Relationship therapists suggest four steps to strengthen your relationship. The first step is to inventory your relationship. Make a note and you may write the inventoried aspect of your relationship on paper to make it more real and tangible to you. Write down what you like about your partner from the past and in the present. If the relationship is on good terms, you may ask your partner to participate also. If you are thinking about strengthening your relationship, then it is best to write the inventory down in your journal or Microsoft Word if you have become accustomed to composing at the typewriter. Remember the times when the two of you were not tensed and stressed out with each other. What you are essentially doing is reinventing what brought the two of your together. The inventory should be a list of special gifts, special celebrations or the times when it was a joy to be with your mate. Your goal is to recreate the events, attributes and personality traits of the person that you have grown away from or feel that you are growing away from. Read the completed inventory and revisit the past with the present by instituting some of the events and things that made those times with your partner so special and so memorable.

 Practice positive interactions with each other.  You can be the initiator as you are looking to strenghten the relationship.  Choose at least one thing that you can do for your partner that does not include money or sex.  A special service that he has been wanting you to do for some time would be an excellent activity to get you started on strengthening your relationship.  You must want to perform the activity and you must render your service with sincerety.  You do not want to go something for your mate just to get it over with.  An action done out of duress will not strengthen the relationship.  Be consistent to your task of pleasing your partner and you should be pleased that you are doing something positive to strengthen your relationship.  Make sure that your partner notices that you are consistently performing the task and if you do the task out of love, you will be satisfied with what you have done as well as your partner.

 More often than not the relationship may not be strong because of cheating or infidelity on the part of one of the partners.  If you are certain that the act will not be repeated and the culprit is making amends to be a better person, then learn to forgive.  Forgiving is difficult because you feel that you have won the battle but lost the war.  You have to learn not to look at the relationship flaw in a win or lose scenario.  Your goal is to rebuild the relationship because you feel that you are in love with a good person or because you think the person should be forgiven.  A step towards forgiving is a step in the right direction because it is  a step to strengthening your relationship.  You are saving time well spent in a relationship with a person who at one time you though worthy of your affection.  If it looks like the wrongdoing is on a never ending spiral, then you should seek counseling and take the advice of a relationship expert to come to a decision on what to do about the relationship.

 Relationship experts are saying that sex is the bonding of affections and can definitely strengthen your relation.  You should not boycott sex because sexual relations is where the two of you can share in the releasing of tension  avowing  love for each other.  If you have walked away from such a strong bonding activity as sexual relations, then your relationship will be difficult to rebuild.  The old adage says not to go to bed angry.  The modern woman has opted sometimes to go to bed angry but just not without him.  To strengthen your relationship, you do not want to play ball and strike out because the game is no longer being played.  You want to keep sex in the center of your relationship and let your partner know that you are concerned if your sexual activities are being spaced far and in between.  It is difficult to sleep comfortably in the same bed with someone who you are angry with.  Try to resolve your anger issues before bedtime and keep sex alive between the two of you.  Do not use sexual withdrawal on your protest agenda if the issue is centered around another issue.