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Fifty Things I Learned in 2008 (A lot of it from other Hubbers)
I’m pretty sure we’ve all had a roller-coaster year, with some unexpected twists and turns, highs and lows, even a few of us experiencing some derailments. You'd have to live under a rock to not think something was different about 2008. I’ve long ago given up on New Year’s Resolutions, but I do take time to reflect upon the past year.
There’s tons of stuff I didn’t know last year at this time, that I know now. I find it’s fun keep a list of the fifty lessons I learned each year. Today, I was thinking about, how many of those revelations (not all of them) came from the half year I‘ve spent on hub pages, and that it might be fun to share my list:
My Top Five Lessons of 2008 (Not necessarily in order of importance)
- At the top of my list, is learning the hard way, that just because you don’t have a lump, doesn’t mean you don’t already have invasive breast cancer. Expanding that life-altering tidbit of knowledge, there’s a whole lot about having breast cancer that you don’t hear about. Personally, I’m very grateful to be alive, not going through chemo, and not missing that boob, near as much as I thought I would. Ladies don’t skip your mammograms!
- I’m never going to get my one remaining nipple pierced. Actually, I always knew that, but after having ten nipple piercings in a row, in a nuclear medicine test to find where my lymph nodes ran off to, all over the course of three hours -- I feel very qualified to point out that it really hurts, to any young person with crazy ambitions of self-decoration. Just in case you need a second opinion, I've linked a few hubs for your convenience.
- Your life can change in an instant. I had a successful business, one that I worked so hard to build. It was derailed with one phone call from my doctor when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. While, this too falls into the category of things I already knew -- It was a good swift punch in the belly of making life priorities real. As much as it hurts, was probably a good thing. Failure stinks, but it's not the end of the world, if there are things to be learned from it.
- Never buy a house without checking out the seller (a future hub). This lesson goes hand-in-hand with never selling your house, without having already closed on the new one.
- Life goes on, in the mist of all the problems, life as it always has, continues with and without you. My 2008 reminder came in March, when my second granddaughter was born in Hong Kong. I couldn't be there for her birth, but I'm awfully glad she's here. Her birth was the best part of 2008 for me.
Lessons About The Animal Kingdom
- Scientists have finally confirmed what I learned as a child, that animals are a lot more emotionally complex than we humans are willing to admit.
- Like fellow hubber, Aya Katz, my grandmother raised a chimpanzee for a number of years. Unlike Aya, her efforts were not as noble or scientific, just misguidedly humane, because she couldn't bear for him to live under the conditions she first found him in. I've learned a lot this past year from reading about Bow, and other news regarding chimpanzees and how they learn.
- Having a bear run at us at top speed this year, I've made it my business to know that if the bear is close to you unexpectedly, and you cannot bypass it or return the way you came -- wait for the bear to go in another direction.
- Coyotes can swim. I witnessed this in both Costa Rica and Panama, proving once again no matter how much you think you know, there's always something you don't know.
- You are never too old to put old phobias to rest. I still hate spiders, but thanks to the Bard of Ely -- I'm getting better at looking at them in a new light.
Identifying Poisonous Spiders
Lessons From the Techie World
- The Internet is making me smarter every day. I'm saving this bit o'knowledge for the next time my husband complains that I spend too much time on the computer, instead of watching television with him. I don't watch much TV, as it makes me sleepy, and I'd rather read or do something, anything.
- YouTube and other such videos, get the most traffic soon after they are posted. Half of them get the majority of their views in the first two weeks. I'm thinking "Fifteen Minutes of Fame" translates to "Fourteen Days of Fame" if you can tell a story in pictures and play your favorite music to it?
- Nobody has exactly spelled this out for me, but judging from the number of hubs that have to do with Google -- Google knows everything. Apparently, if you can't google it, it is you that has a big problem.
- Sometimes you need to update your old skills, such as speed reading. Growing up in southern California, speed reading was required curriculum. Today, you need to speed read RSS style.
