The essential advice for the first year of marriage is to remind yourself that your wedding vows have only been spoken a year ago to love, honor and obey each other. There has been issues with the obey part of the wedding vow but in today's society it is certain that the obeying is a two way deal. As it has only been a year, entrench those values into your marriage as much as possible being careful not to overwhelm him. Men like their space and even though you have been married only a year, do not try to cling on him but give him the space he needs. Men appreciate women who have their own interest and can build themselves up without being with them all the time. Use this first year of marriage to create a routine in the relationship and in the home that is happy and productive.

The first year of marriage is full of sex, sex and more sex as the boundaries have been broken and after all now he is your husband and its legal, right. You are going to want to abstain from too much togetherness and get used to the reality of marriage. Marriage is a committment that brings two people together to have a happy life together. A happy life together means equal respect for each other and to cherish each other forever. A recent report just issued said that the union of sex is more joyful when the frequency is reduced to not a everyday occurence. The report was surprising but a study was done and those were the results.

Another essential advisement is to get to know each other everyday living habits like where to shop for groceries, whether or not grocery shopping will be a shared event, and who and how often the laundry will get done. Other everyday living habits that you will have to learn is how and where the meal are going to be served and whether of not yours is to be a three meal a day family. Also, you need to know if he has special exercise routines and whether or not working out is at all important to him. You need to know who will be doing the household chores and whether or not that will be a shared experience. Basically, you will have to incorporate his way of living into the way that you are used to doing everyday chores on a normal basis.

The first year of marriage is very important because men are creatures of habit as we all are. If you are working now and do not plan on working when the children starts to arrive, the two of you need to discuss that right away. If you want to have a separate bank account which of course you will not because of the togetherness factor of the first year, nevertheless, the issue needs to be discussed.

However you want the rest of your marriage to grow in happiness, you must do the same things in the way of everyday life as if you all have been married for a long time. Why? Because marriage however, happy, can become a routine and you as the wife do not want to set yourself up for failure. You will be setting yourself up for failure if you think that you can continue the same living routines that you have now that will probably change as you get older. Men are very practical and if you routinely perform a chore then they are going to expect you to continue. So if you see for example that you would like to start a business after a few years and have children after a few years and have to stop working, he must understand that the handling of finances may change when that time comes.

The most essential advice is that you need to find out where his heart is now. As a newly married woman, of course, you think that his heart is with you and that is where his heart should be. It is said that your treasure is where your heart is so if you find him spending more time with other people or spending his money on exorbant things other than you, then bring it to his attention. You are lucky because in the first year of marriage, habits and routines are just beginning to emerge. You want the emergence to be in your favor and you have the power to get the attention where you want it to be.

Many couples start their marriage with the promise to say "I Love You" at the end of each call regardless of where the telephone call originates. That is a sentimental gesture but realistically that habit may become a bit corny after awhile. Start with habits that are long term and that can be sustained.

Do not get upset if he forget your birthday or anniversay the first year of marriage, that is bound to happen as in the situation comedies. Why? You should not be concerned about the itty bitty things like that because men are not prone to remember details as women are. Do not think that a man will go against his nature for you. Men are just not made that way to remember details. However if you feel very strongly about an event, an occasion,or an happening and he forgets,then you need to let him know how you feel right away.

Your husband during the first year of marriage should treat you as he would treat himself. Only you can tell if his behavior is changing and hopefully you will never see a change in his loving behavior towards you. However,watch how he deals with the treasures in his life and early on during the first year of marriage, make sure that you remain more than the apple of his eye but his most treasured partner in a relationship to which you both have committed yourselves for a lifetime.