Four Levels of Love
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Four Levels of Love
Four Levels of Love
There are four levels of love. Each one has a place in the order of things plus each one ties in with the rest.
The highest is the spiritual love that flows naturally from within. It is the deepest love anyone can experience. And it brings with it a gentle peace that is full of power. The more one is open to experience it- the more powerful it becomes and the more uplifting it is to ones being. Its power creates magic and big faces (smiles) with ease and grace. It flows through the soul in man. (Some call the super conscious mind) It gives the will power strength and the heart peace. It is eternal. JUST IS!
The next level is the emotional love. Emotional love is not unlike spiritual however the peace and strength it offers is shallow. It brings happiness but no true magic. It gives joy but without grace and without ecstasy. Harmony yes, but spontaneous MAGIC? NO. This level of love is of the subconscious mind and creates memories with this level of love re-experienced or felt upon recall. This love lasts for a lifetime.
The third level of love is the mental. It is of the will power. It is duty bound and difficult. To feel true happiness at this level of love is actually impossible because it is from the head… not the heart. Therefore not attached to the spirit in man. There can be contentment with this level of love since the will in man can find satisfaction in fulfilling duties. Satisfaction can bring peace to the mind but not the heart. This level of love is of the conscious mind. Memories are satisfying but never really felt from the heart as true joy… only satisfaction. From the Will, this love lasts as long as ones memory.
The lowest level of love is naturally the physical. Sex “without” a higher felt love is the lowest form of love, filled only with physical pleasure. Sex in the rain or snow or anywhere physically stimulating adds strength or power to the physical sensations. Invigorating? YES! Memorable? YES! Yet it is of the physical senses and is short lived after orgasm. Since this love is felt in the BODY ONLY, it’s lasting power ends shortly after orgasm.
Naturally- sex with the addition of any of the HIGHER levels of Love is closer to magic, but true magical love does not require sex, “although it is a most divinely beautiful addition.” MOST DIVINE!
In a true marriage of the universe or God, the emotional love two people experience is raised to the spiritual level…. Eternally. (Magic will normally happen before sex happens or at least at the same time.)
Magic just happens, because it JUST IS. The TWO SOULS UNITE AS ONE.
It is as eternal as heaven itself. It brings a piece of heaven to earth.
Two people married at this level of love radiate a light together that touches all those in tune with their vibrations at all levels of love and life. Life will be hard, yet they wont be each other’s problem. Truly this couple is “In Love”.
Added to the above it this truth. “Every person has the capacity to love at different levels.” It is easy to explain this by an example of comparing ones capacity to love with a light bulb.
Love compared to a Light Bulb
1- Spiritual For the 300 “plus” watt bulbs
2- Emotional For the 100 – 300 watt bulbs
3- Mental For the 60 – 100 watt bulbs
4- Physical For the 25 – 60 watt bulbs
When a couple unite, and they are not compatible with the amount of Love they can give it is most ugly.
Typically this is the scenario
One party is capable of 300 watt plus easily. They (due to their giving nature) are attracted to a 25 watt person. They for some reason believe they will be able to show them a higher way to live. The 25 watt person is attracted to the 300 watt person, not because they are in love with the person; rather they are attracted to a love they do not know.
In this situation, the 300-watt person gives and gives… always giving second chances for mistakes made and constant forgiveness for lack of respect and appreciation shown. Eventually the 300-watt person burns out and has nothing more to give. They become disillusioned and pessimistic of finding a magical relationship… after all they say to themselves “ I have given so much why can’t they change and see”. Then they say… “Maybe I have simply not tried hard enough.”
Wrong!!!
Sadly they often go from one abusive relationship to another. That is if they do find the courage to leave the first one.
The 25-watt person, who is in love with LOVE, becomes nothing but a parasite to the 300-watt person and an endless cycle of unhappiness is sure to continue for the both of them.
Compare this to the light bulbs.
Place a 300 watt bulb in a room… add a 25 watt bulb and there will be NO DIFFERENCE…. But add a 300 watt with the 300 watt and you double the light given.
Add a 300- watt bulb to a 25-watt bulb in a room, and the 25 watt- bulb will be drowned out. The light from the 25 watt- bulb will be lost. But again add a 25 with a 25 and you will again double the light.
