Flirting with Girls
70Flirting with Girls
Knowing how to flirt with girls is THE KEY to getting the girl of your dreams. Ever wondered how ugly guys date drop dead gorgeous women, well the first step is flirting. Being flirtatious with girls is actually not a natural instinct for most men. The natural instinct is for a fear reaction to kick in when you see a girl you fancy.
This is natural, after all if you can't have her you'll feel down. If she blows you off when you approach her then you're destroyed (often in front of all you friends). The fear reaction unfortunately is most men's undoing. They either don't even approach the beautiful woman, or if they do they're so nervous that no-one inthey're right mind would want to date them, or they put in a machismo attitude to cover up - which is also a massive turn off.
So, what to do?
Flirting with girls - Tip 1
Body language is so important whenever you're flirting. Research has shown that maintaining eye contact for about 70% of the time and alternating to looking at her mouth and the surroundings the other 30% of the time gives the most positive messages directly to her subconcious. Do not stare at her continuously!
Flirting with girls - Tip 2
Very gently - Tease her
This can be a tricky area - but certainly a worthwhile one! Don't tease her about ANYTHING right away. You have to set a grounding where it is clear that you like her, and respect her. Once you're sure that this is the case then you could purposefully mis-interpret something she said; give 'ham-acting' looks of shock; etc.
You must follow this up with being very reassuring, smiling a lot, and gently shaking your head. Also you may quickly take a half-step backwards then forwards towards her. All these actions tell her sub-concious that you were only kidding.
This technique speaks directly to her sub-concious. After the brief 'downer' of your teasing she gets a big 'up' when it rapidly becomes clear you were not serious.
Flirting with girls - Tip 3
Smile - A LOT
Whenever a man approaches a girl she will be apprehensive. Smiling does a lot to disarm her and make her feel safe. It will also help her feel relaxed. Everyone smiles more readily when the person they're chatting to smiles as well.
She will laugh more easily if you're smiling. Women wil much more readily keep talking to (and agree to see again) someone who makes them laugh.
Flirting with girls - Tip 4
After you've teased her. Immediately start to ask her about herself in a sincere way. After all you do want ot get to know her. She will find this change of tack reassuring, and it will help to cement a bond between you.
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hey if they stare like alot alot is that flirting
you have sime pretty good advice i think i might use it on my secert crush
I tried your suggestions flirting with a girl in my class and she TOTALLY went for it!!
Thanks!!!
I like one of my friends, she is interested in someone else. I've been flirting and everything, and her to. but how do I get her to actually go out with me?
same here...i LOVE this girl seriously, talking to her all the time, but she likes another guy, how i can BE different and BETTER thn him? Thanks.
I keep going back to your picture to look again,,,,
good stuff.
i have to use those on my next date
"Ever wondered how ugly guys can be seen dating drop dead gorgeous women" No, I know how "ugly" guys have gorgeous women. The have a big...
Do these thechniques work on married women too? Has somone tried that yet? ...anyone?
i just went out with this other "HIPPIE" girl who always lied, should i still date her?
Well it depends upon the fact if the women loves her husband....
Well, I don't know Bobby, try asking your mother if you are a product of flirting techniques...
I like this girl right we play basketball togehter and stuff like that but I feal like if we had a Relationship it would just be about the sports stuff u know dosent seem like theres anything else to talk about and I mean its not that I dont want a Relationship I like her alot and When I do ask her Im concearned about the way that I do it belive me guys if u do it the wrong way it wont work I know from Personal Experience I just wana know should i date her and try to have an open relationship i duno maybe i should give it a try my friends are saying that the sport stuff would be a great start I dont know what I will do Hopeless Jesse
Jesse, first of all you need to take a class on spelling and punctuation. Secondly, a relationship with two partners who enjoy sports would be fun; just think of what you could talk about after sex. "Wow, that was great hun! So who are the Lakers playing tonight?" haha
Im gonna try these there is a few girls i might try it on at my school.
mtn how old are you, first off and if your in school don't you think you should do what you're there for?
Guys -- this advice is actually really insightful, and it would work with me. However, teasing can be optional -- great if you like to be funny and light-hearted, but if you have to force it, don't worry about it. The best thing is the focus on getting to know the woman and seeing her as a person -- that's what she wants most. Every girl wants to be beautiful, but this is a reminder that beauty can make a lot of good guys not even try due to fear. Maybe that's why many attractive friends of mine get with men who treat them badly -- because you didn't try! Please try to meet good-looking women, men, because they are people, too, and they probably don't see themselves as well as you see them.
