All us humans are such visual creatures. Our senses are hit with images, smells, sounds, tastes and so many people that are such appealing eye candy causing stirs of arousal. What to do now?

The days of recommending self-flagellation with a cat-a-nine-tails whip are gone except with, maybe certain service providers. Married men and women risk becoming another divorce statistic if we act on our lusts but the thoughts do persist.

Men and women all around us can most likely be found guilty of harboring lustful thoughts about another. The question now is how best to deal with these sinful ponderings and escape the further buildup and sense of guilt?

First, we accept it’s a natural occurring instinct in all of us, so forgive yourself. Second, understand that your body is releasing dopamine which begins and progresses toward the goal of gratification.

Initial attraction to another stimulates the release of dopamine. Frequent revival of fantasies release yet more pleasure until action is taken. Higher levels of dopamine to reach pleasure is required, if there are continuously high levels of dopamine in the body as they do become desensitized. Dopamine can actually create a addiction but that’s only in extreme situations.

Fear not, as there are steps you can take to control your lust that may help and are as follows ;

– Trigger, identify the triggers, what time does your mind wander? and what is so distracting? Change your viewing direction.

– Restriction, cut off access to opportunities that stimulate your lust. The married ones who make this a practice are very much admired for their strength and honor.

– Unavoidable, plan for resisting the inevitable moments. Set yourself high standards and practices to avoid being alone with someone of the opposite sex, as much as possible.

– Accountability, remain honest with yourself and others. Keep the consequences of your actions in front of you.

Lust and desire are natural but surrendering to extracurricular sexapades, while married, can lead to divorce and legal consequences. We just have to learn to measure the consequences against the reward and find out which action creates long term value.

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