Gay Guys Are A Girl's Best Friend
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I once worked at a cube farm across from two openly gay hunks named James and Will. The more outgoing and gregarious James was always surrounded by female co-workers at breaks and lunch, causing irritation and befuddlement among straight male employees who never "got" why women would reject them for a "prissy little faggot".
Well, besides being a delicious bit of eye candy, James was a treasure trove of make-up and fashion advice. The Fat Dress Question didn't faze him at all. If you asked "Does this outfit make me look fat?" and he thought it did, he'd come right and say "Honey, hang a wide load flag on the back of that thing!". If you were having a bad day, he was a friendly shoulder to cry on, and on your great days, deliverer of an enthusiastic "Good job!". Talents sorely lacking in straight guys.
When he showed up in drag on Halloween, we nearly laughed ourselves silly watching the straights fall all over themselves trying to get a date with the buxom blonde in a silver ankle-length sheath and 4-inch stilettos. Nobody had the heart to tell them the "hot thing" that had their testosterone in overdrive was a guy. But it was rather humbling the way he glided around the call center in those "Take me now" heels better than any of us women could have.
Once, while we were off the phones for system maintanence, I came across James leafing through a body-builder magazine. All early-naked men of course. He asked what I thought of this one and then that one, and for 20 minutes or so, we admired (or dissed) page after page of nearly-naked men.
James and Will had once been lovers, but now only shared a house and the ownership of a bar frequented by gay men and straight women. Married women...single women...women in committed relationships with straight men...they all loved the place.
And what's not to love? Plenty of good-looking men to flirt with. No shortage of dancing partners. A girl of any age could have a fun-filled evening surrounded by men, but go home to Hubby or Significant Other with a clear conscience. Because a Night Out With The Girls here truly was a night out with the girls. Women could relax and not worry about getting hit on, or worse, be tempted to fall for a really cute guy's line of BS. Nor would they be tempted to hit on a really cute guy. Every male in the place was gay, so why bother?
Still feeling the glow of a really good time and a few drinks, many of these women went home and gave their spouses or boyfriends an unexpected "treat". Stay-at-home moms sang while wiping little noses and bottoms the next day. A win-win for all.
Sure, few women would pass up diamonds, but gay men are really a girl's best friend!
Apologies...
I've been informed the link to Marilyn Monroe singing "Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend" no longer works. Sorry.
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Yes! I totally agree! Some of the most fun days of my life were spent in the company of gay guy friends. Many moons ago I worked as a hairdresser, and all the other stylists were gay men. What fun we had! :D Nice job Jama! :)
The mystery of inter-gender discourse is part of its charm. Safety and risk are both enticing.
Interesting article and point of view! Thanks for writing this hub.
You are a wise man, goldentoad, to think of "it" as your wife's nutty *girlfriend*, because it sounds like he/she/it would be a pain-in-the-patootie busy-body no matter the gender.
Thanks, Pam! I'll bet you did have a lot of fun surrounded by gay stylists! Sitting across from Will and James night after night was an absolute riot!
And thanks to you too, Tom Rubenoff, for reading it! Glad you liked it!
Personal spaces are personal, no overlapping! Unless... LOL If there ever was a cute hub, this is one! :D
Interesting perspective, Times sure have changed. When I was growing up in Yonkers many moons ago gays were outcasts. Today, people are much more cosmopolitan. Marilyn really looks great. Good hub.
I'd take my gay guy friends over diamonds any day. They talk to me, they listen, they give good counsel, and they affirm. I don't know a diamond that ever did that.
Thumbs up, Jama.
I get a hoot out of them. They are fun and fun to be around, most of them anyway. I have a grandson that's a flaming gay, a cousin I can't stand, and two very good friends(partners) and my wife has a good friend who is one. I, like toad, just tolerate him. He is a good interior designer though. Hey, you are what you are.
Thanx for the hub.