- Keep up and learn to speak the technovations language of the generations younger than you, if you are writing hubs. Otherwise you'll be left in the dust with the rest of the boomer generation, scratching your head when youngsters make text messaging chat acronyms, and leave emoticons in their comments and conversations.
Read It Later Button
Lessons About Health
- With a metal plate and six screws holding my left leg together for the last twelve years, I've had a lot of time to contemplate why it's important to be as mobile as possible. So, when I read in our local paper, that there is a high rate of people who have had knee and joint replacements having to go back for a re-do -- I'm going to be a whole lot more careful about not rolling down any more hills (another future hub).
- Some things make my list of things I learned again and again, and they apply to all years. That truism applies to the subject of melanoma. When I wrote a hub about the boy who took me to the prom, I learned a few new things about a subject I thought I knew well. One of the facts, is that wearing flip-flops gives you a much greater risk of getting this disease, on the tops of your feet. Even more alarming, only half of those who develop it, survive. Don't give up your flip-flops, but also don't forget to put sunscreen on the tops of your feet everyday!
- Stress kills us one brain cell at a time. That's just my opinion, but scientists discovering that even pre-natal stress changes the brain, really makes you think.
- I learned about lot of modern day pain medicine, when they ask you how bad it hurts on a scale of one to ten, always go for the higher number. This only applies immediately after surgery, once you are on the mend, always practice common sense and go for the real ways to manage pain.
- No matter how addicted you are to your computer, the Internet, and hubbing -- you must practice good health first.
Life Lessons
- Science has now said, women bosses with female employees cause stress. Male supervisors equal less stress in your life (well, maybe sometimes, I know I've had a few exceptions). Still, this is another thing I knew at a gut and experience level, but now there is scientific proof -- plus anyone who reads pgrundy's many fine hubs on the topic, can get the unvarnished scoop.
- Here is a lesson I didn’t get the first time around raising five kids through their teens, but get now with my granddaughter in the house. Kids aren’t awed when you try to converse like a pre-teen or teen. By the time you comprehend their jargon, it’s no longer cool. Besides it’s a lot like understanding English and pretending you don’t -- you can learn a lot from those who are dumb enough to think you don‘t have a clue what they are talking about, if you stick to your first language.
- Other hubbers can confirm your suspicions and help you reclaim your sanity. I was becoming paranoid about the banking industry, thinking "these things only seem to happen to me," then along comes Is Your Money Safe in a Bank?
- Don't use your debit card to pay for airline fares or other international travel.
- I've always seen the "cup of life" half full, but now I know it's also important to occasionally "empty the cup" and wash it out.
Small Lessons That Might Come In Handy
- Just today, I learned that you can use a banana peel to shine your shoes.
- I used to work for a private detective who ran a sideline business in the nasty world of repos. I know where repo cars used to go, but I never dreamed it was farther than south of the border, until I read, about repossessed automobiles are showing up in Russia.
- I understand that I am a visual learner, I found it fascinating to learn visually What $315 billion looks like.
- Everything has a use, like who knew recycled propane tanks could be made into lamps? Apparently, Patty English did, and it tickles me to have learned something that my husband didn't know.
- I learned a little from reading one hub -- Speaking Spanish - 7 Words Everyone Ought to Know and Use with Caution -- Growing up near the border of Mexico, this information comes too late for the playground. I'm supposedly fluent in Spanish. However, it did give me a laugh in finally understanding what that girl was calling me in Spanish. I was odd when I smiled and invited her to sit with me at lunch. It's always good to fill in your educational gaps, no matter how late.
- Not taking notes when you are researching a subject is a recipe for failure. Moreover, useless notes are just that -- useless. Reviewing note taking techniques seemed redundant, but even old ladies can learn how to be more efficient.
- Never take an eleven year old American girl to Italy where there are a lot of naked statues, unless you plan on explaining basic male anatomy early.
- Never pre-judge the latest hot book or movie, people younger and less educated than you, are raving about. Times change, and there's a lot to be learned about staying current. Stephenie Meyers is probably laughing all the way to the bank.
- The mystery is solved! My grandmother always called vanilla the "poor woman's hootch." I now know why thanks to Pam Roberson.