By this example it is easy to see why it is BEST for BOTH people to find another similar in their capacity to love.
Plus, if you are in a relationship that is not balanced in the capacity to love, simply END this type of relationship before one party burns. The other wont grow in this situation anyway so quit trying. “When the levels of love are so vastly different.” It will NEVER work, even if values and goals are the some! The capacity to love has to also be the same or it is not worth the effort.
Funny thing is, two 25- watt people together, by doubling their light will BOTH experience magic. Why? Because they will “both” experience the brighter (double) love.
In conclusion, find another with the capacity to love at the same degree as you can. Respect and appreciation will be a two way street ON THE SAME LEVEL… thus neither party will “burn out”
True magic can happen, be it at a 25- watt level or a 300-watt level, when both people are THEIR TOGETHER. True magic will produce Peace, Joy, Laugher, and all aspects of the magical experience of truly being IN LOVE.
Now- in the spirit of humor, I’m single at the present and I’m willing to start a relationship at the 4th level and we’ll work our way up. LOL
© Written by Neil Sperling
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LOL - Nick I've been very fortunate and have experienced love to the highest level.... the magic continues even though the relationship did not. That is what is so amazing about a Love the "just Is"
Thanks so much for your comment and your Adland encouraging post!
Neil, what an awesome article!! I love the light bulb analogy!! My life has been so blessed! There has been a lot of love in it, and at all levels, but mostly at the highest. What a blessing!
Judy my friend and partner - nice to see you drop by Hub Pages!
Thanks
My dear friend Neil,
This is a wonderful work on love and I am not suprised knowing you're a great writer anytime. The comparative analysis with the bulb truely floats me through my experience so far and really help in identifying which level of love I have passed through yet! Quite soothing!
Thanks for sharing and very best wishes.
Enjoyed your hub. Thanks for becoming my fan. I have also signed up as a fan of yours.
moonlake - I appreciate you dropping by and taking time to comment! Also - thanks for your friendship!
Hi. I really enjoyed this hub. Especially like the part, 'in love with love'. Are there really people like that? :)
I really enjoyed your hub. Nice analogy!
Beatsme - Glad you liked the hub.... as for your question "are there really people like that?" --- BeatsMe ...LOL
Leanne - Thanks for taking the time to read and post. Appreciated!
wonderful hub and well written.
Hey Neil,Thank you for sharing your wisdom...I love your work!!! , and look forward to the next instalment... I knew you were more than just a pretty face..lol...
Best wishes to you my friend, Avy
Avy - my facebook friend.... I'm so glad you dropped by! - You're more than a pretty lady too! .. Hugs
Dear Neil,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the most important thing that this life has to offer. I'll be looking out for more of your hubs, my friend.
*smiles*
Terence - Thanks for your visit and the time you took to post a comment!
Love Light and Laughter
Neil
Nice hub. Thanx for the nice fan mail. Coming to the levels of love and stages of love esp within a couple. The first stage is Physical where there is immense attraction that binds the couple. And then the next stage is Emotional where compatibility and understanding is there. Then comes the Intellectual where mutually feel stimulation discussing/sharing the joy. The last stage is Spiritual where the love of God binds them together.
These stages are mentioned in Indian Vedic philosophy as Brahmcharya, Grihastha, Vanaprastha and Sanyasa.
Countrywoman - Thanks so much for your comment. I did not know about the Vedic mentioning these. Again I appreciate you dropping in and taking time to post a comment!
Love Light and Laughter
Neil
My wish to you, that you meet a 300 plus light bulb soon.
Warm regards from Belgium,
Steve
1stevedw - Thanks buddie - that is a kind wish!
Love Light and laughter
Neil
Neil,
like many here, I too loved the bulb analogy. Perfectly stated. Thank you for sharing this link at the forum, you do have the understanding of love, pray you are blessed with your suitable soul mate :-)
regards
Pauline
Pauline - Thank you so much!
Love Light and Laughter
Neil
A very nicely composed hub and intriguing topic. I like your analogy and found much here that fits with my perception of love. My problem has been running into another 300 watt bulb. Thanks for an excellent article on something we all LOVE to think about.
