So, when you are finally on the road to divorce, or when you and your other half finally break up for the last time.. it hits you hard. People spend countless hours pouring over old emails, texts, and photos. It's understandable, but if you can learn to rationalize the situation until you've had the time to heal it can make the recovery process more than bearable.

When you go to that place where you start to remember all you had with them, go for it, look at old pictures, sift through the texts and emails. After 10-15 minutes of this, delete the memorabilia and focus on something you've been meaning to accomplish. Once someone loses something they tend to immortalize it making the memories greater than the actual events. Try remembering the reasons you aren't together and why it simply wouldn't work. You both deserve a relationship that contributes positively to your life and future, even if it's with other people. Straighten up your own life and learn acceptance of the things that you cannot/should not change. Breakups don't have to be about loss and coping, they can instead be about freedom and self-improvement.