Recycled Propane Tank Music
Hubpage Lessons I Think I've Learned
As someone who leans on the nerdy side, always observing trends and numbers, with a market research analyst's background, some of the hubbing lessons, I've learned in 2008 are:
- To have a fan, you must first be a loyal fan of others. It's sort of like, to have a friend, you must first be a friend. This is just my rule, but it seems to work for me in building a fan base. If I am your fan, I look at every hub you publish. If the topic is interesting (remember that is subjective to my interests and nothing personal), I will always read it and give it a thumbs up. If it is extraordinary, or I have something relevant to say, I will comment.
- I see a direct relationship between the time of day a hub is published, and it's success in attracting traffic and comments.
- I see a direct relationship between the day of the week a hub is published, and it's success in attracting traffic and comments.
- I believe hubs that are published on holidays do not fare as well initially in terms of traffic and comments.
- Regardless of trends, a good hub or great one, will eventually get discovered if it's an evergreen topic, or an unusual topic.
- Learning how and why I needed to take compliments gracefully was a skill that I somehow lacked until this, my fifty-ninth year (I’m not sure why). I’ve figured out that a compliment is a gift. It matters not, that you concur with the compliment giver. It’s not about you, it’s about them, and how they cared enough to think of you, and share their thoughts in an encouraging way. That’s why each and every hub page comment, gets a “thank you" from me.”
- While many will say that a hub should be short, my marketing research does not match that. The Internet is filled with far too much "teaser blogging." Yes, everyone is busy. Yes, everyone has shortened attention spans. However, when you want to know about something, you don't want to have to look fifty places to get some basic information. First page Hub rankings on Google seem to match this theory of mine.
- Hubs are like making homemade wine or bread -- they need time to rise (or mature), preferably before you put them on the table for everyone to devour.
- Always write a hub that captivates immediate attention in the first paragraph. If you can't do that in your opening, you should probably just save yourself some carpel tunnel.
- Pay strict attention to how you title your hub, it is important to your Google ranking and can come back to haunt you if you choose unwisely.
- Research your online pen name before you sign up under it, if you are using one. You don't want one that is also the same name, as some Asian porn star.
- Persistence pays, as with anything there is a learning curve.
- Give people substance each time, and more than they expect every time.
- Your hubscore reflects your participation in the community of hubbers.
- There is intelligent life out there, just read many of the better hubbers.
Robert Fulghum once wrote a book about, "All I really need to know, I learned in kindergarten." I now have discovered in 2008, that "all I didn't know that I need to learn, is found on the Internet, and sometimes largely thanks to hubpages." Thanks to all of you for making 2008 an enriching year and an entertaining year!
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Fifty Things I Learned in 2008 in the News
- Learning Disabilities Support Center opens computer roomYourNabe.com1 second ago
For the first time in its five-year history, Learning Disabilities Support Center of New York (LDSCNY) has found a permanent home: a new computer room at the Glebe Avenue Senior Center.
- Polk Life and Learning Country Store Offers Something for AllThe Fort Meade Leader1 second ago
From a silent auction to a chicken dinner, and baked goods to crafts, Polk Life and Learning Center’s annual Christmas Country Store offers something for just about everyone.
- Community Learning Center offers a variety of programs for residentsAustin Daily Herald1 second ago
Education. Interaction. Discussion. These are a few things that Jess Renchin said she gets out of bringing her 2-year-old son to family classes at the Community Learning Center (CLC).
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Comments -- I'd Love to Hear Your Best Lesson in 2008
My best lesson in 08, is that I was on a sinking boat of a company, and I didn't bail as early as I could've which would have led to an initially better financial situation, I rode it out, gained a ton of respect, and landed into a situation that appears to be good for both my construction career and gives me more time to write. It was risky financially to do that but in the end its going to be well worth it.
I enjoyed your tips on hubbing and reflections on '08!
Thanks for the life lessons. I learned in 2008 that I can no longer make a full time income from standup comedy, I HAVE to dive into other areas.
Nice wake up call to yourself:) Happy New Year!