Hi Cris A! Wouldn't have thought of this as "cute", but guess it is - a cute fluff piece I wrote just to make you smile. ;)
Yes, Bill - times *have* changed! For the better, I think. I remember when gays (or "queers" as they were called then) were outcasts. Such a pity, because they really can't change who they are. But back then, nobody *seriously* believed an African-American would ever occupy the Oval Office either. So perhaps we've become more tolerant of those who are "different". Hope so.
Sally's Trove, every girl should have at least one gay friend. How lucky you are to have several! As for your comment on diamonds, maybe that's why they're called "ice". ;)
C.C., gays are just like anybody else in that there's always a wingnut in the bunch who's a real horse's patootie. But as you said, you are what you are. I've met straight interior designers I wouldn't hire to re-do an outhouse, so your wife's friend is a keeper if he's talented in that department!
I think gay guys are a girls best friend because they understand woman.Fun to be around and most are metro sexual love the things that woman like and are sensitive to woman especially emotions.
Take for instance Queer Eye For The Straight Guy Show I loved the show Carson,Jai ,Tom ,Kyan and Ted they had fashion sense and style plus personality and a sense oif humor.
To me I don't care if a person is gay or straight if you can find a good friend in another person it is a friendship to treasure and hold dear.
solacemoon, thanks for reminding me of "Queer Eye"!. I used to watch it faithfully until I dropped cable. LOVED it! Miss those guys! But you're right, gay guys *do* understand women because they appreciate the same things and have much the same feelings. They're also some of the most loyal friends one can ever have.
Hi Jama! Glad I found this jewel of a hub, it's a fun and sweet read, I chuckled at the reality of some gay men being able to carry high heels off better than any women, that's so true! :-) The MM video was a nice plus :-)
Thanks, Elena! It was fun to write! So glad you enjoyed it, and the MM video too!
Pure fun! Have you ever met Some Like it Scott here on Hubpages? You would love him.
Thanks, Guru-C! I just checked out somelikeitscott's Valentine Day Tips For Straight Guys and am still ROTFL! He's hysterical! Thanks for the tip!
JamaGenee - the feeling is mutal. This is the start of a wonderful friendship...I can feel it! Some Like It Scott
Scott - must have something to do with where we shop for hats! ;))))
Jama - I totally agree! Some of my best friends are gays, The great thing is, they'll give you all the latest gossip (how do they know just about everything that goes on?), most of them are great dancers, they'll open doors for you, their shoulder's always there for you to cry on - and they'll tell you when you're looking good - what's not to like? The best part - the men in your life aren't jealous!! Great hub!
Shalini, it amazes me too how they know *all* the latest gossip! Thanks for the thumbs up!
A veritably provocative chronicle indeed. It is particularly fascinating to read the endearing responses to these "marginalized" members of society. This piece induces provocation from a psycho-social vantage point. It brings to fore the pitfalls of intransigent fixity to masculinity. I have always speculated that members of this group exist to mediate between the sexes; teaching a vital lesson to those among us who are self-professed as incontrovertibly square. Whether this article is real, imagined or invented for provocation, it's evocative.
Why, thank you, Godrey. I think you're right that gays exist to mediate between the sexes. Never thought of it quite like that. Thanks for bringing that aspect to our attention!
very good article
Thanks, Lgali. I tried to keep it a fun read.
Some of my closest friends are Gay and Lesbian and I could not love them more as they are always the life of the party and will tell you if your hair looks bad, or you need to correct the outfit you wear, I love them and I love this article.:)
Ummm...Jama....I'm gay. You want to get a cup of coffee or something? Maybe a pajama party?
That is great..........
great article ;) !
Thanks, writer83. Glad you liked it!
One of my dearest friends is gay and I LOVE to spend time with he and his friends. You are spot on: they tell it like it IS, honey! They know how to have fun and vacation like there is no tomorrow. I can't keep up with his busy life. He's like a brother to me; we grew up on the same block and he is one of God's greatest creations.
