Status has the week off, so Jenn and Cap are going solo...uh, duo. This week's letter touches on the topic of friends and love. It goes as follows: 

My best friend and I are both in love with the same man. She has no clue that I have feelings for him, even though she's been after him longer. He is everything I've ever wanted in a man and I really like him. My friend dates tons of guys all the time, and I rarely date cause I'm a shy person. Is it possible to work things out with this guy without trashing my friendship? Please Help!
 

**Jenny Snoop** Honestly all is fair in love and war!!! This young man is not dating either of you, so technically he is open for anyone.

Now here is the hard part is this guy worth ruining your friendship for? If he is showing you more attention then politely have a chat with your friend and express your interest and tell her he feels the same. If he doesn't look at you twice then don't risk it, another guy will come along. Also you could just be taking this guy's kindness as affection, because you are extra shy.

I suggest you try opening up a little more by casually flirting with other guys then chasing after the one your friend actually wants.

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***Cap*** Let's be real...you're a girl. And being a girl, you're 88 percent more likely to get a new best friend every year and to ditch the one you have now to the side. Guys keep best friends for decades, girls...not so much. Like Jenn said, go to war (by the way, she forgot about the Geneva Protocol...look it up, all is not fair).

You two are bound to break up anyway, I can see it now. You and your soon to be ex-friend will probably go through a rough patch where you do hateful stuff to each other like logging onto her facebook page and changing her job title to "backstabbing hussy"....that's what ex-friends are for. Ask yourself, do you really need that many friends?

Seriously, you said it yourself  she "dates tons of guys all the time"...which is a nice way of saying that she's a call girl. If you really want this friendship to last through the ordeal...count to ten...by then she'll be messing with a new guy, because she seems like she bores easily. As for this guy, put it all out there...literally. Show cleavage, laugh at his dumb jokes and fix your hair and this one should be in the bag.

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