"Love without Friendship, is a Mansion Built on a Foundation of Sand", I once read that somewhere and it made me realize that guys like you are in the best positions. The friend zone isn't so bad, if played correctly. All you need to have is a "break out", where you put her in a position where she notices you in a different way. So because you've established a friendship, all it takes is a tweaking of words to conjure different emotion and thoughts about you. The best way for her to notice you, is if you change you appearance. Not drastically (or maybe), but look different-better then you usually would one day. When she notice how nice you look, change you regular reaction, to something more flirtatious. Not to strong though, a simple "Wow, I got you to look, hmm " (laugh off). Changing your colonge, 3 sprays- 2 underneath the shirt, one on top (believe it or not, a half spray behind the ears works great). Women have a far keener sense of smell then men. Try this, and see how that work
Ok, I know a really great woman. Great personality, awesome body, beautiful smile and just all around gorgeous. I didn't ask her out when I first met her and when I finally did, she was seeing someone else. This was about 8 months ago when I asked. I ran into her today at work and she looked really happy to see me, and imediately fixed my tie and brushed lindt off my shirt. Then she said she wants to have lunch with me next week a few times. All my feelings that were gone came rushing back after this 5 min period. She's all I could think about all day. Now, she told me her boyfriend proposed to her last night but she didn't answer yet. I get the feeling she's trying to explore other options but I don't know. All I know is that I want her and I'm sorry but I don't really give a damn about the other guy. I know she is the perfect woman for me. What do you guys think I should do?
I have used those techniques myself without even realizing it....they do work but its all about getting yourself in the right frame of mind....I think the real key is to simply practice....flirt with girls you kinda like maybe think are simply cute then move on to the important one when you got yer MOJO in full effect. The girl you flirted with will feel good becuase you made her feel like someone speacial and the gril your really after will be see you at your best flirting. GOD im LOnely...WTF am I doing reading this on a friday night....im going out!!!
Jeff, in response to your well written question, go for it. A man who goes after what he wants with sincerity is VERY hard to resist. Don't afraid to be YOURSELF with CONFIDENCE. Nothing is more attractive than that. Every piece of advice on flirtation is based on that. I for one would go for the guy who put all his eggs in one basket and made a bid for it without being wimpy and tentative. Otherwise how does she know you're serious?!
Don't be scared. Go for it. What have you got to lose?! No regrets man! I'm not saying don't acknowledge that she may turn you down and you may feel rejected, but what's that to always wishing you had gone all out and made a bid for her?!
btw Jeff...I just thought of something in addition. Let this perfect woman for you know point by point after you tell her she's perfect for you, why you think you two are perfect for each other and would make each other very happy. A woman needs security and committment and you're more likely to gain her confidence if you let her know you've been thinking through why your friendship with her is going to go the distance...as well as why you find her totally hot of course.
The other day I was hanging out at the Local Ymca just shooting basketball like I always do when there was this really really ''' hot chick that came in to the gym so I was shooting with my Dad and she was beside us So when he walked out I started talking to her and Everything went well But the only difficultiy in starting a Relationship is that When I asked her how old she is She said 22 and I am 18 I thought that she was to old for me but I really liked her so I asked my Dad and he said son age is just a number well I don't really think that what do you guys think about age and what do u think I should do hope the spellings better this time didnt pay attention last time just typed
Jesse: First off you just met the girl, don't worry about a "relationship" too much up front or she will realize you are 18 years old and lose interest ... but if she's interested, get to know her, ask her out, whatever, you know the drill. She might be older than you, but she's not *old,* heck, 22-year-old women are deliciously young for some of us nowadays, lol! Just go with the flow and don't get all snarky, tell her you like her by flirting with her and asking her out if you're getting a good vibe.
Also, she is old enough to buy liquor for y'alls date, don't overdo it but I get the feeling you could use some help, since you're asking the internet for love advice ...
hi..... your tips are really very exiciting.... it gives always a positive responce
Heres my deal.....Got a nice girl and we dated once but broke up cause of conflicting scheduales. This happened....3 times or so, idk. Everytime we want to get together we've only gone for a shorter period. I finally saw a light at the end of the tunnel and figured out some legistics on the whole scheduale issue. So I been flirting for bought a week and when i ask her out I get stopped dead by a "Friend Barrier".....HOW in Gods green earth do I get around that damn thing?
hey i think im a really good flirt and i know how to treat a girl and im not one of these guys who are looking for a one night stand, but my probelem is my wieght, im not that fat, but im not that thin either, to be exact im 176lbs and im 174cm tall, but i never get my chance with girls, i guess i lack self confidence, what do u think i should do?
thats very good advice and thats true is well dont smile too much then the girl will no that yur just doing it to get her or cheating her but if yur not doing that smile only sometimes.
I regularly go out with friends to party. For the past couple of months, i have been into this pick up thing...trying to hook up girls in a club. Watched a lot of tutorials and read a lot of articles about the art of picking up and flirting, believe me, nothing works!! i was able to formulate my own style by practice. See, in reality, all these signals that people talk about occur in less than 1 second or something. You will hardly notice them unless your actually dating someone and spend more than 5 minutes with them. In my opinion, just remember the general signs. Say hi and intro yourself...a girl that has interest with you will give you a positive aura (you should know, its natural instinct). If she stays at that area with you for more than 5minutes, she's interested because she can always walk away (to the washroom or something just to get away from you). Those eye contact, giggle, and touching stuff are inaccurate in my opinion. Girls are very aware of their manners and they will try to be nice to you as much as possible. In other words, there's no formula in flirting!! practice is the key to this game.
Thanks for sharing the ideas..Its really a pertinent info..Thanks for the great Hub!Such a cool and nice to glance up this site
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theres a girl that i see around school and im a junior shes a freshman and i cant seem to get her off my mind? is there any tips on approaching her or is she to young.
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