Today Snoop, Stat and Cap tackle the difficult topic of interracial dating and how it effects the people in and around the relationship. The letter reads:

I am a black female in an interracial relationship with a white male. My parents don't like that and can't accept it. How do I tell my boyfriend about it and should I introduce them?

**Jenny Snoop** First and foremost, although I'm sure your parents are probably a strong factor in your life, you don't live your life for them. If your parents can't accept the fact that you are in a happy and nourishing relationship, then you just have to move on without them.

As far you introducing your boyfriend to your family, that really wouldn't be a wise move. You already know they have an issue with interracial dating, and you would just cause more drama that you do not need.

You can however tell your boyfriend that, although your parents are not accepting of the situation, you are content and that is all that matters. However if you are considering taking your relationship to a farther level then most definitely you need to have a heart to heart with your parents.

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***Black Status*** I say don't be afraid to tell your boyfriend. Let him know how they feel and then let him know how you feel. More times than not, he will understand. This is your relationship. As long as the two of you are happy... You and your boyfriend are the only people who matter.

As for introducing your boyfriend to them, ask first. You don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable. If they don't want to meet him, don't force the issue. The longer the relationship lasts, the more your parents will be curious about who their daughter is involved with.

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***Cap*** Now, I’m thinking on a totally different level. Introduce him to the family once you’ve prepared him. To me, it’s all about getting your boyfriend use to being in and around a black family that way your parents will realize that this guy is cool where it counts…inside. If you follow these steps, introductions are easy.

Step number one: rent The Color Purple, Roots, and Friday, and have your boyfriend memorize the good lines. That says to your parents “this guy knows our media, he has interest in us as a people”. Rent Guess Who for your parents, and laugh loudly at all of Ashton Kutchers jokes and say “Wow, they are a funny people”. After a while your parents will agree. When the end comes up, loudly declare “That movie had a good moral”.

Number two: If you’re close to an HBCU, pledge Omega Psi Phi. Once your man’s a Q dog he’s in good company and his fellow brothers like Bill Cosby and Shaquille O’Neal will give him the approving nod. Your parents can’t say no to a guy who roles with Dr. Cosby and Shaq. They’re our greatest national treasures. Make sure to play Atomic Dog at dinner.

Step three: Bring your man to the hood and give him a book full of black jokes. Once the entire neighborhood is done beating the crap out of him, they’ll welcome him in, seeing as it is the tendency of our people to befriend those we beat up. Think Apollo Creed and Rocky.

Final Step: Right before you introduce him to your family, hang pictures of Barack Obama all over your parents house and Lenny Kravitz or Alicia Keys posters here and there. This will remind them of all the possibilities this relationship can bring.

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