For women, a fear of commitment could come from just having a bad marriage or relationship. Sometimes, deep down there can be deeper issues, like a male role model in their lives, such as a father, uncle, older or younger brother, in which some females may have had issues with trust-wise. Childhood emotional traumas and scars can be the worst to endure through life, leaving huge issues of mistrust to the point where any forms of significant trust may be at a premium.

A woman may also have seen her mother and father fight for many years, in a non-stop fusilade of rhetorical, hurting and deeply insensitive remarks, and even violence. Such very tragic events are all too commonplace and could leave very deep scars to the point where she may mistrust all prospective romantic partners so much that she may have great difficulty in committing to a relationship, always fearing and trusting commitments and relationships at large. This can easily extend to women in relationships, deeply affecting them and their partner and their relationships, even if they are in a sound and viable relationship in the first place.

The woman may also have been in an a physically, psychologically and emotionaly abusive relationship with a partner and may be very wary of getting into a new commitment. This is very commonplace in North American society. Even if she was not abused by a partner, her partner may have cheated on her with another person, even possibly even robbing her of monies, possessions and self-respect, causing her grave mistrust with future partners and other situations. Emotional and psychological scars can last a lifetime, and lead to an almost overwhelming fear of commitment for some women.

If she is in a relationship with a man, even if it is long term, the relationship can so easily be strained by the fear of commitment and all of the extending, choking tendrils of nightmarish thoughts, mistrust, anxiety, lack of belief, etc. The tendrils all cloaked in a nightmarish reality of hell-like darkness, punctuated by the screams of fear emanating from the dark recesses of the woman's mind. Both females and males can become imprisoned in a hell of their own through their darkest and sometimes deepest fears, coming out in different ways and forms.

For women, fear of commitment may also stem from a sometimes misguided anger and stereotypical belief that all males are rutting pigs or other barnyard animals when it comes to sexuality and relationships. Even in the early 21st century, such beliefs still pervade the mindset, and it causes problems for commitment. In an era when such very old beliefs about males (and females) still dominating parts of the belief structure, getting past them (for both genders) can ultimately lower the level of mistrust and greatly helps in trust and commitment issues

A female may also have just come out of a relationship, and needs time to herself to regroup, reorganize, restructure and take stock of her own life before getting into a new romantic situation. She may choose to play the field before taking the next step towards a commitment. A woman may just need the time to be alone, as she continues to sort things out in her mind, before embarking on something new and definitive. She may also still have unresolved feelings for him, whether they be good or bad, therefore taking the time to come to grips with these and other issues before the woman takes a new journey on the road of love, life and living.

Through time and learning to trust again, the fear of commitment usually disappears. But issues of trust is something that has to be dealt with. A degree of counselling and therapy can help, allowing a woman to bring these issues out in the open, effectively dealing with it. Usually talking about it helps a woman to come to terms with it, allowing her to move on with her life, in promising new relationships and a much better life for herself. But the fear of commitment remains a huge issue for both sexes, never quite going away, as we are just fragile human beings, with emotions that can take a huge toll on both genders, especially in commitment.

In a world of incredible societal growth and evolution, the old issues like commitment can still be front and center in many relationships. We have grown so much of our infancy as human beings, but are still driven by basic, primal fears. Fears that have haunted humanity since the beginning, now manifesting in different ways and means, but still part and parcel of an earlier time. But through understanding these issues can come a better understanding of ourselves, be us male or female, our interactions not only with mates, but people and everything that goes on inbetween.