A.Jill - thanks for taking the time to comment - much appreciated!
Yes so true - finding a 300 to partner with can be a challange......
Neil
I know I have pulled it out of the archives, but this is a great article!!! My husband and I are 300 watt but it took a divorce and a re-marriage to find that eternal love.:)
AEvans = why thank you so much -- May you and your husband grow together and continue to remain in balance while climbing to 1500 watts... Thanks again
St. Bernard describes the 4 levels of loving as 1) loving others for your own sake, 2) loving God for what he can do for you, 3) loving God for God's sake, 4) loving yourself and others for God's sake.
hubber 2009 i thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my thread -- cool!
Wonderful explained hub for a common human dilemma! Blogging this to 2 of my blogs as readers will enjoy this one, thanks!
Wow Denny - Thanks so much for the blog posting....
I just read a couple of your hubs - I'll be back for more enjoyable reading for sure.
Thanks again
Neil, I like the 4 levels of love. Very interesting. Kind Regards
really great hub...in todays busy life the real meaning of love is lost....people just know about the physical interaction...the way you have explained the thing its really amazing, i loved it.thanx for sharing such a nice thoughts...
Kind regards - I'm pleased you liked it and thanks for taking the time to say so!
britneydavidson - I'm very happy you enjoyed this hub - thanks for taking the time to say so!
Love - Light - Laughter
Neil
really great hub...nice explanation. enjoyed reading it.thanx for sharing.
Wise hub......so true! Thanks! :)
Tom - Thanks for the praise ... Cheers
"One party is capable of 300 watt plus easily. They (due to their giving nature) are attracted to a 25 watt person. They for some reason believe they will be able to show them a higher way to live. The 25 watt person is attracted to the 300 watt person, not because they are in love with the person; rather they are attracted to a love they do not know.
In this situation, the 300-watt person gives and gives… always giving second chances for mistakes made and constant forgiveness for lack of respect and appreciation shown. Eventually the 300-watt person burns out and has nothing more to give. They become disillusioned and pessimistic of finding a magical relationship… after all they say to themselves 'I have given so much why can’t they change and see'. Then they say… 'Maybe I have simply not tried hard enough.'"
I love this article because it gives words to a concept that's been puzzling me for almost a year. At the same time, it makes me a little sad to think that the 25-watt bulb I married may not be capable of change. :(
Still, beautiful concept, and nicely written. Thank you for sharing.
Eldritch Elegy - Keep shining your light - just make sure you don't burn out giving where it is impossible to receive a re-charge.
Thanks for comments -
Love - Light - Laughter
Wow this one heck of a hub, even after so many days of being published it has not lost its beauty. Thanx for sharing a 1000 watts of hub loaded for us. Personally love the depth with which you have explained the intensity of love, for me love is my life and im glad that the bulb seems to explode as there is no bulb that can stand the wattage that both me and my hubby share. lol.. im going to be bulb crazy now.. hahaha
Charanjeet - that is a compliment I accept with gratitude. Much apprciated.
I'm delighted you and your hubby explode with the light!
Neil
Wow Neil this Hub took ages to get to the bottom. I loved it. I loved the comparisons of love to light bulbs. I bet some love is so explosive it would blow up a bulb in a thousand pieces LMAO
Blondepoet - Great to have you drop in.
LOL - and Yes - some love my be explosive, in and out of the bedroom.
Esp in the bedroom as it hits peak level LMAO
Blondepoet....... ESP = Effective Sensory Perception!
Question is - are you willing to develop it? Like a muscle, it can be developed.... but that is a book not just a hub!
I enjoyed this discussion of love, and the many comments were a great read too, thank you!
Easnesthb - Thanks my new friend
"The highest is the spiritual love that flows naturally from within. It is the deepest love anyone can experience. And it brings with it a gentle peace that is full of power. The more one is open to experience it- the more powerful it becomes and the more uplifting it is to ones being."
Well done..just well done. Love is the ultimate renewable resource and giver of power; so long as its wielder doesn't begin to utiilize this gift for their own needs alone.
Lxxy - thanks so much for sharing... not only the comments in this hubs but by writing dome graet hubs yourself.
