When your looking for the write person it can get really hard, because,

Everyone is different, like i say in most of my hubs.

sometimes the person is either to thick, to thin, to tall, to short, to funny, too serious, a big loser, a big jerk. It never ends.

But that's why i am here to help you and give you tips on how to get through a first date and so on.

OK first off when you are going on a first date with some one you have to choose the place and time?

Where would you go on a first date, that's your decision to make, and make sure its no later than 9:00 because after that is the crazy hours, you'll know what it means if you dare go on a date after 9:00, oh and lets not forget the date of when the date takes place. (Oh i crack my self up, Date and Date), try a weekend because its less convenient, but has more people, and that can help you if your trying to get away from the person. This may sound bad but sneak away, that works a lot.

OK second off what would you wear.

Hm-mm. Lets stick with a dressy skirt and a casual shirt maybe a tank-top, just keep it casual, and don't wear pants or sneakers. if your a guy wear some dressy shoes some jeans if you may, a nice button up shirt, and a jacket. Remember its a first date not a business meeting.

Third the person your going on the date with. Don't worry about the person your going on the date with just worry if he/she is handsome or so-so and, how they greet you and treat you. Kiss on the cheek or a hand shake?

OK here's my favorite part.

The 5 step method or the 5 sense method

Step 1: See. check out the way he/she looks at you. If they are staring in the wrong place their mind is in the wrong place. If their looking in your eyes, then try to ask them what they are thinking, they might even compliment you, if your not good at taking compliments, then just nod and smile, or say thank you. And last if they are looking away then they are either (A) shy or (B) just doesn't want to look at you. Still, ask whats wrong, try no to be too concerned. Now put it all together. If the person does either one of these then you your self have to keep and eye on them.

Tip:If they take bathroom breaks too often they must have a bladder problem, or must be too nervous, so be easy on them, try not to make too much eye contact.

Step 2: Hear. Listen to them hear what they have to say but don't let them talk to much. If they get into a subject you don't want to talk about don't answer back because changing the subject won't work at all. If they are starting to get on your nerves and you don't want to listen to them speak. Try to learn about their background and past, or get quiet for a while or, CHECK PLEASE. End it.

Tip: If you hear things you don't want to hear like say if the person likes making a lot of noise or likes banging, be the man or be the bigger person, ask them nicely to stop say & quot;Could you stop please that's really annoying. If they keep on, CHECK PLEASE. That's just to show that the person you might get into relationship with has no respect for you.

Step 3: Taste. We'll get to that part. FIRST KISS. SEE THE BOTTOM FOR THAT PART.

No tip.

Step 4: Smell. What does your partner smell like and most of all what do YOU smell like. Check a few times for the smell of you breath, because what if your aiming for a kiss, and check your perspiration because some people sweat a lot , and maybe the lucky guy/gal wants to hug/cuddle you but doesn't want to bathe in your sweat, most of all the other person. check out the way they smell, the type of Cologne/perfume their wearing . It could prove that they are either cheap or expensive, or maybe charming.

Tip: If you think your sweating to much try the paper towel trick, put some under your arm, and if your shirt is wet use the dryer in the restroom, and bring some baby powder, because baby powder is also known for absorption. If it doesn't work, be honest with your date tell them the truth, Hey! you might even have something in common.

Step 5: Feel. When you are going to touch the person, how will they feel, will they be soft, rough, or hard. Try making in for the touch, see what you can feel. If their hands are soft. They are gentle and giving and sure knows how to take care of them self. If their hands are rough, they do alot of hard work, but watch out for the stress level and attitude. And if their hands are hard, they might as well be built or really strong you can obviously see that.

Tip: If you want to hug someone or cuddle with them and want to see how they feel. Wait till the beginning of the date when you meet them to hug them or at the end, cause it won't be necessary to do it during, unless your cuddling.

Getting to know each other.

When you want to get to know the person as well as them getting to know you, and you want to see what you have in common, bring up something called. QUESTIONS, of course. If the person does not want to talk about it don't push it, just move on, and when you can, try again. Make jokes, which could be planned at home, and do fun things like 20 questions, or other fun table games. Please! don't be too childish when it comes to the games as well as your date, make sure that you stop, when its time to stop. Ask whats your favorite things to do? And what is your goal in life? And so on. You know the rest

Do's and Don't's on a date.

Do. feel free to touch the person at times but don't over do it.

Don't. bring up questions about babies, marriage, or homes unless the person wants to talk about it, but other than that don't even bother to ask how many kids they want.

Do. feel free to bring up child hood and all the good times even a few bad times.

Don't. get mean or disrespectful by talk about others (Gossip) or telling a joke your not suppose to, cause you don't know if the person your on the date with knows that person you talking about.

Do. be open minded. Tell you feelings, don't hold a lot in, tell how you feel about the person, just be polite on your judgement. either you think the person is really tall, short, big, or thin. If they are offended, turn it into a joke, and tell how others that you know are just like them.

After you have been through drama on your date, and has had food, and everything. Its time to go home, unless he/she has something else planned like say a movie or a walk on the beach. If the person has nothing else planned please skip this. So your still on the date and you go some where special, this might be the right time for a kiss, if you know a little about the person.

Moving in on the kiss.

When your moving in on your first kiss eiter it is private, or public, make sure that you move somewhere more quiet and private, because if people look at you when your kiss, it could be a little awkward.

Once you are somewhere, try talking a little more with the person, cause that's what sets the mood. Gently touch the persons arm but don't moving in to quick, do it slowly and caress them. If the person lets you, if they don't then flirt with them and tell the how handsome/pretty they are, make them blush. Continue talking about whatever. Don't do the kiss now, wait a while, so you can set the person's mine. When they ask you a question stop, answer it and then stop to look at them for while and make sure they look at you. Move in slowly towards them with head tilted, and lips normal, cause you don't want to mess it up by puckering out or sticking out your tongue, make sure they aren't doing it either, cause that's just plane nasty. Once you and their lips are touching, put your hands around their waist, or both their cheeks, but first count to 12 before you do so. If you both are comfortable with the way that you are, try a few several kisses that you know cause you might help them learn new things, just don't show them the nasty kiss, if that's the only thing you can do, stick to the regular lip to lip trick. DONE

Tip: If you just can't seem to get the person to kiss you then wait till the end of-the date, or just be honest and ask them if they want to kiss... And if they can't kiss, just at-least be generous and teach them. It will be like experimenting, or if the date went well and you didn't get lucky wait for the second date.

OK now your date ended and your wondering how do you do it, how do you know if someone wants to kiss you, well i'll tell you.

THERES not much to it, besides watch their, posture, and their expression. if they seem serious, loosen them up. (Don't get them drunk) Try a back rub or something, get into conversation, make each other comfortable, and try not to be to excited, be calm and relax. If your date seems to dig you and watches you every move or seems to be on you all the time, then that's when you know, cause they won't wear a t-shirt that says kiss me. Its like a guessing game to them, its like charades.(how ever you spell that)

Tip giving your phone number to the person after date is a good way to keep in contact with them if you want them to keep in contact with you.

If you want more info, contact me at, malaikamtchll@yahoo.com or write me on hub...

Good Luck...