Fear, Acceptance, and The Cycle of Life

1. Compliment someone today. How do you feel when you receive a compliment? You may feel a bit embarrassed, or downright proud! But it does feel good, doesn't it? So why don't we offer the same in return and compliment someone each day? Whether it's your partner, your child, co-worker, or a complete stranger, a little kindness goes a long way! Tell your guy or girl how good they look or how good they are at something. Tell your child how proud of them you are. Tell a stranger you like something they're wearing or compliment their hairstyle--if you actually do like it! That's another thing. Compliments MUST be sincere. If not, people will see right through you and an insincere compliment is worse than no compliment at all.

2. When you're down, remember that the only other way is up! Well, you can certainly sit and wallow in the mire, but why not breathe a sigh of relief believing that things are as bad as they can get, and start climbing your way back to the top again? Life is always about ups and downs, there's no way around it since it's the natural cycle of things. But the better you get at bringing yourself up and staying there, the down times will become fewer and not nearly as bad. You'll be able to get right back up again. Oh, that first hill is a doozy! But once you've made it to the top, you will have gained valuable experience and pride which will help you over the next hurdle.

3. Make it a habit to have a stream of consciousness session once a week. You may want to do this on Sunday after the week has ended and a new one is about to begin. Get a tablet that you'll use specifically for this and set aside fifteen minutes. Sit down in a quiet room, put pen to paper, and just write! What about? It doesn't matter. Have faith that you'll write about what you need to. If you have trouble getting started, begin with a single word such as: Why? What? Who? Where? How? All of the answers and guidance we need is right inside of ourselves and available through our guides. You'll be surprised at the things you uncover with this exercise. You may dredge up old wounds, and if so, allow your subconscious to work through it. You could get answers to problems you've been carrying around for awhile. You may even get guidance as to which choice you should pick when faced with indecision. The possibilities are endless and remarkable!

4. When you can accept yourself as you are at the very moment, then you can change. Denying who you are, making excuses, or degrading yourself only serve as barriers that prevent you from healing, learning, and growing. If you need to lose weight, instead of being disgusted with yourself, or ignoring the problem and having another donut (That used to be my way to deal with things!) take stock of where you're at right now. Accept that this is the body you have at this moment. I can almost guarantee you'll feel a lot of resistance come up. Maybe tears, frustration, and anger too. This body has served you well. It didn't give up or give out. You may not feel good very often, but your body is still carrying you around. Now, do it a favor, start thanking it by exercising and eating foods that will help you to create energy, aid in weight loss, and build strength and endurance. One teeny, tiny positive thing you can do today for yourself will add up over the course of days, weeks, months, and years. But, there's no way possible to make any changes--not with your weight, your love life, your finances, or health--until you accept things as they are. Stop fighting and allow healing to take place. When you accept things for what they are in the here and now, you will gain more strength in changing them.

5. Fear can be your friend. It's true! Fear can offer the energy we need to finally get something done. Whether it's fear of speaking in public, making the first move with someone you've had your eye on, taking a class, or switching jobs, turn the negative feeling of fear into a positive energy source that will help propel you forward. The key here, at least in my experience, is to keep blinders on at all times. Stay focused straight ahead and don't allow your mind to wander back into the fear trap. Feel that energy in you that only has a label (in this case, fear) if you put one on it. Allow the energy to move you forward and just do what you must, need, or desire to do. Make fear your friend!

Thank you for joining me,

Dr. Kelly Psychic Counselor