Thank you Neil, I appreciate it. I do my best to put my highest level of quality in everything I do.
The greatest thing about the 4 Levels of Love is - two people of the same wattage don't have to be in the same room to feel the 'power' of equal illumination. It can climb mountains, travel over land, soar above oceans, and still be felt in all it's intensity from a great distance. Anyone who has experienced this is so very very privileged, but once experienced, anything else is really only what people are prepared to accept or be content/happy with or settle for - and that too can be good in it's own right, as you can't really miss something you've never had. How do I know this? Guess. :)))
Hey Neilson.. Yea well I read this about five years ago when you emailed it to me and thought it was on target then.. these words are true in any year.... Nice to see you got it to a page for many to see. Your friend Joe
One Aussie - " It can climb mountains, travel over land, soar above oceans, and still be felt in all it's intensity from a great distance."
So True - <--0-->
Joe
Has it really been 5 yrs -- Wow
Thanks for being a friend and sharing your support.
Cheers Bro
You have given me new insight in what I need to look for in a person. Comparing the different levels of love to light bulbs makes the concept very easy to understand. LOL, It was like a light bulb went off in my head!
k@ri -- Shine on my friend :-)
WOW! Thanks Neil for sharing, I can remember a time when being a 300 watt having a 25 watt. It just doesn't work, you get tired of giving because they are not putting out anything. I was shining way brighter than he was, I finally figured out it was time to let go and I did. Great article Neil. I'll be waiting for a follow up on you finding your equal.
What to say im suprised from all these comments,
Thanks Gus --- one more comment added by you too :-)
I hope some day we all live in peace and in all of levels love every day
Shine on Gus Ripper
I guess true love always beckons like the eternal flame
Another wonderful, well written analogy Neil - great job! Now, about that spirit of humor: I'm on my way to Ontario in a couple of weeks but wouldn't it make more sense to start at the highest level to make sure the relationship could actually be lighter than 25 watts? LOL
WoW! This is amazing insight of love on such a divine level! Spiritual love sounds delicious to me! LOL
I must say my bulb burns brightly
What about the zero-watt night lightbulb ? or something like that?
nice hub....love is an amazing thing
Nice hub, Neil, this is truly enjoyable. Loved the light bulb comparison - novel and unique. Am bookmarking this.
katyzzz - so true - eternal flame=True Love - Thanks
SEM Pro - hope Ontario was a hoot!!!
Jodi Hoeksel --- yip ... "Delicious" - Thanks for dropping by.
ralwus - Shine on!
nazishnasim - LOL - you know someone like that?
Brenda Scully - amazing to say the least!
Melody Lagrimas - thanks for the bookmark - more importantly thanks for sharing!
Great. Love is always a good topic. I'll probably read it again and again and again. BTW Good luck on your search; oh this was written 13 months ago so I presume you already found somebody. Good luck still and God bless! =)
Interesting and informative Hub...I needed that kind of explanation when I was 13 and having a heavy crush on my next door neighbor ( girl next door, right ? )...anyway, I asked my grandmother " What is love "... She looked at me with those blue Irish eyes and said " Larry, love is something that forms in the head and busts at the ass ". Cracked me up.! Pretty salty answer from someone that had 4 husbands and still had her " flapper " dress from the 20's.... Thanks for the enjoyable Hub...Larry
Charia Samher - Thanks - and no, I am avoiding looking and running till I get my finances in better shape. Silly me eh!!!
maven101 - Very much appreciate your kind words..... now "what is a flapper dress?"
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Read up on the roaring twenties...Things like the Charleston and the Black Bottom ( a couple of crazy dances my grandmother taught me ), bathtub gin ( a home-made brew ), and flappers...a flapper was a woman that smoked, drank like a man, danced all night, and would wear these sleeveless and bangled shifts that had a sparkly belt midriff, with pleated skirt ending with a tasseled or fringed hem, and shockingly ( for that age )ending about knee high...when dancing they were quite spectacular and eye-catching...Funny thing, at 82, my grandmother could still fit into it and would dance for us on St Pats day...Larry
Pretty "lovely" hub.
Seriously though I really enjoyed reading this and the insights you had to offer. Love has saved my life, and from having such important loving experiences I believe I have been able to expand my own lve wattage.