Reading this hub made me feel humble. It is so interesting I actually slowed down to read it. You are right about RSS speed reading. LOL Thank you so much, very enjoyable. Happy New Year!
I so want to know this answer
-I see a direct relationship between the time of day a hub is published, and it's success in attracting traffic and comments.
But either way some really cool things in here and I am glad to be a Hubber
Jerilee,
I would also like the answer as to what time of day is best to publish a hub. This was such a great hub. You touched on so many topics of interest.
NOW I know why you needed to sell your farm and seek better medical care! I hope that your cancer becomes just a distant memory!
Wishing you, your family and your friends a much better year ahead! I think that many of us were ready to say goodbye to 2008.
I don't have a concentration span that I can boast of. Normally, I tend to read short articles where I don't have to spend more than 5-7 min but I must say despite the length of your write up, I read each & every word of it. You know exactly how to keep a reader glued to your hub. Great info....especially the 'mamogram' and the 'hub lessons'. Thx
Thanks Aya! Better to be slow and thorough than quick. Even the lessons I think I learned this year are subject to re-thinking.
Thanks goldentoad! Without some risk, very little gain. I've found that everything, good or bad, always happens for a reason. Part of the fun of life is looking back and seeing the big picture you can't possibly see when it's happening to you.
Thanks rockinjoe! Well, I think we all need a lot more laughter.
Thanks Netters!
Thanks TKIMWRSVC! In a global Internet world, time zones play a rolling tide factor in the number of people on a website during certain given times of the day. During the hours that there are less people on hubpages, I see a trend in a newly published hub maybe missing it's mark (in terms of attention), as it gets buried later in higher traffic. Doesn't matter if you have a really great hub, which will rise to the top in it's own due time. Of course, this is just my own opinion.
Thanks anjalichugh! Some other hubbers that I enjoy, often write hubs that I have to read either off line, or re-read. I have low vision and wear tri-focals and have a very short attention span.
I learned a GREAT DEAL from reading your hub, thanks for writing it!
Thanks Alberto Trevino!
Someone above talked about slowing down to read this- which I did. I've become an internet skimmer which is not always wise. Since I actually read your hub- I feel much wiser heading into 2009. Thanks!
Thanks Reynolds_Writing! I skim sometimes too much myself, but have learned to slow down whenever I come across something good, like your hub http://hubpages.com/hub/A-Personal-Experience-With
I'm much wiser in 2009 for having read it.
Thanks for sharing with us the things you have learned in 2008, it is a new year for continued growth and learning.
I look forward to learning some new things in 2009.
Thanks Research Analyst! It should be an interesting year.
fascinating, thank you!
What an interesting hub! I wonder if I could list even half as many things...thanks Jerilee!
I'm so inspired by your experiences, Jerilee. In particular, the wisdom you've gained and shared regarding HP and staying current. We may be old dogs (not to be confused with old FEMALE dogs) but we can -- and should -- learn new Internet tricks. Here's to keeping our minds both sharp and open in 2009. And I also wish you a complete recovery from your cancer. MM
Thanks LondonGirl and Feline Prophet!
Thanks Mighty Mom! I will settle for nothing less than complete recovery.
You are, without a doubt, an intelligent lady. With all of the political upheaval in '08, you neglected this subject entirely---but maybe in the political world it was just business as usual; nothing new to learn. LOL
Good read
Thanks kawheeta! Having been a lobbyist on Capitol Hill and formerly living in DC for a number of years, I've just choosen to abstain from what seems hopeless. Pick your battles, local ones can be solved, others are left for younger more idealist souls.
Jerilee thank you so much for the Hub very true, and insightful,we could all learn a thing or two from your Hub, stay strong.
Wow this is surely one of the best hubs ever that could summarize the insigths of a whole year. A full year brings in so many opportunities to work on and make the most of it; im glad you did. Mine was a mixed bag gud and bad. But alls well that ends well, I hope this year brings in more good luck for you.
God bless and a happy new year
Thanks njdiamonds and Greatlife for the compliments. Best to both of you!