Dink, how truly lucky you are to have one of God's greatest creations in your life! They DO tell it like it is, for sure! Part of the reason they're so fun to be around!
I think this might be my all time (so far at least) favourite Hub!!
When I was house sitting in France I found a copy of the book "Why Gay Guys are a Girls Best Friend" by Jeff Fessler tucked away in a bedroom drawer.Reading it in one sitting because I was enjoying it far too much to put it down, I laughed myself silly in between hearty Amens. My boyfriend, on the other hand, wasn't impressed at all!
JamaGenee, I really enjoy reading your hubs!
cfangerow, thanks for the kudos! I'm enjoying your hubs too! I've never heard of Jeff Fessler's book but I'll definitely have to find it now! Not surprised your bf wasn't impressed!
If you haven't read it already, another delightful book that's hard to put down is "Milking the Moon", the biography of Eugene Walter. He was a boy - 'boy' being the operative word here - from Mobile, Alabama whom author Katherine Clark claims was 'the most famous man nobody ever heard of'. The book never comes right out and says he's gay, but who else gives *the best* parties and fashion advice? ;}
My first gay male friend was my ex boyfriend. He came out after we broke up but after that, we were best friends! We were closer than when we were dating. I really like tihs blog
FF, glad you liked the hub and that you and your ex-bf became friends! Stll friends??
lol - another great hub Jama. I think you really hit the nail on the head with the bar description. It is comfortable hanging out with gay guys because you know that they have no ulterior motives behind their friendship and niceness.
Unlike your girl-friends they are not competing for your guys, and unlike your guy-friends they are not trying to get you naked :)
jamagenee. Gays guys are your best friends! So what? I will be your friend and I am not one. I am not happy with gays from my childhood pedophile man. I cannot judge the people's behaviour. It is not my duty and I am not judge. Only what is bothering me is they politically attack the family. They are instrument of ideas of Illuminates.
Aya, gays don't compete for your guy and don't try to get you naked. What's not to like! ;D
Vladimir, pedophiles aren't gay or straight, just very sick men who prey on children for the power trip. But I'm sorry you had such an unfortunate childhood. As for gays "politically attacking the family", I can't agree with that. They simply don't want the same type of "family" the straight world considers "correct" or "normal". Truth be known, most traditional marriages aren't "wedded bliss" either and the families formed from them are far from "perfect".
How did I miss this? LOL I just happened to work on a gay client today. He was so sweet.
May, I don't know. You usually don't miss *anything*! ;D
Its tough to read everyones wonderful work of writing when one has less than 2 hours to enjoy catching up all the time?! Some times I have to sneak away to get it done.
Jama - I adore this!
Quentin Crisp is my dearest gay friend - and I never met him except through his writing and movies. What a dear, wonderful, witty gentleman. Clifton Webb is another whom I've always adored. And all the "sissy boys" from the 1930s movies - brilliant, funny, delightfully refreshing.
In real life in this town the few gay men I run across seem morose - hell, I'm morose here myself so I can just imagine how this stultifying atmosphere affects them. One day a very gay (in both senses of the word) man came into a shop where I was waiting in line and I wanted to throw my arms around him and never let him go. He was like an unexpected jolt of electricity!
Oh, I know *that* feeling, Mindfiled! When a gay gay guy enters my orbit, I just want to scoop 'em up and hang on for dear life! They're literally a breath of fresh air in an otherwise blahhhh day.
Excellent hub......I really love this post......Thanks.
goldentoad says:
11 months ago
Living in Cali, every girl I went out with has a gay best friend, my wife has her best friend, he's an "it", as he constantly decides whether he wants to be a man or a woman, or a little boy, or a little girl, anyways, he looks like Michael Jackson and they are always gossiping about the guys. He's more annoying to me than anything else as he tries to give me relationship advice and constantly tells me I have to work on my sensitivity. In the end though, he does me a great favor as I don't have to listen to her yap about nothing.