Hey Neil.. Someone above me commented if there are ppl who are in love with love... well, I guess I'm a sappy love chick :) Ya got me here !
Lupo - Glad you enjoyed the hub. Expanding your watts - then you are on the right track.
Love - Light - Laughter
Neil
simplyjo - being in love with love is a good thing as long as you find it within plus from life itself... and not "only" from another.
Shine on my sweet friend! (note - you are sweet, not sappy)
This is a most beautiful article.
Joy at Home - Thanks so much for taking the time to comment.
Love - Light - Laughter
Neil
Very, very interesting. I've never delved that deeply into the subject. Thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work.
This is beautifully written. I was amazed as I saw your comparison to lightbulbs, it is the same comparison I used in my hub speaking the language of unconditional love. Small universe eh? There are 4 levels or steps and how you described each and started at the top and worked your way down...very nice. This may be old news to you, but I appreciate it today!
Very illuminating - OK just had to start with smile :-)
Your article has assisted in 2 300 watt bulbs "re-lighting" after 40 years. "Just Is" goes beyond adult contemporary pairing. There can be that meeting of similiar light - so bright it shines for many years. So true - it has nothing to do with sex. So strong ( As One Aussie phrased it ) it travels for miles and can still be felt. I gave my heart when I was 6 years old and have now discovered the receiver has always kept it for me :-))) There is most definitely a different level of love that is not commonly found... it Just IS!!!!!
fastfreta - Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.
emohealer - Thanks -- and please keep shining. Simple truths are in the air... it is a pleasure breathing with you!
Roxii - :-) Your comments definitely tell me how deep you understand what it is I was saying. And to paraphrase "One Aussie" adds for me a special meaning.... I somehow think you may have connected with what One Aussie means(to me).
Thank you so much for sharing.... I'll see you again I am sure.... no hiding behind a bush now okay!
:-)
Love - Light - Laughter
I have to Agree with Roxii, I was five when she gave me her very big Heart, ive kept it with me to this day,very close, and have just discovered, that love that just is, is the best kind of love, one that will last a lifetime, I Love you Roxii, I allways will
I should add that Roxii not only Gave me her Heart, but on Valentines day Brought me in a real,Very Large Red Paper heart that said "I Love you Steve" the best Valentines day card a Kid could ever ask for!!
Steve - may you have many more happy valentine days
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Love and light bulbs - a great analogy! It suddenly puts love in perspective and makes you analyse the different kinds of love - and the love that one should aspire for. Wonderful, light-up hub!
Shalini - yip - a love to inspire for!!!
Thanks for taking time to read and reply
Hi Neil, thanks for stopping by my little corner of the world on HubPages.
I liked this post.
I would like to share a very interesting story with you.
Shortly, after my divorce, I met a woman while eating pizza one day with my children. At any rate, I soon learned, that she was a Christian.
It wasn't long before we decided to meet one afternoon without our children. I prayed a simple, yet profoundly powerful prayer prior to our meeting. "God, please don't let anything or anyone get in the way of my loving You above all else -- ever. Amen"
That evening after I drove her home. I walked her to her door. She felt compelled to reach out and touch my arm.
She and I immediately thereafter took one step apart from one-another. All she could muster was, "Whoa! Did, you...did you just feel that?" To which I could only reply, "Yeah, what...what...and then I was speechless.
She had to finish my statement and said, "What just happened?"
I know what happened. I know exactly what happened and it has never happened since then or prior to then. (Our spirits touched)
I often wonder what time I have wasted, not placing God first in all things -- ALL THINGS has cost me over the years. Yes, there are the obvious things like the laughter that you so eloquently refer too and a few other things which I should miss more than it seems I do now...
For now, I should pray and beg God, that I might laugh like a child or an elder -- you know that 'deep down belly-laugh' that never takes place in corporate America around the infamous coffee pot.
North America is sick and we need help. Take care sir, and I'll stop by again soon.
*By the way, you might enjoy some of my quotes which I update almost daily ;-) the hub is entitled, "Sweet and Sour."
Tackle this - That was great! Thanks for sharing your story.