Thanks for sharing with us Jerilee. I enjoyed your hub tips in this piece too. I think my life lesson of 2008 was if you put forth negative energy.. that's waht you get in return. I am going to try my best to put forth positive energy to all of those around me...
Great hub, Jerrilee. THanks. I'm taking up drawing again as a result of this hub. And a TV program I'm half way through about The Arrowsmith School. Do you know it? It's a school where kids do nothing but brain exercises -- to increase their brain capacity, and to do regular school work when they reintegrate. Fascinating, all this neuroplasticity stuff.
Off to draw. Thanks!
Thanks Ms Chievous! You are so right about negative energy -- it's just a big waste of time and energy.
Thanks Bruce Elkin! I'm touched if I inspired you. I'm no artist, but I've used my own drawings in hubs and found it useful (such as http://hubpages.com/hub/Edible-Tropical-Plant-Food ) -- I found it soothing, relaxing, and it helped me put my thoughts together as I wrote the hub.
I haven't heard of the Arrowsmith School, but I'll check it out -- thanks for the tip
Wonderful food for thought.
Thanks tho1! Your hub http://hubpages.com/hub/Do-Not-and-Never-Warnings- gave me some food for thought too.
Wow you learned a lot. I feel like such a slacker now - haha. I'm sure I learned plenty but remembering it...now that's a different story!
Well, so much for the hub I was going to write about *my* insights on 2008! It wouldn't be even a tenth as good as this one! Have you considered expanding it into a book?
Thanks jeff tomlinson! It's easy when you jot them down as you figure them out and save them for those "senior moments."
Thanks JamaGenee! No, actually I wasn't even initially planning on writing the hub and did it on the spur of the moment, thinking gee it's appropriate to at least mention last year as we move on.
Hi Jerilee, wow, I love reading all the things you have learned the past year. I will surely come back to read the links you have posted here. :-) Here's to more things to learn this year! Way to go! :-)
Great hub with good points to ponder...
Jerilee - Thanks for sharing your insights and personal experiences with us. I hope to take something from all of your points and apply it to my life some how, some way.
I'm a newbie here at HubPages but I've learned so much already and have been in touch with some great people too. I wish you all the best in '09 and know you'll be cancer free for a long time to come!
Cheers to good things to come!
Robyn :)
Thanks ripplemaker, Bradd88, and Robyn S!
Hallo Jerilee,
This is one great hub to read not just for personal consumption but to share with others.
It is an articulate job with deep meaning and higher personal evaluation of life and its mysteries from all ramifications.
I learnt much from your experiences.
Thanks
Thanks for the hub Jerilee. Sets you thinking.
Thanks babarushe and Kulsum Mehmood for your compliments!
thanks and happy new year
Thanks jobsmasher!
Yep, one rollercoaster ride for sure! Well done.
Yes it sure is... a rollercoaster ride with no end... Thumbs up.
Thanks Dona Rosa and needful things! Hope everyone keeps their seat belts on and hands up in the air.
Thanks for sharing the knowledge very interesting.
Wow, this is such a great list and a wonderful alternative to boring resolutions.
Thanks Mr Nice and smichael308!
This is a great hub. I can only imagine some of the things I am going to learn about in 2009!
Thanks tonks21!
This is a great hub Jerilee. Thanks.
Thanks Journey'!
Jerilee
Very good hub! Insightful, entertaining, thoughtful and cleverly written.
Thanks einron!
I also slowed down to read the entirety of this hub. I can relate a little to 2008 being a different year, it had the biggest ups and downs in my life also. I've actually been getting MRIs for liver cancer since last year, while on the positive side im engaged. Jerilee, thank you for this hub and your are in my thoughts and prayers
Thanks roastedpinebark! You are in my prayers also. May 2009 be a good health year for all of us.
Good use of the pictures.
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Aya Katz says:
11 months ago
Jerilee, thanks for sharing these lessons. Some I already knew about, but most are new, and many will need further thought for me to process.
Thanks also for the mention!
As for what I learned in 2008, I think it will take some time before I fully realize what that may be. It seems to me that it can take me up to ten years before I process a life lesson. I'm a slow thinker, but thorough!