but stopping almost any behavior. It takes time, but it works.

Why? Well, I am well aware that for many men, especially young men coming to terms with the fact that they like wearing women's things, life is not a panty scattered parade. The cold, hard reality is that many men attracted to women's things struggle with self loathing that can even turn into self harm. Some men become isolated and some men commit suicide. When this happens it is a terrible waste of a life and a stone cold reminder of how powerful warped thinking can be.

Is it necessary to feel self loathing because you're a man who wears panties? No. No. No. A thousand times no. The reality is, that if you try to 'quit' women's things when you feel so conflicted, so drawn to them yet so repulsed by yourself, you will find it near impossible to stop.

It is entirely possible for you to put away panties and women's things of course. You can throw them away, you can lock them in a dungeon. I am sure that most men reading this article have already 'binged' and 'purged' their panty collections more times than they can count.

The secret to quitting anything is to remove the attachment you have to it. Whilst you fight against the idea of wearing panties, you will be unable to stop. You will simply cycle back and forth, abstaining for hours, days, weeks, months or years, but then, eventually you will slip on those cursed Olga Secret Hug panties and you will feel the brief high of enjoyment followed by the deluge of a thousand self hating thoughts tinged with the regret of having failed to stop wearing lingerie.

In order to stop the urge to wear panties, you need to accept yourself in panties, you need to accept the desire. You need to make panties as commonplace in your mind as woolly socks or denim jeans. When you have accepted the desire completely, when you no longer fight against it, then you can let it go naturally, in the same way you don't currently obsess about wearing Grandma's tea cosy.

Panties aren't crack, they're not physically or psychologically addictive. The addiction, if you will, is created in your own mind. So if you want to quit wearing panties, I advise you to wear them every day. I advise you to thoroughly embrace them. Get several pairs and treat them like any normal part of your wardrobe.

Note what I just said there, it is important. Don't just wear them when you're in the mood. Wear them all the time. Every day. It won't work if you keep getting them out only when the mood strikes you because you will be simply continuing the cycle.

Heck, buy a few bras, wear a skirt. Dressing in women's clothing doesn't harm others and it doesn't harm you, so just go wild and wear whatever you want. You'll either get used to the clothing and come to a healthy acceptance which allows you to enjoy it for what it is in a non destructive way, or you will simply lose interest over time. Seriously, it is a win - win outcome, guaranteed, or your money back.