Wonderful Hub!! I enjoyed reading this immensely. The light bulb comparison is unique, very visual. love it!! The highest level of love, "Spiritual Love" is what we all strive for I suppose, of course it's the Agape Love in Greek. Wonderfully executed. I'm a fan!!! Peace n' Blessings! ~ K
Yes indeed I loved how you compared the levels with Watts. Very Interesting.
I really enjoyed this Neil! U explained it so simply. Beautiful. And yes 1. is the aim, but in the spirit of humor (single also, well sort of..lol)will settle starting at #4.....lol
Kim Garcia - I'm delighted you are a fan -- it goes both ways!
Shayvonharris - Thank you!
smokenchic - well light me up then - sounds like a date! :-)
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Wow! Great hub the comparison with the light bulb watts excellent.
Nice hub and good comparison with light bulb. Very informative. thanks for sharing.
bakit puro love
Thorough descriptions about four levels of love. Nice hubs!
SunShineSnow - thank you sunshine, but could you melt the snow? LOL I do appreciate your taking time to comment - Thanks
jacobkuttyta- you like the light bulb too - thanks for commenting.
aleijah jo sagun - Merci buckets - Pure love - Just is!
Thank You!
Yangtze - glad you enjoyed my hubs! Also - thank you for commenting.
Love - Light - Laughter
Neil
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Thanks to all of you for comments and your Fanship-Friendship
Love - Light - Laughter
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This is a thoughtful view on LOVE. We need more guys like you talking about the subject some shy away from. Nice!
Thanks Cheeky - I appreciate your comment -- Love you hubs too by they way
Love - Light - Laughter
Great hub...super interesting, thanks!!
unbelievable hub i love it. love all.
Marvelous Neil ,that's a great way to put it man!
An interesting and original analysis!
CVR
I thoroughly enjoyed your hub. The analogy was both original and allowed for vivid visualization. I look forward to many more and am officially your fan. As a single woman and looking, I will be checking wattages and hope to light up the night with "our" light show.
I enjoyed your hub very much. So true. I am currently ghostwriting an ebook on this topic - love. Just learned that you have to be happy with and within yourself in order to achieve any type of love or unconditional love with someone else. To have a successful relationship you have to get over any type of 'fear' you may have that you will be without that person whom you are in love with. It's an interesting topic for sure. I guess that's why I'm not in one --- the 'fear'.
Neil,
I never thought of love quite like this before. Thank you for giving me another perspective on this most redeeming feature of human nature.
I think it's a pretty good concept, but I think love is not usually so easy to categorize. For example, I'm about a 50 watt bulb in terms of pulling my weight around the household--one expression of love--but I'm a 300+ watt bulb in comforting someone who's been hurt--another expression of love. I'm not sure there's a clear total wattage that one person can be said to have.
Great food for thought.
Madison22, Thanks for taking time to comment
hinckles koma, Believable :-)
Waren E, Marvelous of you to drop by
C.V.Rajan , I try to be origonal, LOL
IsabellaRothchild, Single eh! - Where do you live ...LOL Glad you like the hub
Sarra Garrett, Inner Peace and inner confidence - you are on your way!
Sterling Sage.- Another perspective - :-)
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Love may contain many splendors but now I know it is fragmented into four. Thanks
Great Hub, one I think I will come back and read again and again .. . sometimes the light bulb just needs to be turned on more times than we realize!
All insights about love are beautiful. Thanks for sharing! I was wondering though, if someone is truly operating at such a high level (300 wattage), is it even possible for someone else to burn that light out? Wouldn't the higher cancel out the lower? It's like being in a relationship with Jesus. Judas didn't turn Jesus into a traitor. Jesus' love for Judas started the process of turning him into a Saint.
I've read some of your hubs though, and I think that you will probably be finding love soon, seeing that you have alot to offer!
This "Just Is" exceptional. Thanks for placing love in watt value, and hope like you wished AEvans that you find that 300 and rising to 1500 watt love soon. Based on all your experiences you truly deserve it.
I was going to write a hub on this very same thing. It is so true!
Nick Grimshawe says:
16 months ago
Beautifully done Neil. I love the way you make the levels real with the light bulb analogy. I sincerely hope you increase your wattage soon.
Nick