It is absolutely true that when online dating sites first started they were populated mostly by perverts, sexual predators, weirdoes, the social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for these three reasons: (1) Time (2) Money and (3) It works.

Let’s face it…we are busy guys and gals. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial means to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, overall, saving much time and money. We use the internet every day to save ourselves time and money for a lot of other things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications. Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well?

You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied. Some offer free services and specials. Pay attention to particular services offered on free sites remember if it's free for you it's free for the members you are looking at as well.

Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience for men and women of all ages. Maintaining your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety rules.

You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange man or woman that you meet in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know the person before you give out any information that could make it possible for others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work, or live. It may be safe to tell them what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.

Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.


When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and if at all possible during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for someone to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.


Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed mostly to women but men need to be concerned as well. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages. So men need to stay on guard, just as much as women.


Men, should be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship, they are more than likely looking for financial help.


A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

In conclusion I can say that love on the internet is possible. I am living proof of that. It did take time and I learned quite a bit. I met some people that were looking for all the wrong reasons and those that were most genuine. I learned a lot about myself as well. I am happy in my relationship that started online. We have been together almost five years now.

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